Second Marriage - Page 6

I know this girl how has married 3 times!!

ok so the first marriage..she had a son..and divorced
2 marriage..son again and divorced!!!

and then her mom took her to pakistan (she lived in the united states and married the first to guys in the states) and got her married again!! and now THANKFULLY she's still with the guy..and had a daughter from the marriage..and still living in pakistan

but anywayz..she got left her sons..and i don't even think that guy who she's married to now even knows she has 2 sons from previous marriages.

Its terrible..if i ever was in the position (god forbid) I would not leave my kids..i would stay with them and if that makes it hard for me to re-marry..so be it! kids should always always always come first!! 😳

Putting on me family lawyer hat....

If during marriage H and W were bringing up kids together, then upon break up, whatever their own differences, it is really important to understand that on divorce, you only stop being H and W.

By having had kids together you have forever joined yourself as parents.

Parent hat is different from H or W hat.

As a parent you have to work jointly wherever possible to come to an arrangement that helps the kids get used to both not being there at the same time or place.

As for 2nd wives/husbands/girlfrinds/boyfriends we are human beings and human nature is to want to be around people-not live in isolation. We werent meant to live life alone.

So who says having a second wife/husband/boyfriend/girlfriend makes you any less of a loving parent?

Sorry kids - your Mum/Dad is an individual in their own right. They have feelings and aspirations too.

Kids cant help it - they are naturally selfish and parents who do nothing for themself and sacrifice themselves for their kids perpetuate this selfishness so their kids only see "My Mum" or "My Dad" Whilst married even, I bet most kids dont see "Mum is Dad;s wife" or "Dad is Mum's husband"

Sacrificing yourself for your kids dont pay in the long run - hence the story of that poor unfortunate soul who is alone now after her kids grown up.

That is the the key. Kids do grow up - and should have their own life. By which tiome the sacrificing parent has nothing.

The moral of the story in my experience??

Love yourself first, then everyone else, in whatever order suits you.

Do not sacrifice yourself - or you wont survive.

Kids LOVE strong parents - not whether they are together or not.

Peace

😡 M 😡