Second Marriage

In a situation of divorce, usually children go with mother. If this mother got a chance to get married only if she has to let her children go.

Then , what she should do? Let children go , after all their father is also responsible for them so why only she sacrifice her life , while father already got a new woman.

Or she need to sacrifice because she is a mother and mothers are basically responisble for their children😊

Good topic dewey 😊 My take .....

Hold your hormones til those kids are 18 and adults 😳 . No need to bring anyone home or shack up with some one. Once kids are 18 than mother can go marry. Kids go thru enough when parents are divorced. Their life turns upside down too. She has to sacrifice her life for her kids.

Fathers can still play role of a father with his visiting rights. Men always can get 2nd or 3rd woman. Remember he is not MOTHER.

This is what Dr. Laura says 😃 I mostly agree to this.

Originally posted by: Morning_Dew

In a situation of divorce, usually children go with mother. If this mother got a chance to get married only if she has to let her children go.

Then , what she should do? Let children go , after all their father is also responsible for them so why only she sacrifice her life , while father already got a new woman.

Or she need to sacrifice because she is a mother and mothers are basically responisble for their children😊

yepp .. you have got that right Dewey..😊 Leave the child out from the equality fight , besides the father pays for child support anyway so he is not exactly going scot-free.

couple of Indian women I know (divorced andor widowed) would never consider 2nd marriage because the feel their first and only obligation is to their under age children.

Originally posted by: Dabulls23

Good topic dewey 😊 My take .....

Hold your hormones til those kids are 18 and adults 😳 . No need to bring anyone home or shack up with some one. Once kids are 18 than mother can go marry. Kids go thru enough when parents are divorced. Their life turns upside down too. She has to sacrifice her life for her kids.

Fathers can still play role of a father with his visiting rights. Men always can get 2nd or 3rd woman. Remember he is not MOTHER.

This is what Dr. Laura says 😃 I mostly agree to this.

n' so do I😛............Mothers can single-handedly raise their kids😛.......u know,mentally bohat strong hoti hai na females😳............warna most of the males😡.......dusri aurat ka sahara chahiye hota hai unko

Originally posted by: Morning_Dew

In a situation of divorce, usually children go with mother. If this mother got a chance to get married only if she has to let her children go.

Then , what she should do? Let children go , after all their father is also responsible for them so why only she sacrifice her life , while father already got a new woman.

Or she need to sacrifice because she is a mother and mothers are basically responisble for their children😊

I think the real question is should you even marry someone who's asking you to choose between him and your kids? You shouldn't have to choose and any guy that asks you to place him before your kids is so not worth the effort. If he truly loves you, he ought to accept you as you are, kids, baggage and all. So I hardly think it's a sacrifice...you're better off without someone like that, and IMO, dumping him and accepting responsibility for the kids isnt just the right choice, it's the only choice, she should make. Men will come and go, and perhaps someday she'll find someone else who is willing to love both her and her children and accept them unconditionally.

And for the record, I hardly think this is a competition, where if the divorced man gets a new woman, she ought to go shopping for a new man too. Love happens at its own pace, and if he's already found someone else, it doesnt mean she needs to desperately find someone else too. She needs to get over the divorce at her own pace, and if she's meant to find someone else, she will...if it happens, great...otherwise, there's nothing wrong with her raising the kids on her own. We women are much more courageous than we really believe we are.

Originally posted by: Morning_Dew

In a situation of divorce, usually children go with mother. If this mother got a chance to get married only if she has to let her children go.

Then , what she should do? Let children go , after all their father is also responsible for them so why only she sacrifice her life , while father already got a new woman.

Or she need to sacrifice because she is a mother and mothers are basically responisble for their children😊

Normally one parent has the custody while the other has visitation rights. If a mother has the custody of the child then she is responsible for the child living with her. I am not sure why she has to give up her child if she has to marry. If she can take a step to re-marry in this modern times, then surely she can talk about her kids to her new man and come to a decision together. He may also be a dad bringing his kids with him.

Originally posted by: Morning_Dew

In a situation of divorce, usually children go with mother. If this mother got a chance to get married only if she has to let her children go.

Then , what she should do? Let children go , after all their father is also responsible for them so why only she sacrifice her life , while father already got a new woman.

Or she need to sacrifice because she is a mother and mothers are basically responisble for their children😊

Haila Morning_Dewji aap hamesha iitnay dukhi dhaageh kyun kholti rehti hain

Personally I feel there is a social taboo in our society towards women with children getting married after their divorce specially within our indian community. I mean even I myself would NEVER accept my mom getting married again although I seem to have very little problems with my dads girlfriend😕 Maybe it depends on who the children stay with after their parent's divorce. For example if the children stay with their mother after the divorce then they will def. feel betrayed if their mother went out and got married again while they might not have too many problems with the dad mostly because he is already out of the picture.

Originally posted by: Believe

Why people not Learn lessons from First marriage!!!...
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