Are lines of morality blurred nowadays in relationships? - Page 8

CHEAT DAY 💔

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Originally posted by: Newbird

Single > marriage > open marriage > EMA/ Cheating.

I'm not able to connect with the concept of marriage/open marriage/EMA at all. I'm only able to connect with the concept of being single😆

I have seen all the scenarios around me. One of my best friends is a young divorcee as she divorced her husband for cheating. He indulged in EMA with his ex GF and was going often to other city to meet his ex GF after marriage. My friend divorced him 6 months after marriage.

And I have seen a couple in my apartment indulged in open marriage😆

Live-in is the best alternative I believe.

Originally posted by: rolopolo

Live-in is the best alternative I believe.

I'm too traditional for live-in and I'm too modern for marriage😆

Originally posted by: Newbird

I'm too traditional for live-in and I'm too modern for marriage😆

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Originally posted by: BirdieNumNum

dont you remember what happened to Lady Macbeth? She kept washing her hands after she'd done the deed. You really don't want to be washing so often... with drought conditions in so many places😛😆

I dont like wearing gloves😔 give me an alternative

Originally posted by: Newbird

I'm too traditional for live-in and I'm too modern for marriage😆

Your best bet is to stay single and just mingle😆

Originally posted by: la_Reine

Your best bet is to stay single and just mingle😆

On my mom's insistence I tried to mingle in arranged setting but it didn't lead to marriage as I have commitment phobia. Once I realised that I have commitment phobia I stopped mingling with guys in arranged setting cuz why should I waste my time and their time when I know it doesn't lead to marriage.

Also I just don't understand the concept of these arranged marriages at all. I mean how can you love a random stranger. If you don't love how can you imagine yourself living with someone in the same house, same room your whole life. People might say love can happen after marriage. what if it doesn't happen? Marriage needs lot of sacrifices to sustain it through lifetime. How can you sacrifice so much for someone when you don't love them?

Originally posted by: Newbird

On my mom's insistence I tried to mingle in arranged setting but it didn't lead to marriage as I have commitment phobia. Once I realised that I have commitment phobia I stopped mingling with guys in arranged setting cuz why should I waste my time and their time when I know it doesn't lead to marriage.

Also I just don't understand the concept of these arranged marriages at all. I mean how can you love a random stranger. If you don't love how can you imagine yourself living with someone in the same house, same room your whole life. People might say love can happen after marriage. what if it doesn't happen? Marriage needs lot of sacrifices to sustain it through lifetime. How can you sacrifice so much for someone when you don't love them?

It's more about attachments than love. I am myself in an arranged marriage for the last 11.5 years. I didn't knew my husband much before marriage. Both of us were in different towns. Weekends mein phone pe baatein hoti thi. After marriage for the first few months I used to feel awkward in so many things. Dheere dheere bonding hui, attachments hue. Couples at least need a year or two to get emotionally attached to each other in arranged marriages. His family used to pressurize us for baby but both of us decided we won't plan for kids till we understand and adjust with each other completely. There were lot of ups and downs, in fact there are still ups and downs in our marriage but we're able to compromise, communicate, understand each other at least thoda bahut. 😂

Marriage is more about communication, respect, understanding among the spouses. These are the three things that are more important in any kind of marriage.

Originally posted by: Life_Is_Dutiful

It's more about attachments than love. I am myself in an arranged marriage for the last 11.5 years. I didn't knew my husband much before marriage. Both of us were in different towns. Weekends mein phone pe baatein hoti thi. After marriage for the first few months I used to feel awkward in so many things. Dheere dheere bonding hui, attachments hue. Couples at least need a year or two to get emotionally attached to each other in arranged marriages. His family used to pressurize us for baby but both of us decided we won't plan for kids till we understand and adjust with each other completely. There were lot of ups and downs, in fact there are still ups and downs in our marriage but we're able to compromise, communicate, understand each other at least thoda bahut. 😂

Marriage is more about communication, respect, understanding among the spouses. These are the three things that are more important in any kind of marriage.

Thanks for sharing your story. Very few people open up about their married life in real life, so I never understand how marriage/married life works out for them.

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This is where my problem exists in arranged setting. I can't jump into wedding/marriage without knowing the person fully. It would be too scary for me to think that i'm going to commit for someone for life long and what if the life partner turn out to be not compatible with me or not right for me. Life partner is the life time commitment, not like you can change whenever you want right.In arranged setting they don't give you much time to know each other. 15 days you talk, then they want engagement next day, then marriage within 2 months of engagement. Gosh this is how mechanical it is now a days when it comes to arranged marriages . How can I let someone put engagement ring on me after talking for just 15 days. I did find it ridiculous. But again I saw few friends married like that, they met, got engaged within a week and got married within 2 months. It doesn't work out for me like that. I take long time to connect with the people.

Most relationships (Married, Not-Married, Arranged or Not-Arranged) will work if one genuinely cares (Health & Well-being) for the other person. Religion, Financial-Status, Caste and Demographics -in -India e.g. North, South, East, ...e.t.c may also affect some of these decisions.

But If they genuinely care for each other, the Love will grow. 💔