Raising kids - Actions have consequences - Page 4

Originally posted by: Krinya

No they are not. Not "all" of them definitely. But that's the point..most of our parents were like this ..majorly bec our mothers took up the role of the housewife ..and I appreciate it ..anupama belongs to that generation not ours...

What they did in anupama is to degrade the house wives so much that it looks like a major burden , not to forget the infidelity and gulping insults day in day out..not every woman's story is hers.

My mom wasn't a helicopter parent but she does made sure her husband and family r well fed..she used to cook for us , still does ..after my brothers marriage i took a lot of pain to convince her to step back and let her dil handle it the way she wants..my bhabhi employed a cook and she doesn't take any interest in house work ..so my mil adjusted her routine instead of forcing bhabhi to follow hers.

As a mother of 2 daughters , I want my daughters to be independent in every way , even learn to do house jobs like cooking cleaning making up their beds etc and they do it ..my friends encourage their sons to do the same.. since children r too much into studying and activities , they don't find much time ..but after schooling as they go foe higher studies away for home , they learn everything automatically ..

Plus , nowdays the girls r totally against the idea of marrying a mammas boy, demand equal roles equal responsibilities before marriage ..

So age old traditions are still valuable to us , and we're adapting to the new changes , it's sad that shows like anupama r degrading our culture and our women .

absolutely trueeee, each and every thing is perfectly written. We are adapting to the new changes but we are also valuing the age old traditions.

Originally posted by: ChirpyKiya10

Its just my observation.

I have got a chance to interact with so many mothers ( as a parent) waiting sometimes for hours during kids' activities or competitions" also worked as a teacher, takes coaching too so interact with parents as teacher also.

First of all, in my circles, most of the mothers are working. kids are independent and well-mannered irrespective of being a boy or a girl. According to their ages, they can do almost all the work from cleaning to cooking.

but I have also seen mothers wiping kids with towels, helping them in getting ready after coming out of pool, feeding kids of age group 11-12 while they are on mobile. kids older than this age group do not know where their water bottles or clothes are. Arranging their almirahs, handing clothes, books in their hands, packing their bags. Most of these women here are from joint family. I feel it's a way of escapism from the responsibilities sometimes, or to show they are busy with their kids or to prove to their husbands that they are better mothers than their mothers or jinhe hum MILs kehte hai😊.. or to prove what.....still not able to figure out.

Even in schools, they don't let them free, like when they are in the green room, they will reach there if they have any problem. Will not go back home even if the house is nearby. They themselves are well educated, even then their kids go to tuition from class 2, and when they come to class 7-8, at least 3-4 tuitions. or in some cases, itna pada degi ki baccho ka interest hi khatam ho jaayega.

lot to say.. about teenagers-- how do they feel.. but will stop here.

Well said.

I’m a mother of 6 yo son living in joint family. I try and teach my son to dress up, make bed, etc but it depends on his mood.. if he’s in good mood then he’ll do it himself or I do it.

Living in joint family, many times we can’t make the child independent as elders don’t like it and think we are shirking our job 😒