Why Sai is not a doormat!!... Part 2 on page 4 - Page 7

Originally posted by: Moor278

Didi will be needing pura bhang ka stock after seeing them together 🤣🤣

yeah she will stoop low to keep them apart. No wonder even fake pregnancy gets justified now

I think DIG should have given more lines for audience to connect with virat...usually if naxallites surrender even for gang leaders they don't give big punishment...they are considered as victims of circumstances....there are leaders who even contested elections and selected as representative to parliament after they have surrendered...

Virat is a biggest example of how to ruin his life by his own hands.....it was his good intentions which saved his career and personal life...if time not favoured him his destiny was jail....its after a track we could get a complete picture....the track is messed up...but vanku is succeeding ...I am able to connect to virat which was not at all possible few days back and coming to hype of the show it began to fall on the day when they uploaded 7 episodes in one go...how tag and forum was silent...

Sai is the only fl I could connect in itv now....she is not dumb or deaf or one who lectures others....the biggest achievement of this track ....Sai can't be manipulated by ashwini....it was sai's decision to be near virat as she loves him which she never realised...ghum is dramatic but not a fantasy to please audience...the non exsistence family pride....a marriage which was continued for a child who never experienced actual happiness until his wife entered...a lady who will never find happiness in her husband as she finds the man she believes to love... love his wife with full of passion...and many more....who lives just because they are alive like samrat,mohit,mansi, karishma,devkit,sonkar....like a ritual...and then come lead characters who wants to establish their names.... academically brillant ones who gets involved in family and professional issues...mess up with each other..who yells,insult ,hurt each other but cares and love each other more than their life..

Virat got that wife which Samrat dreamed for..

Haha you brought it out nicely!

I have seen men and read about men like virat! You have to give him due credit for the person he is! Very few people think selflessly and go to extremes for their word or for what they believe. It is not a normal trait. Virat is made a hero and not samrat or mohit for a reason 😅

however, his idealistic character becomes realistic because he falters at personal level. He can’t balance his lofty ideals with his equations with closed ones. Especially his wife and future daughter. He sacrifices them, tests their patience while goes on to make someothers day! Because it is inherent tendency of any person to take the closest relations for granted. They expect them to understand them. I think that’s the major pain point in Ghum. That there is no proper communication between them. Many marriages fail because of that. He repeats same mistakes because he takes bigger responsibilities with the trust shown by his wife the previous time! 😆 he doesn’t feel the need to explain her his intentions or motivations again. And now imagine being sai who is insecure of him around sruthi and pakhi! She needs only those assertions from him, that prioritization from him. And she doesn’t get that from him time to time.

She is also selfless like him and thinks about others, but she priorities him before anyone else. So she gets confused why he doesn’t do that if he loves her! See the disconnect? This feeling is enough to misunderstand him. He provides her with fertile ground to nurture her fears! Virat’s biggest problem is communication and high expectations from wife. Sai’s biggest problem is her deep rooted insecurity that she is not his first choice and priority. That’s all I think the issue is… Atleast that’s what KD’s synopsis tells me

“rono and emon marry under unusual circumstances and eventually fall in love. But they fail to resolve their marital discord” 👍

Originally posted by: sadiltl

Haha you brought it out nicely!

I have seen men and read about men like virat! You have to give him due credit for the person he is! Very few people think selflessly and go to extremes for their word or for what they believe. It is not a normal trait. Virat is made a hero and not samrat or mohit for a reason 😅

however, his idealistic character becomes realistic because he falters at personal level. He can’t balance his lofty ideals with his equations with closed ones. Especially his wife and future daughter. He sacrifices them, tests their patience while goes on to make someothers day! Because it is inherent tendency of any person to take the closest relations for granted. They expect them to understand them. I think that’s the major pain point in Ghum. That there is no proper communication between them. Many marriages fail because of that. He repeats same mistakes because he takes bigger responsibilities with the trust shown by his wife the previous time! 😆 he doesn’t feel the need to explain her his intentions or motivations again. And now imagine being sai who is insecure of him around sruthi and pakhi! She needs only those assertions from him, that prioritization from him. And she doesn’t get that from him time to time.

She is also selfless like him and thinks about others, but she priorities him before anyone else. So she gets confused why he doesn’t do that if he loves her! See the disconnect? This feeling is enough to misunderstand him. He provides her with fertile ground to nurture her fears! Virat’s biggest problem is communication and high expectations from wife. Sai’s biggest problem is her deep rooted insecurity that she is not his first choice and priority. That’s all I think the issue is… Atleast that’s what KD’s synopsis tells me

“rono and emon marry under unusual circumstances and eventually fall in love. But they fail to resolve their marital discord” 👍

tagging sherry after seeing her new post :)

Her pain isnt over just because he didn't cheat on her physically.

Her pain is from him not confiding in her, from pushing her away and prioritizing another woman over her.

She is relieved because he wasnt really involved with another woman. She knows he has some weird twisted logic for not involving her and shes taking consolation in the fact that his "intentions" were good and driven by him getting emotional. She knows he gets carried away in emotions making promises- she saw it with pp and her own self . But doesn't negate everything that she was put through for all this time. He didn't even reconsider his decisions when things were spiraling out of control. He would rather sign divorce papers than tell her even part of the truth.

right now Sai is prioritizing his hurt and her guilt over what he did to her. But it needs to be addressed.

Originally posted by: Nja91

This i disagree with. She has done nothing embarrassing. She is doing things out of love and guilt. She is in love with a man who as of now is not worthy of all this effort/fight/self deprecation. It'll be ok of he decides to evolve too...but dont see it happening.

That's what exactly makes her a doormat.

That doesn't make her a doormat - its too harsh a word with a negative connotation. she still speaks her mind and does what she believes in. Being emotional, willing to swallow her pride to manao her husband doesn't make her a doormat. Ultimately we know he'll melt but in an AU where he wouldn't, I'm confident Sai would eventually choose her self respect and leave gracefully. Shes done it before, she can do it again. Its all about timing.

Originally posted by: Nja91

That doesn't make her a doormat - its too harsh a word with a negative connotation. she still speaks her mind and does what she believes in. Being emotional, willing to swallow her pride to manao her husband doesn't make her a doormat. Ultimately we know he'll melt but in an AU where he wouldn't, I'm confident Sai would eventually choose her self respect and leave gracefully. Shes done it before, she can do it again. Its all about timing.

Alternative universe isn't reality. I'd have called a male doormat too if he were pinning for a worthless FL. Sai being a doormat is now a general opinion. Y'all may not agree but she's seen as one on stan twitter & I agree with them. They did admire her once but not anymore.

Its fine that you agree with them. But i will never see her as a "doormat" because Ayesha emoted Sai so well that I can always understand why she does what she does. So far her actions are to salvage a difficult situation and avoid any regrets for herself. Everyone has a threshold. She's been willing to go to great lengths and now bend for a man whom she feels indebted to, who has done a lot for her when she had no one else and one whom she is in love with. But thats gonna have a limit. We know because its itv that uss limit ke pehle V will be made to melt. So as things stand, I'm ok with Sai bending as long as V also is redeemed. But if they show V have no reflection, no apology, no introspection then I'll definitely feel like Sai wasted her time on a man like him. Because I love Sai the character, I hope she won't be made to regret her choice to give her marriage a chance.

Originally posted by: mysticriver

Alternative universe isn't reality. I'd have called a male doormat too if he were pinning for a worthless FL. Sai being a doormat is now a general opinion. Y'all may not agree but she's seen as one on stan twitter & I agree with them. They did admire her once but not anymore.

Mystic, completely my opinion here. I could be wrong. If we agree pakhi is a doormat which she is in my opinion, then by contrast sai can’t be one 😃! Fighting for what is right ( here her husband) up to a point sincerely without trespassing his comfort zone is considered will power or determination. Sai was willing to give up and start from 0 many times. She has resources but was emotionally attached so it was difficult for her! And if virat had an affair she would have never gotten back to him. Just because he was innocent and she misunderstood him, she is fighting for him and his love which she realized she was always entitled.

If we go by KD, even after sharing a loving relationship and having a baby, when he takes pakhi’s responsibility she draws a line and cuts him off because he takes her love for granted. She still had strength to break up with him after living with him for 7-8 years and having a kid with him! She tolerated twice but not the third Time! It speaks volumes, isn’t it?!