About the marrying tree thing, it doesn’t always have to be a tree. It happens only if a person is Manglik.. and among North Indians esp along Brahmins, they will not marry if the Kundli doesn’t match. I don’t know why it’s a shock to you.
At the end of the day, people will make fun of such things and themselves do all the upays 😂
I have Brahmin friends who were married to matkas, trees etc years before their real marriage was even fixed.
Aish is a Brahmin too. Bachans are half Kayasth & Punjabis. Kayasth people are educated and patriarchal in general but it’s generally Brahmins who are more into astrology and very ritualistic. There is more chance that it was from her side than his.
My Brahmin friend legit married four times (once to a matka, a court marriage, a real marriage, an arya samaj wedding) she had a to make her marriage more pucca as it has a strong yog for separation in her Kundli. She’s not being suppressed and no one in her family is oppressive or anything. People just don’t want to take any chances. They are not even religious in general.
The kanyadan comment was in general; if the bachans believe in such stuff let them be. They should not promote such beliefs but it’s their personal life if they want to follow such things.
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