Is possessiveness a sign of love? - Page 4

I totally agree. We have seen Virat move on scale from protective to possessive in both cases. Just that it reached a more extreme level with Ajinkya. But then again it started off on softer notes which were acceptable, before his insecurities blowed it up to no redeem

Possessiveness is there is every relationship in our life.

But there is a line between being good and toxic possessiveness.

Virat always crosses that line he has always been toxic possessive for Sai.

Worst is he talked about loving someone else, deal marriage, still listens to his soo called best friend, but wants Sai to understand him and do what he please.

He is a big time hypocrite he lets his ex inside his room at late night but comments shit about a normal friend, which Sai even cleared that they aren't best friends.

Nethra..thanks for tagging me..And only because you tagged me ...here I am to put my viewpoints over here...Otherwise I am too disappointed with the show these days and you know that...

Possessiveness I believe more than being a sign of love is a sign of insecurity when the love is not requited......Belongingness , protectiveness and trust is what is more about about love.... I have seen streaks of possessiveness in relationships when a relationship is new and raw , a bit unsure a bit insecure.. As the relationship grows and if it grows in a positive way, negative aspects of possessiveness fades away and it remains only in the form of protectiveness.. In case of Virat he is too scared to lose Sai in any which manner.. Be it to another guy...to death or to a situation when she leaves as a result of his mistakes. You could see it in his breakdown when he realises Sai would leave he thinks of dying.. His reactions are always extreme , because there is no reciprocation of the love he feels for Sai.. If at all there is , he is not able to see it... Had she confessed her love for him or had this relationship been conjugal, he would not have reacted this way.. atleast the Virat I understand and know would not have.. The writers might mess him up again in future though... 😆They have a PhD there..

I am not okay with someone controlling my life in the name of possessiveness.. I dont like to be told that going to office and coming back home on time without interaction with men is what good girls do in the name of possessiveness...I dont like being questioned for having some tea with male colleague. I dont like being judged for a surprise by friends(men and women) at my place... So unhealthy possessiveness suffocates me.. Possessiveness should always be to the extent the partner is comfortable with ..

Originally posted by: asmi_joya

Nethra..thanks for tagging me..And only because you tagged me ...here I am to put my viewpoints over here...Otherwise I am too disappointed with the show these days and you know that...

Possessiveness I believe more than being a sign of love is a sign of insecurity when the love is not requited......Belongingness , protectiveness and trust is what is more about about love.... I have seen streaks of possessiveness in relationships when a relationship is new and raw , a bit unsure a bit insecure.. As the relationship grows and if it grows in a positive way, negative aspects of possessiveness fades away and it remains only in the form of protectiveness.. In case of Virat he is too scared to lose Sai in any which manner.. Be it to another guy...to death or to a situation when she leaves as a result of his mistakes. You could see it in his breakdown when he realises Sai would leave he thinks of dying.. His reactions are always extreme , because there is no reciprocation of the love he feels for Sai.. If at all there is , he is not able to see it... Had she confessed her love for him or had this relationship been conjugal, he would not have reacted this way.. atleast the Virat I understand and know would not have.. The writers might mess him up again in future though... 😆They have a PhD there..

I am not okay with someone controlling my life in the name of possessiveness.. I dont like to be told that going to office and coming back home on time without interaction with men is what good girls do in the name of possessiveness...I dont like being questioned for having some tea with male colleague. I dont like being judged for a surprise by friends(men and women) at my place... So unhealthy possessiveness suffocates me.. Possessiveness should always be to the extent the partner is comfortable with ..

I have always loved your perspectives❤️. But I understand your disconnect with the show.

Coming to my question, it was general and not related to SaiRat.

@bold I've read so many different replies and ultimately it is okay to the level to which a partner is comfortable...and what is okay for one may not be okay for another...

Originally posted by: nethraa_99

I have always loved your perspectives❤️. But I understand your disconnect with the show.

Coming to my question, it was general and not related to SaiRat.

@bold I've read so many different replies and ultimately it is okay to the level to which a partner is comfortable...and what is okay for one may not be okay for another...

Exactly..my partner can say to me You are only mine in moments of passion and I would love it, you know, but he cannot say that to me when I am having coffee with a male colleague 😆

I think there’s different level of possessiveness in love.

My Fiancé is possessive of me, he gets jealous if I talk about another guy, fictional or otherwise, because in his opinion I could do better than him so when I mention another guy, he gets a bit funny about it. He however isn’t controlling, I am a free bird and I can do what I want and he trusts that I wouldn’t do anything to break his heart. However that’s not to say that his insecurities don’t play with his emotions and there is many times he looks at me for reassurance.

There is also possessiveness at the level that goes beyond extreme, and those are the ones that I have seen primarily in shows where the partners pretty much controls every aspect of their other halves life, be it who they hang out with, where they go, what they eat etc - that to me is toxic AF.

I think Virat is bit like my partner, he’s not possessive because he wants to control Sai, I don’t think there’s even a little bit of that in him, otherwise when he first started getting jealous he would have stopped her from going to the college or taking part in the dance festival. Virats possessiveness comes from his own deep rooted insecurities that Sai doesn’t see him romantically, that he can’t compare to Guys Sai’s age etc etc and that’s actually pretty normal in any relationship, specially in ones where one side hasn’t given an inkling about their feelings.

Virat is possessive

When I saw his expression where he is like I don't know what comes.over me...man theres a monster hiding in him for sure

He is classic case of Jekyll & Hyde

I mean with a family like his I don't expect him to be normal but he definitely needs professional help. There are some very deep rooted issues due to his upbringing, then having his 2 day yoga lover as his bhabhi to being an isp officer to having his brother missing

I hope they show him getting some counselling including marriage counselling