SPOILER - On location - Roka shoot - Page 3

Originally posted by: Mishti_Dahi

I don't remember the chronology now, that it was Mini choosing not to reveal to her about the course first or the jewellery return first.

Either ways, at that time, if I felt that someone's walking upon my respect, I won't compromise it. Not that jewellery bhechke they would've afforded the fees anyways.

even i dont remember the chronology but i believe it happened before babita rejecting alimony. but dadu asking for deposit & babita returning jewellery happened around the course thing came up

secondly the jewelley was babitas given by her parents and mini had a right on it not beeji or lovely . People who dont want to give you back your rights will try and hurt self respect. that doent mean you give up your right to what is yours

Originally posted by: naq5

even i dont remember the chronology but i believe it happened before babita rejecting alimony. but dadu asking for deposit & babita returning jewellery happened around the course thing came up

secondly the jewelley was babitas given by her parents and mini had a right on it not beeji or lovely . People who dont want to give you back your rights will try and hurt self respect. that doent mean you give up your right to what is yours

Hmmm. Makes sense.

Originally posted by: naq5

not blaming babita directly for mini not taking admission in her photography course. But dint babita know that she had applied for it. So dint she know that if she got admission they will be needing money for it. Then why did she ask mini to return the jewellery to biji and ask her forgiveness. It was her own jewellery (not someones given alimony) on which mini had a right that she decided to return it. leave babita dint dadu biji know that mini had applied for it or even for admission in any college she will be needing money. but still they asked mini to give the amount of her deposit to them. All these adults put together have failed mini in realizing what she needed. Mini dint really have an option because they had no money at that stage with them & she dint tell babita because she will feel bad. I dont even want to talk about ashok who actually wanted to do away with the alimony money not even bothering how mini- his daughter would survive .

Babita realised that she needs to work for mini & herself after she learnt that mini sold her scooty. where as in general parents pre-empt needs of their children. Look at hanuman mini just said she dosent have a better camera than her phone & that she was very interested in photography and he got her one the next day. But babita has been like that she needs to be told or presented with the fact that the opposite person needs something. be it minis depression phase or now hanuman had to tell her that he was human and was hurt by her behavior.

And yes mini was not serious about her admission in college & was more bothered about getting shoes. But this is how she has become with the need of mothering her own mother all the time. Like mickey said she never thinks of herself without putting babita over her. She will have to learn to think of herself. that will be her growth but it will be also babitas growth to become strong enough that her daughter dosent have to keep mothering her.

The admission was applied for before Ashok fiasco. And if I am not mistaken, the rejection had come before the jewellery thing. It was definitely before the divorce. It was purely Minnie's decision to not let her mother know. In fact, she lied and Babita tried her best to console Minnie... Also, Minnie didn't tell Babita, not because of money, but also because she couldn't leave her mother alone at the point of time.

Babita was already searching for a job. She and Naeem bi had hidden it from Minnie. Minnie sold her scooty, yes, but she didn't know Babita was job hunting already... That was a lack of communication between mother and daughter to protect one another...

Originally posted by: Mishti_Dahi

I don't remember the chronology now, that it was Mini choosing not to reveal to her about the course first or the jewellery return first.

Either ways, at that time, if I felt that someone's walking upon my respect, I won't compromise it. Not that jewellery bhechke they would've afforded the fees anyways.

Even if they had money, would Minnie had left Babita and moved to Delhi?

Originally posted by: rose1000

Did you read my post properly? I just stated what they have already shown in the episodes and they might close that loophole in the future. I talked about facts and not my personal opinion. It will be nice to first read and then attack other members. If you don't like what I wrote, why not ignore? Why fight?

Yes, I did read your post and understood it.

Also, I do ignore most posts, but sometimes it gets too much.

Also, I wasn't attacking any member. No such intention. I was simply trying to correct the fact! Again, wasn't fighting!

Originally posted by: rose1000

In the second video, looks like Babes is again showing attitude to Mini. I have a feeling that after marriage some Mahabharat will happen during which the truth about Mini not being able to go for a photography course due to Babita's big ego will come into play. This time Mini will have HS's support unlike last time when Ashok did not even care.

Let me again try and explain that Minnie not going to the photography course had NOTHING to do with Babita's ego. That was PURELY Minnie's own decision. So your fact was wrong!

Originally posted by: inlieu

You know, I was just linking what HS said on the phone to what we saw in the on-location video. He is not realizing her complexities now. He had realized that ages ago but is now seeing specific examples as he gets to know her better.

I don't know why you think I feel it's a negative thing for Babita to be complex. I said no such thing. Each person is different, there's no question of wrong or right personality.

Neither is it a good or bad thing if HS is scared or isn't. That's his personality. I wanted to point out that unlike Ashok he is not the type to run away, back off, or refuse to face challenges / support her in difficult situations. That was something Babita was worried about, but he reassured her that they would solve puzzles together. He has other aspects to his personality we will see later, as will Babita. Every character on this show has flaws.

I understand that you do not agree with some of the criticism of Babita on the forum but I have done no such thing on this thread, and I am disappointed and frankly hurt by what you've written to me without trying to understand my post.

First thing, I am sorry, but hurting you wasn't my intention. Your post did rub off on me in the wrong way, probably because you have been vocal about Babita being a wrong person for Hanuman... Keeping that in context, your post did sound negative.

Also, my intention, again, wasn't to hurt anyone but debate on a topic. That's not really bad. The only reason I posted was to get clarification - like you just gave... but maybe the choice of words was wrong (to my defence this all anti-Babita has rubbed off on me very badly - I am not saying she is perfect, but I feel the 'oh she's horrible' is going over-board!)

Again, I am sorry to hurt you but that really wasn't my intention...

Originally posted by: annx

Even if they had money, would Minnie had left Babita and moved to Delhi?

Nope! She wouldn't.

The minute Mini decided to not tell her about it, she made it her own decision.

It's futile to debate with some members here.

First, they run with fabricated version of events.

2nd, many of these "criticizers" haven't even watched the show from the start.

When Babita decided not to take the alimony, she never thought of what would happen to Minnie . She was only concerned about her ego , her self respect .

Minnie had every right to get money from her father but did not have the right to deny or accept it. It was denied by her mother .

When a woman / or a man gets divorce from their broken relationship , they must not forget that there is a separate relationship between her /his children with their spouse whom they are planning to divorce and respect that relationship .

Originally posted by: annx

First thing, I am sorry, but hurting you wasn't my intention. Your post did rub off on me in the wrong way, probably because you have been vocal about Babita being a wrong person for Hanuman... Keeping that in context, your post did sound negative.

Also, my intention, again, wasn't to hurt anyone but debate on a topic. That's not really bad. The only reason I posted was to get clarification - like you just gave... but maybe the choice of words was wrong (to my defence this all anti-Babita has rubbed off on me very badly - I am not saying she is perfect, but I feel the 'oh she's horrible' is going over-board!)

Again, I am sorry to hurt you but that really wasn't my intention...

Not sure if you have noticed but I no longer talk about who deserves whom anymore. I try not to write too much about Babita's emotional state the way I do about other characters because people on the forum are sensitive to it. I do from time to time point out things that she needs to learn because I want her to keep growing and become emancipated in the true sense, just as I have always wanted since the beginning of the show. I even refrain from praising her too much because then other people get upset.

I understand you feel bad about some of the anti-Babita sentiment around but I am not part of that group of people. The characters on the show feel like my family members. I criticize every character when they do something wrong and compliment them when I feel happy about something they have done.

To be honest, I come to this forum to be able to express how I see and interpret scenes, dialogues and thought processes but lately I have felt stifled because I have to think several times before I write something about anyone, especially one of the central characters of the show, Babita. I would rather not add disclaimers before every post I make because that would be silly, but having personally experienced a lot of the things Babita has, I understand where she is coming from. That doesn't mean I will overlook her flaws because that would be unfair to her.

She's not parayi to me, she is apni. Do you know what I mean? If that weren't the case, I would never have been able to decode the balcony scene in episode 199.

I really appreciate you writing back to clarify your stance. As a fellow forum member I just wanted to say you are also one of my apni, and I don't want to see you getting so affected by comments about Babita or anyone else that you stop enjoying the show or the discussions.

Let's put this behind us and continue debating on various topics without taking things to heart.

Peace. 🤗