SPOILER - On location - Roka shoot - Page 4

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SWChuF-nWvk

Originally posted by: LoveInAutumn26

I agree that Babita isn’t a bad mother. I don’t understand when people say she’s a bad mother by comparing her to HS and NB. Again, people judge Babita really harshly 🙄. Also, in this segment Babita isn’t mad at Mini. It’s something else that leads to her I think getting upset.

*spoiler ahead*

Babita isn’t upset at Mini. She is upset/mad because of Lovely’s taunts. Hanuman tells her that “your nanad is like sutli bomb”, Babita then corrects him saying that she’s not her nanad anymore as she’s already divorced. Then, Hanuman and Babita have a moment where Babita tells her feelings about Lovely to Hanuman honestly, what she felt all those years hearing taunts in that house. Then they have a little moment when Babita says “meine toh kaha tha aapko ke mein itni bhi achhi nahi hun jitna aap mujhe samajhte hain”. Then they have a moment and lovely interrupts them. Lovely comes and gives them gifts and tells Babita that she needs to leave the haveli as the Roka is done and they can’t be staying in the same house. Then, I think Lovely brings up the whole live-in situation and Babita gets mad, but then it seems Babita will end up staying at NB house until the wedding.

*Spoiler end*

Thanks much for the update of the Spoiler! 🤗

Originally posted by: Mishti_Dahi

Nope! She wouldn't.

The minute Mini decided to not tell her about it, she made it her own decision.

Exactly! Even if the money wasn't a problem... no child would leave their parent at such a point in life... especially Minnie...

There was a time when I used to wonder if Minnie would ever be able to leave Babita. How would she deal with leaving her mum alone, when she gets married... not because Babita would not want Minnie to go but because Minnie won't be able to. Of course, now that Hanuman has entered their life, Minnie knows she can lend responsibilities to him and live her own life... and none of that is Babita's fault.

No child can ever leave their parent alone. How many time have we changed our plans so as to accommodate our parents? Many a time. I came back home to my parents because they were old and retired and I felt guilty of letting them live alone. And I assure you, they never asked me to return. They wanted me to live my life to the fullest. It was my decision.

The point is we can't blame Babita for Minnie's decision to not take her photography course!

Originally posted by: inlieu

Not sure if you have noticed but I no longer talk about who deserves whom anymore. I try not to write too much about Babita's emotional state the way I do about other characters because people on the forum are sensitive to it. I do from time to time point out things that she needs to learn because I want her to keep growing and become emancipated in the true sense, just as I have always wanted since the beginning of the show. I even refrain from praising her too much because then other people get upset.

But who asked you not too... you should. But then don't get offended. At least my intention was to talk to you. You can always present your arguments. If you really feel the Babita is not worthy of Hanuman, give me an argument. Give me your reasons. We can debate them. And we may fill pages upon pages and yet end up agreeing to disagree. What's wrong in that?

Also, even I point out things about here. My objection is probably when people pass judgment and talk about deserving. For me, deserving is a big word. A heavy one. Just like the words hate or love. In my opinion, everyone deserves happiness. Even people like Lovely and Ashok. Even Meeta. Their mistakes and negativity aside, every person in this world deserves to be happy and deserves the best of everything. (I do plan to make this huge post this weekend on my opinions - I'll explain more there!)

I understand you feel bad about some of the anti-Babita sentiment around but I am not part of that group of people. The characters on the show feel like my family members. I criticize every character when they do something wrong and compliment them when I feel happy about something they have done.

I'm sure you're not anti-Babita but maybe you see things from a perspective I don't seem to see - which should be fine... we all have our own perspectives. But sometimes I do feel that you seem so definite of an opinion or it comes across as so definite that at least I find no room to initiate a debate or to disagree. Again, that is fine. If you're so convinced of your opinion - that's great... since I am convinced too...

Okay, maybe I sound like I am blabbering so I'll stop here. I love to read your posts and comments but I don't know how to explain what I want to say!

To be honest, I come to this forum to be able to express how I see and interpret scenes, dialogues and thought processes but lately I have felt stifled because I have to think several times before I write something about anyone, especially one of the central characters of the show, Babita. I would rather not add disclaimers before every post I make because that would be silly, but having personally experienced a lot of the things Babita has, I understand where she is coming from. That doesn't mean I will overlook her flaws because that would be unfair to her.

Don't we all come to the forum to express our opinions and read on what others got to say? Why do you have to stop commenting or stop expressing? Those who want to skip will skip. Like I love reading you but I skip the paragraphs and comments I don't like. Doesn't stop you from using this space! It shouldn't. But if people do read and comment or present the argument against your opinion - you can either ignore or fill in pages debating :)

First, let me just say Jean, I don't know you but I am so proud of you for stepping out of an abusive marriage! You're one strong woman! And I am sure you know where Babita is coming from or going through.

But I think there is a difference between you and Babita. You made a choice to leave. It was YOUR decision. Babita was MADE to leave. She forced into a situation and even then it was Minnie who took her out of that relationship. And there lies the who problem... When you do something out of your own accord, you are willing to introspect... but when you are forced into a situation, you play the victim. Been in both situations!

She's not parayi to me, she is apni. Do you know what I mean? If that weren't the case, I would never have been able to decode the balcony scene in episode 199.

Which scene exactly? I'm bad with episode numbers, also I had no internet and I saw all three episodes today! Loved them all! I have so much to write about them but that's work for the weekend!

I really appreciate you writing back to clarify your stance. As a fellow forum member I just wanted to say you are also one of my apni, and I don't want to see you getting so affected by comments about Babita or anyone else that you stop enjoying the show or the discussions.

I will never stop enjoying the show... I started watching it for certain reasons and I shall continue till the end. insha'Allah. As for discussions, maybe I have been spoilt by the forum friends where we would talk and discuss try convincing one another and by the end, agree to disagree...

Let's put this behind us and continue debating on various topics without taking things to heart.

Yes, please!

Peace. 🤗

I replied in bold.

Sorry for the delayed reply but one I had no internet for three days and two it was my birthday today! I wanted to enjoy my day! 🤗

My apologies again but as I said, hurting you or anyone for that matter was never my intention!

Originally posted by: annx

I replied in bold.

Sorry for the delayed reply but one I had no internet for three days and two it was my birthday today! I wanted to enjoy my day! 🤗

My apologies again but as I said, hurting you or anyone for that matter was never my intention!

First of all, HAPPY BIRTHDAY! Hope you had a good one!

Thanks for taking the time to reply.

As for this matter, mitti pao! 😃

Originally posted by: inlieu

First of all, HAPPY BIRTHDAY! Hope you had a good one!

Thanks for taking the time to reply.

As for this matter, mitti pao! 😃

I did. Thank you! 😃