Guys I was telling in one of my earlier posts if you put effort you can make your husband friend also. Today Ram echoed my thoughts. Men need to understand in depth what Ram said today. A woman is leaving her family, her dear and near ones, her friends and her familiar surroundings and coming to him.
She doesnt know the rules and regulations of your family. She doesnt know the customs. You are the only one whose hand she is holding and entering the new place. Before being a husband, be a friend to her. Try to understand her discomforts, make her comfortable. Help her to open up and speak to you. Tell her to approach you for any problems in her sasural.
It is sasural for her, but home for you. Instead of trying to tear her apart on the first night to satisfy your carnal desire, spend some time with her talking to her, allaying her fears. In arranged marriage girls need to get comfortable before they can go for physical relation all the way. If a man understands this, he will get more satisfaction both emotionally and physically in the marital relation. Many men worry can they satisfy their wife on the bed on first night, worry if you can give her the required support in the new home, the other thing will happen naturally. ( Sorry for being this open, but I cant help to be frank as I have heard many incidents)
Now coming to women if you get your husband as friend learn to open up. Talk to him on the issues. Some issues he might not be able to solve directly. But he will listen and will provide you support to handle things. Some issues he will sort out. Dont suppress things and roam around talking loosely or making opinions in your initial days of marriage. Whenever you have confusions approach him. Take his guidance and proceed accordingly. Carnal desire might wane after a certain time when you have kids, their responsibility and all. But the foundation of mutual respect and understanding you put in your married life, the communication lines you open will help you face any challenges that come in your married life
Edited by shruthiravi - 9 years ago