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shruthiravi

@shruthiravi

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Posted: 9 years ago

Guys I was telling in one of my earlier posts if you put effort you can make your husband friend also. Today Ram echoed my thoughts. Men need to understand in depth what Ram said today. A woman is leaving her family, her dear and near ones, her friends and her familiar surroundings and coming to him.

She doesnt know the rules and regulations of your family. She doesnt know the customs. You are the only one whose hand she is holding and entering the new place. Before being a husband, be a friend to her. Try to understand her discomforts, make her comfortable. Help her to open up and speak to you. Tell her to approach you for any problems in her sasural.

It is sasural for her, but home for you. Instead of trying to tear her apart on the first night to satisfy your carnal desire, spend some time with her talking to her, allaying her fears. In arranged marriage girls need to get comfortable before they can go for physical relation all the way. If a man understands this, he will get more satisfaction both emotionally and physically in the marital relation. Many men worry can they satisfy their wife on the bed on first night, worry if you can give her the required support in the new home, the other thing will happen naturally. ( Sorry for being this open, but I cant help to be frank as I have heard many incidents)

Now coming to women if you get your husband as friend learn to open up. Talk to him on the issues. Some issues he might not be able to solve directly. But he will listen and will provide you support to handle things. Some issues he will sort out. Dont suppress things and roam around talking loosely or making opinions in your initial days of marriage. Whenever you have confusions approach him. Take his guidance and proceed accordingly. Carnal desire might wane after a certain time when you have kids, their responsibility and all. But the foundation of mutual respect and understanding you put in your married life, the communication lines you open will help you face any challenges that come in your married life

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varshu27

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Posted: 9 years ago

Bravo Shruthi...what an outstanding post... I completely agree with everything you have said.

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KrishnaSourav

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Posted: 9 years ago

Today one of the beautiful epi was.

n I really loved the convo n sply words from Ram to Siya...

what he said is right ..if only men understand this..it will not take much but u will win the heart of ur wife more...she will also try to understand her man

same with woman sharing will help u...not by trying to solve each n everything by herself

a Couple need to communicate with each other n without EGO ofcourse...

Today Shiva said to Ma Gauri...that with love a Wedding can be divine n truly a husband wife together with love understand respect will turn Ardhanarishwar aka Better half

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Nidhi7

@Nidhi7

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Posted: 9 years ago

agree with everything u said
awesome post 👏
today's episode was really nice especially ram siya convo

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shruthiravi

@shruthiravi

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Posted: 9 years ago

Yes Krishna, once a man and woman understand each other they become each other's part. Without telling they will start knowing each other and in a way they will complete each other. That symblism of Ardhanareeshwar of Shiv-Shakti is the great message of Sanathana Dharma that Hinduism has never placed woman inferior to man. It has always treated them equal. Ours was never a backward religion. It was made backward only in last 500-600 years

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Sruthi

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Posted: 9 years ago

Originally posted by: shruthiravi
Yes Krishna, once a man and woman understand each other they become each other's part. Without telling they will start knowing each other and in a way they will complete each other. That symblism of Ardhanareeshwar of Shiv-Shakti is the great message of Sanathana Dharma that Hinduism has never placed woman inferior to man. It has always treated them equal. Ours was never a backward religion. It was made backward only in last 500-600 years

You make such beautiful posts , Very Informative .
I keep learning everyday . Thanks a lot for posting.

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radianteyes.

@radianteyes.

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Posted: 9 years ago

Beautiful post di
Today's episode had many many lines that are still vibrating in my head .
Definitely a husband should a friend first and then a husband , he should understand this notion and must not follow traditions or move towards those desires that are emotionless .
True is it our religion was destroyed I must say in the past years due to the lack of reason and transfer of incomplete knowledge .

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CutiepieAD

@CutiepieAD

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Posted: 9 years ago

What an amazing post Shruthi di ..
True a husband should first be a friend , a companion, with whom u can share all ur problems, ur desires...
It's trust that strengthens a husband wife relationship ... And we trust our friends the most..
I loved the shiv parvati convo too..

Yes those days people were much more advanced in their thoughts... No one was superior no one was inferior..
Yesterday even Sita said , its we who choose our religion..
In present times ppl have started discrimination in the basis of gender, cast,religion... But they forget that God has created everyone equally, it us who have made these divisions..

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vipraja26

@vipraja26

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Posted: 9 years ago

Perfectly put forth Shruthi!

Agree with whatever you had said !

Friendship between couple to start with is the best thing that can happen and thereby blossom !

Many make this mistake of not taking this step in building their relationship as a couple which would ultimately last for ever.

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LadyMcbeth

@LadyMcbeth

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Posted: 9 years ago

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I agree that Ram was a Maryada Purushottam, and these are lofty ideals indeed! When Sita pleaded to Mother Earth today that if ever she gets tired of fighting the battle of life, she be offered a place to rest, it took my mind to the time when Sita entered the womb of the earth as Ram refused to honorably accept her as his wife. As per the mythological story, Ram despite his lofty ideals, Ram who freed Ahilya from her curse,ordered his pregnant wife to leave Ayodhya due to a dhobi's unwarranted comment. It just goes to show the base nature of a man. Sita didn't want to get kidnapped by Ravan. It was meant to happen so that Ram could get rid the earth of Ravan's atrocities. It it highly disturbing that a person's character takes a 180 degree turn in the later part of the mythological story. I wonder what justification they will offer for that when the time comes.

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