IPK IN AN INSTANT
[YOUTUBE]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VXz5gUmiEXg[/YOUTUBE] CREDIT UPLOADER
On the Blast fronm the Past thread we have discussed this term over and over again...manhandling. Did ASR manhandled Khushi? Many of us said yes but others said no. I am one of the firm believers that he did manhandle Khushi...alot! But still I fell in love with this character/man.
Why, I ask myself over and over again? I should despise him. He was mean in so many ways and abusive, from his spoken word ("low middle class mentality") to his grabbing her wrist tightly that left his fingermarks inbedded into her pale skin to using his manliness to frighten her in a sexual way bringing her too close to his body, that she could feel the warmth of his breath upon her cheek. He used his batameez to threaten her while breaking her pearl dori and even let go of her as she desperately clung to his hand outside his office window.
Yes, Khushi was manhandled.
In this episode you can see his anger/gussa. He expresses it, swiftly grabbing her wrist as she was walking away and twists her bringing her ever so close, their bodies just barely a breath apart. My heart leapt. His masculinity dominating our pale Cinderella and as irate as I was, I too was subdued and surrendered. I hated myself for being stirred by this man. But I noticed something which sets ASR apart from an abuser. Her tears move him. He loosens his hold. An abuser would care less; he would laugh at her tears and even hurt her more. ASR would not do that. Yes he manhandled her...but I believe it was because of his own frustration of his attraction to this "middle class"ladki. He would yell, using her complete name, corner her, threaten her, grab her and tightly hold on to those delicate wrists, pulling her close trying to teach her a lesson that noone but Arnav Singh Raizada, the man that god bows down to, will she answer to. She has no control over him, atleast this is what he tries to convince himself and she will always be wrong in his eyes. But then the manhandling ASR, who runs to make sure this ladki doesn't burn herself while holding a leaning lit candle as he ignores his live-in girlfiend as she falls off a stool to the floor. Yup, ASR is a manhandler but certainly not an abuser. He is just a frustrated man learning the meaning of falling in love.
*I am not sure what this all means and why the universe does what it does but just as a side note. I recently fractured my lumbar vertebrae and I am in a brace. I believe wholeheartedly that healing comes from within so I researched the Lumbar spine and what the vertebrae in question represented. So I being a holistic yogini went to Louise Hay's book You Can Heal Your Life and found that it referenced some things that occurred in my life, including guilt and self hatred. Its affirmation to repeat like a mantra is "I release the past. I cherish myself and my beautiful sexuality. I am safe. I am loved." It was interesting to me why this incident which I had worked through and released came back to haunt me at this time in my life. Sometimes when I am down I look through YouTube for the old IPK scenes and the one above popped up. It always rattled me ASR being beastly to Kushi, I think it reminded me of my own past experiences and I would always want to go and champion her. I use to argue with the girls of the BFTP thread telling them he manhandled her and what was worse was I really, really was attracted to this aspect of ASR. Crazy I thought. well, after watching this I finally realized the difference of an abuser and a frustrated man. The character of ASR was tormented by a past and frustrated by a middle class girl who he was deeply touched and attracted to, but he refused to believe it. He acted like a beast so she would go away. So he wouldn't feel what he was feeling. ASR was happy living in his world of orders and ice...he couldn't feel a thing but power. He didn't believe in God yet DM never left him. He was surrounded by women who believed.
Anyway, it is my wish to impart some wisdom I have learned and experienced.
Young women of today must be empowered. NO means NO. No man should ever touch a woman inaappropriately whether through force, anger, sexual intent, or verbal abuse. Women of today have the right to express their feelings and not to stay in abusive relationships, even an ASR relationship. Sometimes we are blinded by the masculintiy and handsomeness of a man but if he doesn't treat you with respect...get rid of him. This leads me back to my back and what I am now being directed to do. I am becoming a volunteer in a women's shelter and a Victim's Advocate. This back issue reminded me of things that happened in my past and it reminded me that I too can help other women not to go through what I have or atleast let them know you can survive this and it is NOT your fault! . So dears, empower yourself. Don't be afraid to come out and help others in whatever way the Universe leads you.
Still love the fiery, angry ASR...but loved him even more when Khushi stole his heart.
Edited by cinthiann1758 - 10 years ago
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