Okay, it seems to me that I am late to the party, but I still want to contribute:)
My apologies in advance, because my opinions might not be in consonance with that of many. I can count on some to back me up, like Malika and SSS, though;)
In my humble opinion, Abeer is not perfect husband material at all.
1. He made a promise to Meher about helping her fulfill her responsibilities. But clearly, he couldn't live up to it. His promises were empty words. When the time came to man up and take charge, all he wanted to do was have fun and neglect his duties, as an individual and a husband.
2. He is clearly too impulsive and doesn't think before he acts. Certainly, this is a character flaw, and no one is perfect. But what irks me is that his approach towards Meher, relationships, and life in general continues to be impulsive, even 8 years later. It does not seem to me that he has learnt anything from his past mistakes.🥱 He continues to do things on the spur of the moment, like informing the viewers about getting together with Meher on TV, without her consent, mind you.
3. Now this might again be an unpopular opinion- but love, in my opinion, does not justify everything. Clearly his feelings for Meher are deep-rooted and profound, not debating that at all.😊 But in my opinion, too many things get a free pass in the name of "love". Specifically, you don't have the right to hurt people in the name of love and make apologies for it later.
But if she is yet not comfortable with getting back together, that's that. A woman's consent matters. Her opinion matters. Her "No" matters. And if she, an adult woman, deems it unfit to pursue any relations with you at that time, the least he could do was be patient and wait.
4. About the whole Akshat thing, I am getting that he's not as straightforward as Abeer. But objectively speaking, he was there for her for 8 years. I would blame Meher more for pulling him along and giving him false hopes. I don't like Akshat, but I would imagine no one, a man or a woman, would like to be friend-zoned and asked to wait for perpetuity when a person you like gives you mixed signals about their feelings.
5. People here have expressed their opinion that Abeer's rich background has contributed to his sense of entitlement and lack of awareness about some issues. Well, that made sense eight years ago. But what now? Clearly the guy's in his 30's. He's had time.
6. Again, this is just me, but if my husband kicked me to the curb after finding out I was pregnant and refused to take responsibility for our child, deeming it as a onerous burden, I would show him the middle finger and walk out. And I can't imagine how any woman can put up with a traumatic incident like that, and trust her husband with being a good father to her child, ever again.
My post on the onset might seem like a very biased one. It might even portray me as an Abeer hater.
But trust me. I am not.😊
I have made the post as objectively as possible, keeping in mind the fictional situations portrayed and some realities I have seen women dealing with in life. And this has compounded my opinion that men like Abeer can't be good husbands at all.😳
There are guys like him who are charmers, very passionate, who'll sweep you off your feet. Your relationship will be full of frissons of energy, as you fluctuate between extremes. loving intensely one moment, and fighting bitterly the next. But you eventually realize that when it comes to making real-life choices, hard decisions-such guys aren't a help at all.🥱
And then they're those guys- sedate, a little silent, perhaps even a little boring. But if you two hit it off, and find a good wavelength- and you feel that he's a kind and compassionate man, who's aware of your feelings, who respects your choices and your identity- I have no qualms in saying that I'd choose the stable, sedate one over the exciting, passionate lover :)
But then again, this is a fictional show, and Abeer is the hero. So this post need not be made at all. Abeer is Meher's and vice-versa. There's no two ways about it! It's good to have men like Abeer in fiction though, coz in real life, I am more likely to choose someone like Akshat.😃
Edited by -Amri- - 9 years ago
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