@Amri nazar utharna I do everyday đđđ because people only see the destination, not the journey@SSS one thing I will tell you from my experience. Whenever you are choosing a guy, choose someone who share the same values with you. Whose journey is more or less similar to you. Because you need a man who understands and respect you and you should also be able to understand and respect him. Love cannot sustain a marriage, only love along with respect can sustain it. Because at young age( say early twenties) we cannot differentiate between lust and love. Both will be more or less same. But yes you can differentiate respect. Keep the first step for marriage only if you respect a man for his actions along with love or lust or whatever.
And to put more perspective I will tell you the story of Rukmini. Because in our community it is told that if you love, love the way Rukmini loved Krishna. Rukmini had never seen Krishna. But she had heard about him and actions and great stories surrounding him and she fell in love with him. Rukmini writes a letter to Krishna to take her as her marriage is happening against her wish and she loves him. On her wedding day putting her reputation and the reputation of her family at stake Rukmini runs away with Krishna.
But her reputation is not once questioned by society then or now. She was Krishna's Queen and he respected her a lot for her love and devotion towards him. He safeguarded the reputation of the woman who has come with him leaving behind everything familiar to her trusting him. So even being a run away bride because she married a man like Krishna she lived a good life. Because Krishna owned his action that he went and bought Rukmini.
Edited by shruthiravi - 9 years ago
