Can Abeer be a good husband ? Share your views - Page 3

@Cool_Kirti what has changed in Abeer. His impulsiveness has not changed a bit. His impulsiveness in closing tunnu's loan without telling Meher, got her almost dead. And the comments she heard from Kuber, that she is a woman who is opening her doors for rich men. Who was responsible for that.

Originally posted by: shruthiravi

@Cool_Kirti what has changed in Abeer. His impulsiveness has not changed a bit. His impulsiveness in closing tunnu's loan without telling Meher, got her almost dead. And the comments she heard from Kuber, that she is a woman who is opening her doors for rich men. Who was responsible for that.

And for giving money to Tunnu even Suman reprimands Abeer. Then he knows the truth of Kuber. He publicly insults his dad. Yes Kuber maybe bad, but even he doesn't publicly insult Meher. What needs to be spoken it has to be spoken in private. But going ahead and washing the dirty linen in public is not a mark of maturity.

I stick to my point, Abeer is not mature, impulsive with his actions even at this point he can only bring hurt. Because if he thinks he wants something, he wants it by hook or crook. Doesn't matter who lives, who dies, who suffers. Yes he might repent for a short time, but is soon back to his own ways of being irresponsible.

@Zainab I told Meher's problem. She is clinging too much to the past. Instead of trying to put across her problems, she points out his problems. Her insecurity is at the root cause of all her actions. And a mother's protective instinct that her son should not suffer heartbreak in the hands of an impulsive man. If Meher needs to trust Abeer, let him do something to prove her wrong. As of now I have not seen anything.

Even when EHT was running I was clear with locket and guitar Durga should never melt and go back to Dev revealing her identity. Let him deliver on the trust Nithya placed on him. And yes CVs did make Dev deliver on the trust Nithya placed on him. He took the proper punishment for his mistake before getting her back. And Durga too proved why Dev loved Nithya so much and to what extend she can go for his sake. I mean there was a give and take in that relation.

So Abeer also prove that he can be a good husband. Mere Nishaan doesn't make him one.

@cool-kirti you are missing the point, when Sooraj stood up for Sandhya, he didn't insult his mother. Whenever he had to sort out the differences he took the blame on himself guarding the reputation of his wife and mother. That was his beauty. He was a good son, brother and husband. He managed relations.

Originally posted by: shruthiravi

@cool-kirti you are missing the point, when Sooraj stood up for Sandhya, he didn't insult his mother. Whenever he had to sort out the differences he took the blame on himself guarding the reputation of his wife and mother. That was his beauty. He was a good son, brother and husband. He managed relations.

Meher was hurt, Kuber is the problem. When Meher has divorced him its Meher's fault. Insult Meher in public, Insult Kuber in public. You cant stand up by someone by pointing fingers at someone else. You don't become a good husband by becoming a bad son. Suffering happens when you try to balance out.Maturity comes when you try to balance it out.

Dev could have easily rebelled against his family and gone out and took a stand in public. Many were expecting him to do that and he was termed weak just because he was not questioning his family. I could emphatizize with his character because he was trying to balance out being a son and a friend. He didn't had solid proof to convince his mother because Payal changed her statement. He wanted to ensure his mother is not hurt, when he rebels against his family, because his dad's name is also associated with the extended family and that name is not tarnished. All his problems stem from the balancing.

And Abeer has to learn this balancing.

And here it is not only Abeer at fault, Meher is also at fault. Akshat is right when he says she cant manage relations. Both has to grow up. Atleast for Ishaan's sake.

Originally posted by: cool_kriti

@shrutiravi Sooraj did make Sandhya leave home after the airplane incident though Sandhya was right in her place... SO here even Sooraj is not 100% right...

I like your point that Meher and Abeer both need to grow up here ...😆😆Its not ABeer's fault alone that things are the way they are... If Abeer acts in a weird way it is that Meher is making him do so by not giving him a chance and rushing towards her marriage...

I'm not supporting Meher's decision of marrying Akshat before moving on completely...

But I can understand her here...

... you see, Meher wasn't any rush to marry Akshat because she badly needs a husband.. if she wanted to do that then she would have done it in those 8 years... but she was rushed today because, Abeer announced in his show that he hates his DAD and he is going to get Meher back.. in his show after leaving Meher's home.. Seriously, can any one announces that way? She was scared with his still impulsive actions, which could create some more problems in her life and so rushed to marry a guy who was waiting for her since 8 years and was being like a father to her son... this might not be right decision but the reason is Abeer's impulsiveness, other wise she wouldn't have rushed..

In real life, there are so many rock stars who have so many problems in their life.. are they announcing it in their show? is it anything right thing to do so? Even if he gets a second chance and Meher marrys him again... I doubt that whenever they have small fights.. then he will go and anounce in his show I hate Meher.. Such was the level of his immaturity right now...

Exactly SSS. I am also not supporting Meher's decision, but only knows why she is doing what she is doing. Her fear, her scars, her protective instinct for her son everything makes her do that. And now everyone is telling Abeer is not hurting Ishaan. But when he believed Ishaan is Akshat's son this was the same man who asked the 7 year old why he is calling Meher mom. Who was he to ask that question to the 7 year old. For all reasons Meher might have even adopted a child and decided to bring him up as his own. Or she decided to be a mother's to Akshat's son if he was divorced or a widower. But Abeer had no right to ask Ishaan that question.

@cool Kriti..

Yes Malikakas. What I like about Akshat is that he is showing Abeer how to be at the receiving end. And I really like that, because it is time someone stopped mollycoddling Abeer. Bacha hai, men are like this, that and all. Accountability applies to all. It is because of supporting the attitude of men like Abeer, we still hear rape is a mistake, acid was thrown on the woman because she refused a proposal. You can say Abeer is not like that, he wont do that and all. But Abeer's attitude of bullying is the early stages of such things, owning woman as a property.

Originally posted by: shruthiravi

Yes Malikakas. What I like about Akshat is that he is showing Abeer how to be at the receiving end. And I really like that, because it is time someone stopped mollycoddling Abeer. Bacha hai, men are like this, that and all. Accountability applies to all. It is because of supporting the attitude of men like Abeer, we still hear rape is a mistake, acid was thrown on the woman because she refused a proposal. You can say Abeer is not like that, he wont do that and all. But Abeer's attitude of bullying is the early stages of such things, owning woman as a property.

Meher is Abeer's ex-wife. It is time he accepted that. And try not to control her. He can have custody battle for the child, but he cannot decide who Meher wants in her life as husband.

He did an insincere marriage plan with Sasha. And Meher is doing an insincere plan with Akshat. I know Rage of Angels. I know what happens to Michael Moretti. Akshat is my moretti. Abeer can have the woman, but most probably Akshat will win it hands down for me.

As you rightly said, accountability applies to all. Abeer already stoop so low..and today's his attitude needs to be condemned. We can't really say Abeer won't stoop even more low because he is good at heart..

I never before expected to see something like which he did with Aliya but he did..this just gave me a feeling that he is capable of doing anything. He is being unpredictable by doing anything he wants.. there were no filters and no boundaries.

Saying his heart is gold but he is just immature.. or whatsoever... doesn't make sense...His way of dealing things is absurd. What its important is that.the path he is following in his life should be good, and shouldn't hurt others. But, we can see how many people he is hurting.. Aliya.. Sasha.. and Meher . How badly he treated Ishaan ,when he arrived first!.. And even before knowing much about Akshat.. he already started to trying to prove him wrong. We just can't support him by saying all this is just because immaturity otherwise he is good at heart...

Originally posted by: komal1234567891

absolutely i agree with u completely...abeer will not only be a good but THE BEST and the most loving and caring hubby and a responsible father as well this time😃😃😳...we all have seen despite his anger in season 1 he was so caring towards meher whenever anything wrong occured with meher...pinky bhai case then swimming pool case...infact even in past abeer was the one who tried to convince meher that he does not want divorce but it was meher who in her anger or ego(i must say) did not give him a chance...😕😕...as for now in my opinion it has become complusory for meher to realize the worth of abeer and for that some big shock like accident track is a compulsory thing to occur ...this is necessary for abeer to win back his meher and child...😊😊...otherwise we all know meher is so much stubborn...no offence...its my opinion...😊😊😊

Meher is still stubborn. Even in the engagement party, Meher said that she does not want to get ditched again which means that she has indirectly accepted that she still loves Abeer.

Meher has to get over her ego or prejudice, then her bua to accept Abeer back.