Purvi's backless blouses.:Warning Pg11&Notepg22 - Page 15

Originally posted by: sharadrocks

I merely responded to what was stated in your post with regard to maids..I was not putting any construct on it...

Is Purvi or Gauri or any other middle class woman not allowed a subtle or even an outright expression of her sexuality? Does she become characterless or loose or lacking in the infamous sanskaars because of that? I don't understand this harping on middle-class morality! And if we are talking of the show, then Archana, who is the fount of all sanskaars, has been seen wearing transparent sarees and low cut blouses. So maybe, their sanskaars do not prohibit wearing sexy clothes. So, what is the big deal?

Btw, I think you need to check out Indian hospitals just to understand a bit about the degree of fashion consciousness that prevails there. Be they doctors or managers, I don't think women are above being conscious of what they wear. Of course there maybe noteworthy exceptions. And so far as a low cut blouse goes, I don't think you need to refer to Vogue for that!

Yes, general perceptions do exist on fashion and dress codes, Yet, aren't we trying hard to break the stereotypes?

I am not getting into a debate on one character vs the other. I was merely commenting on the connections drawn between morality and dress! Frankly, I give a damn for the characters on the show!

Appreciating, admiring Kobiguru is very good, half the world does that!

Wow this got really heated😆

Originally posted by: ilovedhanjanird

No sweety , I don't have a life outside PR , I have an idea why don't you enlighten me on the outer world?
I did not bring in sanskaar
I said WHY some people say things against her backless blouses
I myself never did , tbh I never really noticed Purvis clothing
I have very little tolerance for bad fashion sense
So I don't think I would really look at her clothing twice 😆
Woah woah why are going personal over here ?
Did I say all Bengali women are uncultured 😆
I just stated their viewpoint
What's wrong in that ?
People say how wearing mini skirts are indecent ! Now is that insulting western culture ?
And mods why is she going personal over here ? 😲

Even in this day and age people are so judgemental towards clothing, how does that have anything to do with your attitude or the way you have been brought up? you could be wearing the shortest shorts but still be the purest at heart! Clothing doesn't define a person's personality.

Clothing doesn't define personality
It defines what you are and how you carry yourself
If clothing wasn't as important I don't think fashion industry would one of the leading industries today
Fashion is an art , which shows the world who you are and who you want to be
Your upbringing and good heart have nothing to do
Upbringing is what your parents teach you ; behaviour , manners etc
While how you are is something completely inborn

Even in this day I am very judgemental and I am sorry for not suiting your category of the sane people
But seen from my viewpoint
I think how a person dresses is a part of carrying themselves
While you might come across 10,000 people but no one will know you , the only thing they will know of is how you are dressed
And I am sorry , but not sorry for thinking backless blouses are revealing and in public , when you are interacting with people from all classes you should try to show as less skin as possible.

I am in no mood to further argue because I cannot change anyone's perspective neither can they change mine.
All I want to say is after this I won't be replying here unless people are cursing me off and calling me names .

I want to say people are open to have their way of looking at things , and so do you.
You look at yours , I look at mine and let people look at theirs.
Their viewpoint should not be judged , and yours shouldn't be either.
If they think Purvi's blouses are contradictory to her character , then be it.
Just like you have issues with Ovi proposing the deal , they have a problem with Purvi's clothing.
And that should be respected and not be made fun of.
So please refrain from calling anyone haters, cheap, dumb. Old fashioned
I really don't want to come back here , believe me
Today is Mother's Day and let me enjoy with my mother
While you enjoy with yours
And to all of you mothers here , happy morhers day !
No hard feelings , as long as you have not passed personal comments on me.
Peace. 😊

Originally posted by: -ScarletRose-

Babe you should practice what you preach. More to the point you should stop twisting YOUR'S and OTHER'S words because I did not mention a thing about you calling bengali women uncultured😳

Also may I quote what you said

Yeah but I am sure your friends don't so preach sanskaars, morality etc and point out others when her standard of good doesnt match them

I wear clothes like Ovi too , at least used to before I gained weight

And I see nothing wrong in it

But if I preached about sanskaar , etc i wouldn't wear transparent saris and backless blouses as it diverts the kind of attention many woman wouldn't want

Good gosh your statements are hurting my head you clearly denied talking about her clothing and sanskaars yet your post above suggested that one shouldn't preach about sanskaars and then wear backless sarees, erm ok. And what attention? They aren't literally going around screaming hey look I'm wearing a backless blouse men please feel free to ogle at me😆 if girls go around wearing western clothes and not giving a damn then why can't married women wear backless without giving a damn :/ your statements have no logic in them. If one preaches about religion yet doesn't dress according to the religion does that mean they are a bad person?

And I thought I was stating the truth if it offended you or you took it personal then that's just too bad. I couldn't care less :)

No I did not say YOU said that I was calling Bengali women uncultured
Someone else did but I am sorry I should have replied to that in another post
Again, I hope you know there is a fine difference between nature and nurture
A person can dress however they want and yet be pure at heart
It's not about what you wear that defines if you're a good person or not
It's about how you THINK
Some people may be attention seekers and yet be good people
Just like drinking doesn't make a person BAD
I always preach what I practice
Don't worry about me
My parents are Muslims , but none of us wear hijab and no I am not a bad person 😆
At least I would like to think so
My lord and I know I never hurt anyone intentionally
Again, if I am wearing a backless blouse , men are looking at me I could care less agreed
But WHY would I want to wear it in public if there are chances of people looking at twice :S
Is the train station the only place for me to show my skin ?
:s
No one shouldn't preach about sanskaars etc when they are open to ridiculous comments
Now as Pallavi25 said her friends are mothers etc
I am sure they are wearing it when they think its appropriate
They wouldn't wear it at a super market and roam around
My mom wears backless blouses too, and she has taught me a lot about life
But she wouldn't wear it when travelling in trains because that's not appropriate
Sanskaars don't have anything to do with clothing
It has to do with your mindset
It's about knowing and understanding what's appropriate and when

Do you need to go and ask for attention from people ?
Do you think the guys who are teasing girls in the sidewalks etc
Which is NOT an uncommon scenario
The girls ask for it ? Do they have to ? LOL

It's not only about values , it's also about safety
Forget India. There are so many bad areas in the city I live in
And I can't always get a ride
I make if a point to myself when I am in those neighbourhoods
I don't wear anything that shows skin
Wrong conduct is inviting trouble / inviting unwanted attention

P.s - in future , please be nicer when commenting , I was never rude to you and I would expect the same
If you want to debate with me , please do it in a nicer way
I don't like to argue with people who are rude
I like to have an argument which is both thoughtful and understanding

when archu was wearing (before going to coma state) leggings,pants,kurtas (living in chawl)...being a mother of 5(including adopted)