Originally posted by: mysterygurl1427
arrange marriages work, but not all of them!!! There are many people even now, after having kids and being married for 30-40 years get divorced, only because they feel they want to be free and there is nothing wrong with that. I know many couples who have had children and have divorced because they don't think they can be in the relationship any longer...but are still friends with their ex half.
As there are divorces for love marriages also...won't you say...in the West where all are love marriages, divorce rate is a lot higher, won't you say...
In India, where arranged marriages occur still in a higher percentage, divorce rate is lower, still...won't you say...
So, where did the love go that ended in divorces in love marriages...truth is there isn't any guarantee what will work after marriage as marriage is totally a different ball game...when people just love...that interaction only happens few hours in a day, when those 2 people start living together, lot more things come into play...love is like eating noodles together without cooking it, or meeting one another for few hours but then living together is a totally different ball game...
Yes, some marriages that are arranged work out...and some people may fall in love, BUT not all consider it to be love, it is more like respect, friendship and understanding!
Actually, if 2 people respect each other even before love, that in itself is a great foundtaion of a relationship to work...
If 2 people understand each other (and basically have similar backgrounds) that is a great basis for marriage to work...more than love...
If 2 people are friends,...oh my God that relationship is bound to work...because these 3 are the pillars of any relationship to work...and not to forget trust...see how Purvi played with Arjun's trust...do you think Purvi/Arjun's relationship will work...
Similarities in an arrange marriage is what the parents go for...it is their experience that when background do not conflict, rest will fall into place...
Many people whom had have arranged marriages, despite having kids, despite respecting their husbands, feel suffocated in their marriage, or for even men...and they don't deserve that. 😊
Ok, so lets put your example forth, so Ovi and Ajrun remain married, WHAT IF Arjun never falls in love? What if he hates her for years, and she has to deal with his hate and indifference?? What is the gaurantee that Arjun would fall in love? After 10 years of their marriage, Arjun is still the way he is, maybe a little cooled off but still he doesn't give Ovi the right as a wife that she deserves then? What IF Ovi because of Arjun's behavior begins to feel suffocated in her marriage and wants to break it off then? 😛
You say 'what if'...you are assuming that they will not fall in love or make their marriage work...whereas I think given time, it will...no one can say, what can happen in the future...similarly, if Purvi/Arjun married, no one could say after 10 yrs they couldn't separate...happens in real life too...actually that is the risk in all relationships...even friendship doesn't last for ever...so one shouldn't take the risk or try to make it work...that isn't right, is it??? So, why not give Arjun/Ovi a chance...why get prejudice against them...that isn't dealing and evaluating a fictional character with a fair mind, right???
Guys just having a healthy debate with you all sorry if i said anything that offended any of you😃
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