Do u really think Archu is wrong?

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Dabulls23

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Posted: 14 years ago

#71

Sorry Tanya I by mistake clicked Like on your post on page 9 thinking I was editing mine...Sorry...😳

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Tanyaz

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Posted: 14 years ago

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Originally posted by: Dabulls23
Sorry Tanya I by mistake clicked Like on your post on page 9 thinking I was editing mine...Sorry...😳

click like a little later again and then it will go on it's own ...

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Posted: 14 years ago

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I don't think archana wrong bcoz ?

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karsri

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Posted: 14 years ago

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Originally posted by: suan

Hi Karsri,
@purple...the key words here are "summer breaks". Arjun works for the company full time and in a high level management position, where he has the authority it seems to hire and fire workers. He's not just travelling with his father on business trips or sitting in on meetings to gain experience.

What i meant is the boy i know travelled with his father when he was 16 year old during summer break. He visited my house at that time. He started thinking and looking into different business ideas when he was 19 and still in engineering school. Now he is 22 and he finished his degree and has his own business...

He's not studying at university during the term and working with his father in the holidays to learn business from the practical point of view.😊
Just out of curiousity, do any of the people you know work at management level and have the power to fire workers, or make similar major decisions?

If it is his own/family business, yes he/she will have power to do it. But in general they consult with their farther, who is the head of the business and experienced. Here, what arjun did is immature that's why they showed manav and DK corrected it. It seems like they are still teaching him...

since It is a drama, they exaggerate it bit more...

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--Hope--

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Posted: 14 years ago

#75

Originally posted by: bhallarox

Here is my opinion, Savita is not to be blamed for not giving tickets to Archu at all, in fact she had done all of this for her grandchildren, and her son, she wanted to save all of then from those Ks, didn't Manav lose his son due to Archana?

bhalla,

I felt really passionately for Savita when Manav rejected her after 2nd eloped marriage. That phase aside, Savita is not an innocent bystander or a neutral MIL. Savita has been busy with her own machinations overall for reasons that can be argued as right or wrong in each individual circumstance. So has Sulo. I feel both MILs are over involved in this marriage. Had both taken a back seat this couple might have actually stood a chance. Both mothers did styanaash of this couple

I don't think any element of Archana and Manav's marital life is something that Savita's opinions should matter in. or Sulo's for that matter.

Manav was an adult and generally speaking it should always be between the spouses. If Manav had made the decision to not give Archana tickets or another chance then that would be his perogative and right. Savita is a mother and if she sees her child and her grandchildren at risk it is her right to counsel her son and seek some stability or security on his and his children's behalf. but actions are a whole other thing, in my opinion. Savita is not a part of the marital equation and unless her assistance or intervention was sought by Manav specifically, her involvement is intrusive. As a wife, this is my opinion. As an MIL, I hope I keep the same. I don't know if I will as I have not reached that stage yet.

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Posted: 14 years ago

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Originally posted by: koolsadhu1000
On another note, I'd like to ask the members of this forum, especially the married members if a court case and losing a child due to negligence is not enough to break what was once a very loving marriage.

it is my experience that love inspires weddings but trust and respect seal marriages.

without trust there is no respect and without respect there is no trust. so these two are interwined and integral for the survival of any marriage. take away one of these and the other will disappear and the marriage will stumble.

Marriage vows typically require a commitment in good times and bad, sickness, health and wealth. there are no caveats attached. that I will be loyal to you except in all these instances or I will stand by your side except in all these incidents. When you question your husband's personal or prfoessional integrity you disrespect him and lose his trust. Same vice versa. It is way worse when this happens in the public arena. Yes, these are definite grounds for a broken marriage.

he may still love (that doesn't change) but can he trust her and respect her and expect the same from her? If he can then the marriage has a chance again. If not, then "No Deal"

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koolsadhu1000

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Posted: 14 years ago

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As an MIL, I hope I keep the same. I don't know if I will as I have not reached that stage yet.

Thats precisely what Varsha says ...As an MIL she may have done the right thing ...standing by and watching son getting jailed , court cases slapped on him , his finances nil and CONSTANT mental stress and insults due to a histrionic sasuraal , must have NOT been easy for a mom . The son was clearly a simpleton who thought all this nuksaan was the best thing to have happened to him . Maybe she thought its high time she took matters in her hands ? While we don't deny it was intrusive , we certainly don't MIND the intrusion , hai na Varsha ?😃

Going to Canada minus Archana was the BEST thing to have happened to Manav in a longgg time . Sometimes we feel like CHEERING the intrusive monster .😉

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koolsadhu1000

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Posted: 14 years ago

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he may still love (that doesn't change)

Actually it DOES change 😆 but thats in real life . In TV serials it does not even if ur financially finished or ur child is dead . I know that all LOVE from my heart wud fly OUT of the window the moment a court case attempting to prove me fraudulent wud have been slapped on me either my my husband or mother . So I get highly entertained by the nonsense they show like climbing Temple steps with trumpets blowing indicating PYAAR .

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Dabulls23

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Posted: 14 years ago

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Originally posted by: koolsadhu1000
As an MIL, I hope I keep the same. I don't know if I will as I have not reached that stage yet.

Thats precisely what Varsha says ...As an MIL she may have done the right thing ...standing by and watching son getting jailed , court cases slapped on him , his finances nil and CONSTANT mental stress and insults due to a histrionic sasuraal , must have NOT been easy for a mom . The son was clearly a simpleton who thought all this nuksaan was the best thing to have happened to him . Maybe she thought its high time she took matters in her hands ? While we don't deny it was intrusive , we certainly don't MIND the intrusion , hai na Varsha ?😃

Going to Canada minus Archana was the BEST thing to have happened to Manav in a longgg time . Sometimes we feel like CHEERING the intrusive monster .😉

Intrustion or not who cares 😛...Drastic times, one has to take drastic measures...Nothing wrong in that...Savita did not do it for her personal gain...She did it for her son and grand kids...Looked out for kids safety and Deshmukh family's best interest...

Personally we stay out of our children's married life or what they do with their ILs...As long as they spend their time with us and share our grand children with us..We try to be fair to both...Keep cordial relationships with Samdhis...But But but Both my sons know no matter how fair we are to both, at the end of the day we will have their backs...

If I had a daughter and she was only doing things for us and not at all being fair to her ILs I would be giving her some piece & peace of my mind...Lopsided relationships never works...One day it does have its repurcussions...We also believe in not intruding in daughter-SIL's married life either...

What Savita has done was the best thing possible for her son to keep his sanity and twins future IMHO...ArMan never had the trust-respect and wisdom to keep balanced relationship...Love is not enough to keep marriage going...Besides that there is a lot more required in keep marriage strong..

Here some major taking for granted by Archu & Karanjkars happened which was hugely inconsiderate towards Manav & his family...

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Lumos

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Posted: 14 years ago

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Originally posted by: koolsadhu1000
he may still love (that doesn't change)

Actually it DOES change😆but thats in real life . In TV serials it does not even if ur financially finished or ur child is dead . I know that all LOVE from my heart wud fly OUT of the window the moment a court case attempting to prove me fraudulent wud have been slapped on me either my my husband or mother . So I get highly entertained by the nonsense they show like climbing Temple steps with trumpets blowing indicating PYAAR .

i loved particularly his post of yours kool di...youve given such a short and sweet summary...and yeah the last line 😆 it amuses me too 😆