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On another note, I'd like to ask the members of this forum, especially the married members if a court case and losing a child due to negligence is not enough to break what was once a very loving marriage. Maybe I'm being too idealistic or overly pragmatic, but I'm not yet married so maybe I'm not the right person to talk about it. Until the court case, everything was hunky-dory between Archana and Manav. A lot of people including Savita had tried to break them apart, but did not succeed. That only started with the much more serious and more importantly, wilful court case decision by Archana. Manav's involvement with Riya's case and all of the other mistakes of both Archana and Manav before the court case were not wilful, they were done mostly out of ignorance. The court case wasn't and was also unnecessary since Archana's involvement didn't add anything to the case and nearly the whole chawl was there representing the opposition. Even then Manav had come around because of the children, I think. That changed completely when Archana, again wilfully, disrespected his views as a parent in front of the holiday party and stubbornly gave Soham to Varsha when Manav vehemently refused. First of all, disagreeing and disrepsecting in public was not required. She could have let it go at the time, and talked to him in private later. And it's not because Manav is the man or the husband, it's just respecting the marital relation and the spouse enough to voice any disagreements in private and not in front of other people. That would have still saved the marriage if Soham remained safe at the end of the party. But he wasn't. When he clearly told, multiple times and again at the party, that he didn't like Varsha anywhere near Soham and Manav was till overruled publicly and the end result was the possible death of the child; is it such a stretch to think the marriage was over at that point. Is it possible for a married couple to go back to the way they were, even for the sake of other children? Savita put the nail in the coffin yes, but the coffin was already made. Even if Savita didn't do what she did, and Manav didn't think Archana wanted money in exchange for giving away the twins; is it a wild thought that he may still have resented Archana for the loss of his son? Is it just runaway imagination that the twins resented their mother for having an incomplete family? Savita with her actions added another layer to the whole thing, but wasn't it already done with before that? Here, Manav still wanted Archana to go to Canada with his; but isn't it possible that if it happened to someone in real life, he/she may not be able to able to remain married to the spouse even if they still love each other? I really am curious.
Anupamaa
