Originally posted by: --Hope--
that being said we might disagree on some things
a) shravani As an adult had pre-marital sex and she decided to take responsibility for her actions and keep the child. That is commendable on her part. It should also be noted that she was not promiscous in nature but had a relationship with her fiance.
Agree
b) women during pregnancy suffer bouts of emotional insecurity about the future even with a partner so I can understand her fears considering the society she lived in and the fact that her fiance was dead. This makes her acceptance of Manav's proposal (on the perceived advent of his divorce) understandable. At this point I felt Girish was wrong in his acceptance of the arrangement.
I said it than and I agree with you now...FIrst of all Girish should have never made the statement "who will marry a pregnant unmarried daughter" which lead Manav to offer...Both were totally wrong...Girish could have supported his daughter and her decision to have a child or not..He was able financially and physically...I would have loved to see Shravni strong and independent single mother..
c) manav made a mistake in offering. I can understand his intentions were honourable but he did not have the right to make the offer as he was not unattached when he made it.
Right on sistah...Manav was not available to offer himself to Shravni...Whether his divorce to happen in 3 mo or not...He still was married to Archu...I blame him completely for making that grave mistake which started the downfall of PR IMHO..
d) the promise to shravani however vountarily made was always superceeded by the promise made by archana and manav of holy matrimony in front of the sacred agni. In my opinion, backing out on the second promise to preserve the solemnity and integrity of the first was what Manav and Archana should have done. I find both wrong in this. Manav for making the promise. Archana for not showing him the error of his promise being his other half in front of god.
Not only were ArMan wrong in that decision but they kept the charade going pretending to keep the promise and pacifying while carrying on their eye contact and goo goo eyes in front of Shrav and Jaywant...ArMan carried on their emotional-mental affair in front of all with besharmi IMHO...Both lead these people and other family members on..Members who have read me I have always kept this stand...I have blamed Manav, Archana both in all the mistakes they have made...
e) Shravani decided to have the child on her own. She did consider abortion later to ensure that the triangle did not continue but was stalled by Manav. Yet, I do not believe that this forced Manav to forsake his marriage and take on Shravani's child's responsibility as his own. He most definitely had the responsibility to support Shravani in making the child's future as an uncle. the child was his dead brother's legacy. Ia gree with you that Manav had responsibility for his influence in keeping the pregnancy going. I just don't agree that that responsibility was one of a father. An uncle, I think.
Agree...Manav did not have to be the daddy to Sachu...He and Archana could have taken and fulfilled Sachu's responsibility as kaka-Kaki...Uncle-Aunt...No need to break his marriage with Archana to give Sachu a father's name by marrying Shrav...Shtav never came between ArMan...It was Manav who put her there...But no one hated Manav for that...it was Shravni or Pooja Pihal took the brunt of all the hate for being in the middle...She tried to get out of this few times but Archana kept promisitng her that ArMan were over...But she said she will always have and will be in Manav's heart...Shrav-Manav rishta would be Samjauteka rishta which Shravni was to have...Hmmm
f) I cannot say if Shravani made a sacrifice as the reason she gave the child away was never really explained by CVs. public sentiment against pooja pihal was so strong and negative that they just wanted to get rid of shravani in the fastest way possible. I think they botched up her departure as a character.
Savita had lost so much that she manipulated Shrav into giving Sachu up to Deshmukhs with her emotional atyachar...I hated what Savita did to shrav...Than expecting Archana to take care of him is unreasonable...Viewers hated Shrav-Pooja Pihal because she was put into berween ArMan by Manav himself and not Shrav forced herself on him...CVs screwed up...Even here yet again I blame Girish for playing very passive fatherly role...He had money...He could have bought all the support system for her daughter and grand child..
g) I agree with you that "sacchu was not laawaaris ... his grandpa & mom r more rich than even dk". This is why I cannot reconcile with the fact that Shravani gave away a child she so desired and fought societal pressure and ridicule to keep. She is not the martyr type. From what I saw she had her self interest close at heart.
Heck Sachu was not Lawaris at all...He had mother, 2 grand fathers, grand mother and uncle-aunt...Way more money than needed to take care of Sachu and provide for the whole darn Deshmukh family...But Manav did not want to take from Girish...His pride was in the way...Fake ego I must say...I so wish Shrav had moved in with her father Girish, raised Sachin as a single mother with support of her father...They had money to provide all that...Agree Shrav was not the Martyr type at all...At the same time deshmukhs can be part of the extended family as they were LT. Sachin's family...A win win situation for both families..But NO CVs had to create this mess and Manav had to be the one to volunteer himself...He lead 2 women on for a looong time...One emotionally and the other verbally..
h) Archana has done many things as a wife and mother I can hardly digest forget abide by but where Sachin's upbringing is considered I am not sure how much fault I can place at her feet. Again, I cannot give an opinion more than this here as I have not watched these epis or kept in touch with the plot and everything that happened on the Savita-Archu-Sachin front.
Hope😃
As far as Sachin's bringing up no one can fault her but once she did take him as her cub-son, she does owe him as much as she owes any of her other children...Its the Q of principals and moral-ethics...Besides for the longest time after ArMan remarried neither even taook care of Sachin, it was Savita who took care of Sachu...Once ArMan moved back into Deshmukhs Archu was a mother like to Sachu...
In short For a lil while Sachu was the luckiest child as he got most love and affection from Archana...More than I can say for Soham, and the Twin girls who were her own flash and blood...As a mother she surely has failed...
Anupamaa
