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koolsadhu1000

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Posted: 14 years ago

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Kools, lets assume that Varsha is your best friend and she is seeking your advice about how to handle the Soham fiasco. She is frustrated and she needs guidance. You know all the facts regarding Archana and Varsha and their respective families.

What will you advise her as a good friend? Please remember you are her good friend and you need to help her. You need to give her sound advice that will benefit her emotionally and mentally in the long run.

Very frankly ...I would advise her to give the baby up and adopt another kid altogether coz having Archana in your life is simply not worth it .

But if she wept before me and told me that its impossibe now as she took care of baby for one year and she has become attached to it and theres no turning back for her now ...I would tell her to hurry up and

1] Adopt the baby legally as u said

2 ] Keep Archana away from it as much possible . Across the table BLUNT talks shud be held .

All this simply so baby shud not be confused with the two mom scenario . It shud be AAR ya PAAR .

This nonsense of loaning , borrowing , lending babies shud END .

I look at D house today and see no place for Soham there . Manav is busy and indifferent , Archana too wrapped up in Sachu , Savita quite happy in her life and Damodar cares a damn .

He seems wanted by Joshis . Thats the body language I get .

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aswapu

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Originally posted by: koolsadhu1000

You BET he will be sacrificed for one whim of Archana SOMETIMe in this serial . Its gonna be a super stupid whim . Manav will stand behind Archana and gulp . Savita will do some badbad but will be ignored by the Holy Package . I don't want it for Soham .

Just look at the Joshis .

1] Satish and manav have ONE way of showing love for wives ...giving IN . But Satish at least opposes Varsha from time to time ...he opposed Varsha by giving Manav license , that day he opposed her by telling Archana I am bringing Soham and coming to meet u .Manav NEVER opposes Archana . Soham will at least have an OBJECTIVE DAD

2 } The Joshi Grandparents are honestly BETTER than the D grandparents . Savita loves her grandkids but has been turned into a cartoon and Damodar doesnt feel a thing for ANY Grandkid ...he is a most indifferent , unemotional kinda funny man who is only bothered about his drinks nd food

3 ] Varsha has NO possibility of conceiving as off now so Soham being bypassed for ANOTHER sibling is remote . Archana MAY bypass him for Sachu . There he will be the only child and the LAADLA of Joshis .

I am looking at this strictly from Sohams POV .

Hi Kools,

Again let me say that Soham was born in the D family. He is the flesh and blood of Deshmukhs.

I agree the Joshis are better grandparents but unfortunately he was not born into their family.

If the D grandparents or parents r bad, it is his destiny. It is not necessary that every goodlooking child should be taken out of their original families and be given to families with good grandparents or family members. It does not happen that way.

Well, if the original family gave away the child forever to a different family then it is totally different story. Here it did not happen till now. All that happened is nothing preplanned or in the legal way.

It is a chaos out there. Both Archana and Varsha are responsible for this fiasco.

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koolsadhu1000

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If the D grandparents or parents r bad, it is his destiny. It is not necessary that every goodlooking child should be taken out of their original families and be given to families with good grandparents or family members. It does not happen that way.

Well, if the original family gave away the child forever to a different family then it is totally different story. Here it did not happen till now. All that happened is nothing preplanned or in the legal way.

It is a chaos out there. Both Archana and Varsha are responsible for this fiasco.

Wouldn't have said a thing about his DESTINY if this LOANING would not have been done . The Fact remains that he was DESTINED to be GIVEN UP by his mom to ANOTHER couple to call them MOM and DAD . So isn't THAT his Destiny too ?

Where has he stayed with biological parents ? If legality is the problem , Varsha shud take care of it .

He shud not to to a mother who GIVES HIM UP .

He shud go to a mother who REFUSES TO GIVE HIM UP at any cost . Varsha seems to be doing that .

Archana CHANGED his destiny . So She shud now stick to her actions .

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koolsadhu1000

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Again let me say that Soham was born in the D family. He is the flesh and blood of Deshmukhs.

I agree the Joshis are better grandparents but unfortunately he was not born into their family.

Where were grandparent when this stupid deal was made ?That time why they did not speak up ? Damodar too scared to hurt bahu ? Savita helpless before joru ka gulam son ?

Too bad then . For grandparents Sohams security shud not be tampered with . Grandparents too agreed with archana when she gave him up . Also Grandparents will die soon , they r old . What they want dont want shud not be criteria anymore . Whats best for Soham shud be criteria .

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mickeym

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Posted: 14 years ago

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I couldn't found out any better one ...

cv spoiled every one...

i felt surprised to see damoder's behavior with his grandson...he has no emotional attachment with soham...

I think savitha is a better mother...

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Kalapi

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Posted: 14 years ago

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Hi Kools,

Again let me say that Soham was born in the D family. He is the flesh and blood of Deshmukhs.

I agree the Joshis are better grandparents but unfortunately he was not born into their family.

If the D grandparents or parents r bad, it is his destiny. It is not necessary that every goodlooking child should be taken out of their original families and be given to families with good grandparents or family members. It does not happen that way.

Well, if the original family gave away the child forever to a different family then it is totally different story. Here it did not happen till now. All that happened is nothing preplanned or in the legal way.

It is a chaos out there. Both Archana and Varsha are responsible for this fiasco.

But since DESTINY as you put it has given Soham a chance to find better parents and grandparents, why not give it to him...he didn't choose either, (meaning the bad or goodparent/grandparent), but since his biological parents were able to so easily give him up like a toy, and unrelated parent seems to strike a a balance why not give him to those who truely cherish him...opportunity comes only once:)

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bhallarox

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Posted: 14 years ago

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Kool Di, do you think Soham should spend time at the D house with Savita?

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Posted: 14 years ago

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Originally posted by: koolsadhu1000

Again let me say that Soham was born in the D family. He is the flesh and blood of Deshmukhs.

I agree the Joshis are better grandparents but unfortunately he was not born into their family.

Where were grandparent when this stupid deal was made ?That time why they did not speak up ? Damodar too scared to hurt bahu ? Savita helpless before joru ka gulam son ?

Too bad then . For grandparents Sohams security shud not be tampered with . Grandparents too agreed with archana when she gave him up . Also Grandparents will die soon , they r old . What they want dont want shud not be criteria anymore . Whats best for Soham shud be criteria .

well lolll 😆 ... i have heard that in ekta's serials grandparents r still hale & heart even after crossing 100 ... i have even heard that in kyunki & kahani ghar ghar ki there were 5 generations staying in 1 house ... so v can even expect drunkard dmodar to be there after 2 leaps also

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bhallarox

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Posted: 14 years ago

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Damodar doesn't need Soham, all he does is drink all day and night, his wife has told him 1,000 times but now I think Savita should not care much anymore, as he is so stubborn.

He was in the precap, and he was looking angry at varsha.

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aswapu

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Originally posted by: koolsadhu1000

Kools, lets assume that Varsha is your best friend and she is seeking your advice about how to handle the Soham fiasco. She is frustrated and she needs guidance. You know all the facts regarding Archana and Varsha and their respective families.

What will you advise her as a good friend? Please remember you are her good friend and you need to help her. You need to give her sound advice that will benefit her emotionally and mentally in the long run.

Very frankly ...I would advise her to give the baby up and adopt another kid altogether coz having Archana in your life is simply not worth it .

But if she wept before me and told me that its impossibe now as she took care of baby for one year and she has become attached to it and theres no turning back for her now ...I would tell her to hurry up and

1] Adopt the baby legally as u said

2 ] Keep Archana away from it as much possible . Across the table BLUNT talks shud be held .

All this simply so baby shud not be confused with the two mom scenario . It shud be AAR ya PAAR .

This nonsense of loaning , borrowing , lending babies shud END .

I look at D house today and see no place for Soham there . Manav is busy and indifferent , Archana too wrapped up in Sachu , Savita quite happy in her life and Damodar cares a damn .

He seems wanted by Joshis . Thats the body language I get .

Well, I would say that this is the perfect piece of advice for a friend.

Yes, Soham is wanted by the Joshis. true. It is because they have no other child in their house. Satish is the only child of Bhavna and Mohanrao. Thanks to their bahu, they lost all their chance of getting a grandchild of their own blood. They are yearning for a baby. Their life is void without a baby. Probably, Soham just filled the void for sometime and that is why he is wanted.

Whereas, in the D house they have Sachin's child, Vandita has a daughter and Manav too has a child (which is still in confusion). They can still can have more grandkids. So their craving for a grandkid is not as much as that of the Joshis. Remember, when Shravani was leaving with Sachu, Savita fell at her bahu's (not technically bahu) feet to have him. Sachin was their first grandkid and the last symbol of their dead son. At that time Savitha was craving but probably not as much now.

I have seen poor families with little education having 4-5 kids. There are rich, educated and decent families with no kids at all. Why? Whay has god given that disparity?

Is it possible that the 2 children from the poor family given to the rich family? Normally, it does not happen.

I personally know a lady who was yearning for a girl child (she has 3 sons). When she went to India she saw their sister's housemaid's little daughter. She played with her and asked her mom if she can adopt her. Initially, the housemaid agreed but later refused to part with her daughter. Even poverty does not force people to get rid of their children.

The fact of life I believe is nobody will not get all the happiness in life. We will be deprived of one thing or the other at least in some point of time.

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