Kool's Commentary : 2 April PR - Page 9

I don't know why she is so desperate to please savita ....

I wish she did not take this much abuse from her mother in law . In that way , most definitely Archana is a bad example that I would not want any girl to follow .

Girls do try their best ( in the initial stages of their marriage ) to make their mother in laws happy . Bloody hell, you should have seen the way I tried .Uff....

But extreme of everything is wrong . Archana is just not right by going to these extremes ......

I admired her for her social work and no nonsense attitude . She influenced me a lot as I grew from 19 onwards . No one is bad ..........all relationships need time , bas . Even today when I do certain things I often wonder if they will match her expectation and I try to do them better . Finally when i came to the US , I had grown more used to her than my own husband and I didnt feel particularly thrilled at living seperately . I had sort of grown used to her . We wud have all heated debates where she took the older generation side and I , like nicki does , the younger generation . We wud go for programs , discuss menus , she wud feel I cooked far large quantities and I wud tell her she cooked a little on lesser side 😆 , that people look in vessels before eating . Those were fun days and I miss them . Yes I underwent tremendous adjustment but at the end of it I gained a lot too . I am no hitler she really is one .😆

Anyway , no matter how difficult a relationship , if one does not give up and keeps the channel of communication open then it will get sorted out eventually ...

She told me the day i got married ....give it time . All relationships in sasural . And dont come running to me for small small things , I wont entertain it !

It was very very difficult at first . For instance , My MIl , excellent cook though she is , is not a patient teacher , she expects one shud know the basics . So i learnt by just observing . I wud stand for hours and simply watch her . She was simply NOt the type to say Ok Beti now na u shud do this and now na that .

Sometimes I wud not understand why she wanted so much perfection in even making the bed in the house . Her two sisters were not as strict as her and I wud think their daughter in laws r lucky . But then i understood that she had been eldest sister and cared for her siblings and if she did mistake her mother wud hold her responsible and be very sharp with her .

The best part I admired about her was inspite of being from that age , marraige was never her goal .....education and job was ! Sometimes I wish I had half her strength .

I did not want Manav to TRICK Shravani by saying that I cannot marry you after the baby is born.

What I wanted was for them to show it this way- Manav confesses honestly to Girish, his family everyone... and Girish begs that please hold it all till the baby is born else Shravani will go into shock. Manav tries to convince them that its not right but fails.

After the baby is born, Girish breaks the truth to Shravani in a mature and understanding manner about why this marriage is not right for her and that she shud not get into it. And leave her to make a choice.

Manav says that if you still want to marry me after my confession, then even I'm ready, since I was the one who encouraged you unknowingly. I will try my best to be a good husband to you. But I just wanted you to know the truth.

From here we can have two things- either Shravani can be good and sacrifice owing to her realisation that Archana and Manav are her true well wishers, or she can turn negative and try and harm Archana which will infuriarate Manav badly.

About the divorce, I think it will be postponed cos of Shravani's delivery. Both Manav and Archana won't make it to the court.

Of course this was only an alternate solution. The best according to me should be that Manav should straightaway confess. Shravani will have to be a little mature and see that this marriage harms everyone.

Kools I agree that in India, marriages are usually based on compromise or are arranged- I am not against them. In fact on a practical level, who knows Manav would gradually accept Shravani even though he would not be able to forget Archana.

What offends me is the idea that they are showing that marriage can be broken in this manner for an outsider. Marriages are meant to stay together and fight problems together... the marriage shouldn't be broken to solve the problem. If tomorrow, some other thing crops up, will Manav divorce Shravani to marry another girl? NO! Doesn't work this way. If they show them breaking the marriage for a promise or commitment, then it gives a really bad message. What 'majboori'? Why such a loser attitude. Why not fight back against the circumstances? Why not look for solutions? Why not have a positive outlook? Why 'compromise' for the whole life for a promise? Why can't everyone (including Shravani) be a bit mature here??? Vaishali is as old as Shravani, I'm youger than her, but I dont think we have the same ideaology. Shravani is a fundamentally good girl and I think she will understand if anyone (especially her father) tries to explain her. What does she lack that she has to get married in such a way where she is looked upon as a burden by everyone? Even Manav is unhappy. Isn't that a blot on self respect as well????

Manav is wrong in deprioritising his marriage for his commitment.. I can understand his reasons.. he has gone too far now... but this guy needs to sit and assess the situation and look for solutions. Unfortunately I'm doing this job for him.