Is this okay? Himmanshoo's language with Amruta - Page 4

Originally posted by: vibg

nothing to do with bhartiya naari.. just basic manners and respecting the one you love😆

aap toh gyaan mat hi do😆😆

@ Unnati

I appreciate your point. Yes things are relative. But not everything right?

Then with your logic if someone is slapped but it is okay in their world, it is okay. As long as they are slapped or kicked and they are fine then no problem. But certainly that is not true.

In fact, you are saying that we are not broad minded if we don't just let things be.

Not everything is okay. That is the point. So where to draw the line? Himmanshoo called Amruta stupid before and she was quite upset. She retaliated. I assume that this is okay or just a "cute fight" and the fans love angry Himmanshoo because he is so sexy.

You don't see a problem in this. If he calls her an idiot lovingly it is fine and up to interpretation but to slip into relative thinking is dangerous.

Partners calling each other derrogatory names in anger (not in cute fun) is not okay. That should not be a wishy washy standard. Girls should take a stand on that.

Forget his looks, his muscles and all the other things people drool over. Think about the way in society people should be spoken to.

Originally posted by: vibg

nothing to do with bhartiya naari.. just basic manners and respecting the one you love😆

Originally posted by: Julie0001

@ Unnati

I appreciate your point. Yes things are relative. But not everything right?

Then with your logic if someone is slapped but it is okay in their world, it is okay. As long as they are slapped or kicked and they are fine then no problem. But certainly that is not true.

I think just as you mentioned there needs to be a line of civility in your post, there needs to be a limit to assuming things as well. Twisting my logic here, out of context isn't going to help. It's pretty decent to give an anology within the context of what I'd spoken, otherwise, I'd consider it extreme and invalid.

In fact, you are saying that we are not broad minded if we don't just let things be.

Not everything is okay. That is the point. So where to draw the line? Himmanshoo called Amruta stupid before and she was quite upset. She retaliated. I assume that this is okay or just a "cute fight" and the fans love angry Himmanshoo because he is so sexy.

You don't see a problem in this. If he calls her an idiot lovingly it is fine and up to interpretation but to slip into relative thinking is dangerous.

Partners calling each other derrogatory names in anger (not in cute fun) is not okay. That should not be a wishy washy standard. Girls should take a stand on that.

Forget his looks, his muscles and all the other things people drool over. Think about the way in society people should be spoken to.

Originally posted by: * Unnati *

I personally believe if such are the standards one sets to be in love or be around the one you love, then some of them might as well try and view the world practically and not as idealistically as they see it themselves. Because what may be "basic manners" to some, might be "too formal" or "too stuck up", or " too rigid" or "too conditional" to another.

I think this applies to people differently. So it's all about perspectives. Judging a couple having a different style, different from one's own personal style, cannot even be considered valid then.😆 Again, that's my opinion. You may feel free to disagree or differ.

Originally posted by: vibg

Thank You. We disagree. Yes, it is everyone's own opinion! what's funny to one, could be abusive to others.. esp. to strangers who don't know you and are watching you on TV. If you put yourself out in a reality show and behave a certain way over and over agin... people will make observations.. some good some bad.

@shanakyasharan

With what I have seen of Amruta and Himmanshoo, they are not a coocheekoo couple. And the words "idiot" and "stupid" are not disrespectful either. They maybe a couple which is idealized, but we can't forget the fact that they are not ideal. They are humans, and little fights and differences are normal. In fact, they are healthy. As Amruta had noted, 'it's in the spur of the moment. "

Originally posted by: RomAtHeart

With what I have seen of Amruta and Himmanshoo, they are not a coocheekoo couple. And the words "idiot" and "stupid" are not disrespectful either. They maybe a couple which is idealized, but we can't forget the fact that they are not ideal. They are humans, and little fights and differences are normal. In fact, they are healthy. As Amruta had noted, 'it's in the spur of the moment. "

And talking about civility or decency, I don't feel idiot or stupid is derogatory to that extent. The kind of equation HimRuta share, which is less of cheesy and more of friendly, it was quite normal seeing them bicker like children. 😆

THANK YOU😆

@ Unnati, it is not nice to say that other people have motives for being here such as favortism to other couples.

You can check all my posts and actually I have always been a Himmanshoo fan for several years.

It is insulting that you have to find a hidden motive vs, the obvious one. I was born in America and raised here. There is a concept of verbal abuse. I am not saying that this is happening here, but I do think words can hurt. Language has meaning and should be used thoughtfully.

I am not okay with him calling her stupid in anger. Amruta has even said that he says things in anger that are unfair.

Please be careful about ascribing motives and intentions to those who write on these topics. You are cheapening the debate here.

That is the same as me saying that the girls who think it is okay for bf/husbands to call them names have the motive of having low self-esteem issues and will accept crap from anyone.