Is this okay? Himmanshoo's language with Amruta

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Posted: 10 years ago

#21

@TM.. Appropriate and thought provoking thread. I agree with your initial point and the counters.

No, it is never ok to speak with in a manner these two do. Once in a while, mazaak is different among friends or behind closed doors. I enjoy their dancing and they do make a cute couple and seem to have a deep-rooted love. But how they treat each other is different story. I always find one upmanship with them. And yes.. Amrita has said "i tolerate himanshoo's anger and he says hurtful things when angry". And thats never should b ok for anyone. Their families r watching this too. Kiss and makeup is not an answer to every single laDaai' It appears just like their deep rooted love, their grudges are deeprooted too. All the sacrifices both keep referring to with each other.. Careerwise, peraonalitywise and whatnot. It all comes out in one form or the other and neither leaves an opportunity to verbally attack, walk off in anger or bring out the past.

Whatever the unresolved issues in such a new marraige (stemming from their long courtship) .. Tolerating abuse is not a solution.

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Natkat

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Posted: 10 years ago

#22

I agree with T.M.I agree they dance well and known each other but still few things are not ok. I am married and i would not tolerate my husband calling me an idiot in public or in front of many people. . Probably once in a way in fun is fine but i think there is a line for everything. They do know each other long but then the way they fight I sometimes find that too much. Specially when Amrutha walked out on him when he was reciting his poem and his anger towards her. Everything cannot be considered as fun . My opinion.

Edited by Natkat - 10 years ago

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Dina

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Posted: 10 years ago

#23

I didn't really feel that it looked offensive or anything, every couple shares a different kind of equation with each other, and HimRuta have been best friends for more than 10 years, calling each other idiot really doesn't seem like a big deal... I call my siblings and best friend idiot all the time, be it in a serious way or jokingly, non of us ever feel offensive.

I think it would be best if you all watched this interview, they themselves explain their behavior well!! maybe you guys would understand our point then... watch from exactly 5:00

[YOUTUBE]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qm7RuTpMF9A [/YOUTUBE]

Edited: Exactly what Amruta said:

Amruta: Ye thodi an ban har rishte mei hoti hai, hum literally nahi lete hai toh aap bi literally mat leejiye,(@Red they BOTH said that together) woh ek spur of the moment hota hai, jab woh nikal jata hai, yeh bi normal hojate hai mei bi normal hojati hoon"

So please guys, CHILL!

Edited by -DeeNaa- - 10 years ago

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vibg

@vibg

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Posted: 10 years ago

#24

Thanks for sharing the interview, but I don't need to hear them justify their behaviors. Actions speak louder than words for me! and their actions are really not in good taste... according to me. I have seen that video.. it was posted before and it is quite entertaining.

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Julie0001

@Julie0001

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Posted: 10 years ago

#25

@vibj,

I appreciate your response. I think your point is what bothers me a bit about the dynamics of this couple.

Now I know that this relationship is being "performed" but I wonder to what effect.?

I have liked Himmanshoo for many years on TV, but I am sad to say I like him less here.

Amruta makes a big deal about her sacrifices for Himmanshoo and how she completely changed herself for him. She takes his anger and it is worth it. She gave up her identity but what she got back is priceless. She has said this more than once: she became his image of what he wants in a woman.

But the way she talks about still wanting to be thanked by him makes me feel it is still unresolved.

He on the other hand put up her feelings for a music director and felt that he gave up some of his early success to help her career.

He actually feels the need to say that he is responsible ( in part) for her very successful Marathi TV career.

Why mention that?

The way they talk about these things create a vibe of one upmanship, as you are saying. He calls her stupid off camera and she reacted by calling him egotistical and walking off.

If this is the dynamics on camera what happens off camera? Today is a dumb love challenge and in frustration he snaps "idiot." to her. She has already said that this is something she puts up with. Why such a reaction in a dumb game?

I am not saying that Himmanshoo and Amruta are not a couple in love and dance great. But do we have to accept all behaviors as correct and kind?

Chetan went as far as to say all sons should be raised as Himmanshoo. Is everything he does a model?

Edited by Julie0001 - 10 years ago

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Posted: 10 years ago

#26

Originally posted by: Natkat
I agree with T.M.I agree they dance well and known each other but still few things are not ok. I am married and i would not tolerate my husband calling me an idiot in public or in front of many people. . Probably once in a way in fun is fine but i think there is a line for everything. They do know each other long but then the way they fight I sometimes find that too much. Specially when Amrutha walked out on him when he was reciting his poem and his anger towards her. Everything cannot be considered as fun . My opinion.

you are right. i am married too and would never call my husband an idiot in front of friends or family..nor would he! definitely not on TV. "how stupid" or this is stupid.. still chalta hai.. but idiot might work in school or college with friends, but not with your life partner and that too in public. very immature behavior and in bad taste!

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karishma

@shanakyasharan

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Posted: 10 years ago

#27

gosh it was such a cute lil fight...the way he said shaant basa n then she said something n he said idiot.it was cute

come on ur friends calling u idiot n stupid is fine but jaise aapke hubby kuch bolte hai u guys become all sorts of bhartiya naari😆

kyaa yaar

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* Unnati *

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Posted: 10 years ago

#28

Originally posted by: Julie0001
@ Unnati,

Amruta has said that she does not like it but tolerates it. I like Himmanshoo for a long time but his short tempered name-calling very disagreeable. No other spouse or girlfriend is spoken to like that in anger at least in front of the camera.

Yes it is true that it is their choice to have this relationship. However it is being held up as a "great love"

You may be fine one day when in annoyance or anger your spouse calls you stupid in front of millions of people. That is fine.

However is is not a standard that women should aspire to. Being spoken to in a respectful manner is a fundamental right that many people demand.

Again in your personal standard you may be fine with a certain behavior, but it does not make it right.

They are aware that they are on national tv; Himmanshoo called her stupid before and Amruta was upset. Yet there is no filtering on his part of humiliating her.

Again, what is right and what is wrong is also a very subjective criterion to have here. One person's standards of right or wrong, is not going to be applicable to another. People need to understand that, judging others based on personal preferances is never going to give another the benefit of doubt, but rather is opening ways to be judgemental and critical about things. I honestly feel, the world is much bigger than our own understanding and having a broadminded approach towards it, helps reduce misunderstandings or misjudgements of things or situations. There is no aspect of tolerance here and there is nothing either should tolerate when it comes to words like "Idiot" or "Stupid". Those are extremely unharmful and a kiddish connotation rather , which doesn't even bring the topic of women's rights or civility here in my opionion. lol That's just way too far stretched. I love the way Himanshoo and Amruta are and they are special simply because of the fact that, they don't bother about cameras or putting up an image or a facade. They're a lot more genuine and real for hiding what and how they are, "behind closed doors". Even if they do refer to each other this way at home, I do not personally see anything wrong with it, as it's their choice and it's their personality. I find it cute and humourous. It needn't match with every other person out there and most importantly, they needn't get approval from every other person out there, on how they ought to behave or be round each other. It doesn't matter to them what people think of them, because they are secure and understand each other's style and are in sync with each other. Thus they've been together for the years they have and are going rock solid, despite all the odds.

And if you remember, Amruta may have changed herself for Himanshoo but she did eventually say, that the change is nothing, as what she has received in the end is "priceless". So she has no regrets about that and she knows, what they are all about.

Edited by * Unnati * - 10 years ago

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vibg

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Posted: 10 years ago

#29

Originally posted by: shanakyasharan
gosh it was such a cute lil fight...the way he said shaant basa n then she said something n he said idiot.it was cute

come on ur friends calling u idiot n stupid is fine but jaise aapke hubby kuch bolte hai u guys become all sorts of bhartiya naari😆

kyaa yaar

nothing to do with bhartiya naari.. just basic manners and respecting the one you love😆