Do I need to be married to understand this? - Page 4

Here is my take on your post and question. I m a married woman with years of experience.

Women don't leave husbands at the first signs of trouble in marraige specially when the said husband
RK thinks his friend understands him better than his wife and it is natural to defend a friend specially when the friend is not the cause of problem but they themselves are.

Nice post. Marriage is a two way not one way as mb said today she is fighting lonely to save their relationship n she needs rk support in this.so point is both has to make efforts to save relationship.if one tried it may be saved at tat moment r everytime one tries n it may r may not saved also permanently.if tried by both then may be they ve happy mrg at the end.cvs showing the extreme things n unhealthy relationship is not commendable n not making sense also.it may happen in real also but not appreciated by viewers.understandable it's just drama but they r limits if showing negativity r crap in the name of show.

Originally posted by: bahnni.mj

FANTASTIC post 👏

To me its a question of valuing the institution of marriage and for that mutual trust,faith and respect are mandatory,the reason I didn't mention love is because I'm certain there is no dearth of it from either Madhu or RK for each other...but love isn't enough.I've said this before,love can forge a relationship but trust carries it forward.

Between RK & Madhu,the one who has relentlessly tried to uphold the sanctity of marriage is the latter one...from trying to be a honest life partner to his biggest support in times of need.I realise that she she has taken certain decisions that have proved detrimental to RK's career...but the harm done was unintentional.I've read posts where people have been talking about her ambiguous stance with regards to her BW aspirations but why is it that she always has to be clear about her intentions,has to assauge RK's wounded ego and suffer humiliation for his shortcomings...why can't RK be considerate for once,why can't he be happy for his wife's success??RK's shortcomings are well accepted but Madhu's lack of 'understanding' is not??If so then why?Because RK is an 'anti-hero'!!

Right now Madhu is 'trying' to save her marriage because its painful to break a bond as deep as the one RM share but when will it be considered enough from her behalf before she is allowed to walk away from this marriage?The responsibility lies with both not one,so if one half of this relationship can conveniently forget his boundaries then the other can only do so much to remind him of it.I for one (and as a married woman) want Madhu to walk away and show us that she's only human...and if its an error then she's allowed to make one and expect forgiveness in return,just like she has forgiven the other for his unpardonable ones.

Originally posted by: swan20

Its not only about the other woman. Even all the other things that RK is subjecting her to is not right at all.Using your spouse as a punching bag to vent out your frustrations is ok to an extent but the extreme that they have shown in this serial , in real life no self respecting woman should take it after a point. Absolutely nothing warrants the constant public humiliation that Madhu undergoes. Walking out on a marriage is not at all easy and I have no issues with Madhu trying to salvage the relationship. What puts me off is she not standing up for herself. He humiliates her, verbally lashes out...she cries...he apologizes...she forgives and everything is fine.

I strongly believe in the institution of marriage but a marriage cannot thrive on only one person taking efforts to make it work. And it certainly should not come at the expense of one's self respect. But this is a show and things are shown for the sake of drama. RK 's character gets away with things which a man in the real world should not get away with. However the CVs do need to be mindful of curbing their penchant for extremes and stop making grand statements about addressing social issues because this show is doing anything but that 😆

Great post 👍🏼

Originally posted by: bahnni.mj

FANTASTIC post 👏

To me its a question of valuing the institution of marriage and for that mutual trust,faith and respect are mandatory,the reason I didn't mention love is because I'm certain there is no dearth of it from either Madhu or RK for each other...but love isn't enough.I've said this before,love can forge a relationship but trust carries it forward.

Between RK & Madhu,the one who has relentlessly tried to uphold the sanctity of marriage is the latter one...from trying to be a honest life partner to his biggest support in times of need.I realise that she she has taken certain decisions that have proved detrimental to RK's career...but the harm done was unintentional.I've read posts where people have been talking about her ambiguous stance with regards to her BW aspirations but why is it that she always has to be clear about her intentions,has to assauge RK's wounded ego and suffer humiliation for his shortcomings...why can't RK be considerate for once,why can't he be happy for his wife's success??RK's shortcomings are well accepted but Madhu's lack of 'understanding' is not??If so then why?Because RK is an 'anti-hero'!!

Right now Madhu is 'trying' to save her marriage because its painful to break a bond as deep as the one RM share but when will it be considered enough from her behalf before she is allowed to walk away from this marriage?The responsibility lies with both not one,so if one half of this relationship can conveniently forget his boundaries then the other can only do so much to remind him of it.I for one (and as a married woman) want Madhu to walk away and show us that she's only human...and if its an error then she's allowed to make one and expect forgiveness in return,just like she has forgiven the other for his unpardonable ones.

Originally posted by: Betterose

Here is my take on your post and question. I m a married woman with years of experience.

I had a very tough time in the beginning years. Because all the love u profess before marriage does not count once u start living together and faults and imperfections surface. I have been tempted to walk out many times and so has my husband. But forgiving and accepting each other with all faults has been a process and at the end of it we realize if we had not stuck it out we would have been lonelly and sad. I am very very happy now because acceptance with all faults and imperfections is the greatest test of love. We now see how lucky we r to have each other. However, imperfections r ok not verbal abuse, physical abuse and insulting each other at all times. And mistakes r made by both and forgiveness by both

It is said that "love means to forgive"

Originally posted by: Savz_uniqueblis

Nice post. Marriage is a two way not one way as mb said today she is fighting lonely to save their relationship n she needs rk support in this.so point is both has to make efforts to save relationship.if one tried it may be saved at tat moment r everytime one tries n it may r may not saved also permanently.if tried by both then may be they ve happy mrg at the end.cvs showing the extreme things n unhealthy relationship is not commendable n not making sense also.it may happen in real also but not appreciated by viewers.understandable it's just drama but they r limits if showing negativity r crap in the name of show.

onlight note does viewers need to be cvs to understand this story lool.

Actually breaking a marriage is not so easy for anyone be it man or wife in our larger Indian society. Its always easier said than done not because you are married or unmarried. Its all about not being in a particular situation or not experiencing that particular situation in life. Even married women or men wont understand the plight unless they themselves go through it. Showing resilience to adversities and fighting for the dignity by staying firm and not running away is what makes Indian women more strong. I personally believe in fighting with the situation and not running away from it. Unless you are sure and confirmed that you have dried up all your options of saving your marriage, you shouldn't stop your efforts.

Originally posted by: Savz_uniqueblis

Nice post. Marriage is a two way not one way as mb said today she is fighting lonely to save their relationship n she needs rk support in this.so point is both has to make efforts to save relationship.if one tried it may be saved at tat moment r everytime one tries n it may r may not saved also permanently.if tried by both then may be they ve happy mrg at the end.cvs showing the extreme things n unhealthy relationship is not commendable n not making sense also.it may happen in real also but not appreciated by viewers.understandable it's just drama but they r limits if showing negativity r crap in the name of show.

onlight note does viewers need to be cvs to understand this story lool.

ek bhaut purani kahawat hai jo ki aaj kal madhu par bilkul fit baithti hai AKELA CHANA KABHI BHADH NAHIN JHAUKTA.