Do I need to be married to understand this? - Page 3

Originally posted by: 4ever4love

See, this is the kind of response I was expecting! I was expecting ppl to say that Madhu should leave and there is only so much one person can do and only so much that one can take.

But I have liked the other responses because it made me realize that Madhu needs to stay and fight for her marriage.

Yes down the road, heck maybe even in a few days, I will want Madhu to walk out BUT for now, I am seeing how much strength it takes to stay. And so, Madhu is not coming across to me as weak anymore.

Let's see what happens next!

So for u now if Madhu stays with a husband who cant stand him right now, she will be strong.

well, for me i cant stand women crying. if she is strong she shud do something which she is not doing. for me she is the weakest person. i cannot see that invisible strengths people talking here.

Originally posted by: 4ever4love

I had to read this twice. First time I was like, such old way of thinking. Second time, I thought, and didn't my mom do the same for her family? So ... yes I may be of the "today's generation" like you have written, BUT I can see your point.

Marriage is a huge commitment and you have to fight for it.

and really I am so looking forward to the negativity going away and getting a positive turn in the story.

Next story line should show RK fighting for the marriage, and letting his ego go.

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SORRY 4EVER4LOVE FOR EATING YOUR MIND BY MY OLD SO CALLED PURANI PIDHI KI SOOCH VIEWS

well i feel its difficult to break a relation

Originally posted by: Poluk

The first problem is it is never easy to break a relationship. Its very painful. If you give up easily then throughout your life you will be hounded with the question: did I do everything I could to save it?

In fact most bad relationships continue because of the fear of this pain- the pain of loss. It is very easy to say dump him/her but very tough to do if you actually love. While their is life there is hope.

And then a lonely life is not a very attractive option - a life without the person you love. That is why it is said that love can be your greatest strength as well as greatest weakness.

And in this case Madhu can see that RK still loves her. He is acting like a jerk because he is frustrated. He has literally become unhinged. What he needs is a lot of support and care like a small child. And MB did err in the intial stages by not understanding her husband and letting the problem aggravate. She now needs to pull up her socks and get him out of hole he is digging himself in.

This is also part of love - don't let the person you love harm even himself/herself - even at the cost of your self respect at times.

Ria is just a shoulder for him to cry on, an excuse to massage his ego. She is his pally in his path of deliberate self destruction. MB is trying to stop him from going down that path.

He was dancing with Ria in that cheap bar but could not tolerate the idea of MB being there for even a second. Think Why? Even MB knew this that is why sat in front of him in the bar.

This is his real sub conscious opinion of Ria. His shouting my freind is just an excuse to hide his follies - like a typical male.

Originally posted by: meenji22

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YOU KNOW WHY TODAYS FAMILY LIFE IS TOO SMALL TODAY MARRIAGE NEXT DAY DIVORCE JUST BCZ OF ONLY ONLY BIG FAT EGOS CLASH.BUT IN OLDER DAYS WOMEN KNOWS VERY WELL HOW TO HANDLE SUCH SITUATION LIKE SHOWN IN SERIAL N MADHU HANDLING IT SO WELL THATS HER RELATION IS CONTINUING TILL NOW

Originally posted by: meenji22

SORRY 4EVER4LOVE FOR EATING YOUR MIND BY MY OLD SO CALLED PURANI PIDHI KI SOOCH VIEWS

Originally posted by: rima4ever

well i feel its difficult to break a relation

but i feel they will show separation soon

Its not only about the other woman. Even all the other things that RK is subjecting her to is not right at all.Using your spouse as a punching bag to vent out your frustrations is ok to an extent but the extreme that they have shown in this serial , in real life no self respecting woman should take it after a point. Absolutely nothing warrants the constant public humiliation that Madhu undergoes. Walking out on a marriage is not at all easy and I have no issues with Madhu trying to salvage the relationship. What puts me off is she not standing up for herself. He humiliates her, verbally lashes out...she cries...he apologizes...she forgives and everything is fine.

FANTASTIC post 👏

To me its a question of valuing the institution of marriage and for that mutual trust,faith and respect are mandatory,the reason I didn't mention love is because I'm certain there is no dearth of it from either Madhu or RK for each other...but love isn't enough.I've said this before,love can forge a relationship but trust carries it forward.

Between RK & Madhu,the one who has relentlessly tried to uphold the sanctity of marriage is the latter one...from trying to be a honest life partner to his biggest support in times of need.I realise that she she has taken certain decisions that have proved detrimental to RK's career...but the harm done was unintentional.I've read posts where people have been talking about her ambiguous stance with regards to her BW aspirations but why is it that she always has to be clear about her intentions,has to assauge RK's wounded ego and suffer humiliation for his shortcomings...why can't RK be considerate for once,why can't he be happy for his wife's success??RK's shortcomings are well accepted but Madhu's lack of 'understanding' is not??If so then why?Because RK is an 'anti-hero'!!

Right now Madhu is 'trying' to save her marriage because its painful to break a bond as deep as the one RM share but when will it be considered enough from her behalf before she is allowed to walk away from this marriage?The responsibility lies with both not one,so if one half of this relationship can conveniently forget his boundaries then the other can only do so much to remind him of it.I for one (and as a married woman) want Madhu to walk away and show us that she's only human...and if its an error then she's allowed to make one and expect forgiveness in return,just like she has forgiven the other for his unpardonable ones.