Wat Would U Do In This Situation? Reality Check! - Page 9

Originally posted by: YeHoKyaRahaHai

I was thinking about this and wanted to share a personal example.

This happened over 30 years ago. A cousin of my father's went for seeing the girl. The room was dimly lit. They had a hazy impression of the girl. But the family was nice...so they consented to the alliance.

On the wedding day...finally the groom's relatives realized that something was wrong. The girl was always sitting at one place...and someone or the other...her mom, her aunty...would be at her side with their hands upon her shoulder. And when it was time for the rituals to begin...it suddenly struck them. The girl was a hunchback.

My dad's cousin's family members were shocked naturally and immediately an end to the wedding. The bride's brother in fact pleaded for the marriage to go on. But the father of the groom handled the situation with grace...he confronted them, denied their request without insulting the bride and at the same time agreed to bear half the expenses. I know this might seem too much...but usually elders are much more accommodating in situations like these and are careful not to hurt the feelings of the prospective groom or bride. Because it's believed that you may acquire bad karma if you do something like this.

My aunt related this story to me...and this is one major lesson about arranged marriages...never meet your partner in a dimly lit room...lol.🤣

Originally posted by: rani-lucki

the chabras were wrong in hiding that dev is the child of his mistress

it would be upto the oberois to decide if they want prianka to marry dev as long as the chabras would have been honest

but giving n lecture on blood n lineage was a bit insulting but it was really cheeky for the chabras to defend having a child out of a mistress

i would also be very angry if i was in shivays place but i would have reacted differented

but i find it double standards that tej disagreed for the weding bearing in mind that he has a mistress

Originally posted by: Aarti_16

Your post says everything that I want to say today.

We are hypocrites when this happens to others and preach but don't practice the same with our selves.

I also want to add that later when Rudra and Om's love story starts, they too will be as adamant as Shivaay. They too will fight with themselves for their ideologies.

Originally posted by: vivacious_gurl

I absolutely agree he wasn't wrong today... N His way of dealing with it also wasn't wrong... These things matter to everyone even in today's generation... Illegitimate child... Well that's a character certificate for the father... Yes it was insulting the way he handled it... But chhabras deserved the insult... They hid such a big detail about Dev... No one in their right mind wud give their daughter's/sister's hand in arranged marriage to a child born out of wedlock... Child out of wedlock is still a taboo in our society... It's very easy to pin point n put Shivaay down for his beliefs on blood, family, lineage... But truth be told all those matter in arrange marriage... May jot be first preference ebut they r considered for sure... No one knowingly will accept a person of far lower status, no family background etc for their child in arranged marriage... What is an arranged marriage... Whom to u arrange it with... Mostly in ur circles... Coz u believe it will be easier for ur child to adjust in such circumstances... Especially daughters... As parents feels... Already she is leaving a family n going to a new one atleast her life style will be maintained... Yes she may be financially self sufficient but in case of problems her new family will be able to provide for her atleast what her own family cud... That's the thot... Also the illegitimate shows the character of the father n if all his doing was so easily acceptable to his wife it means their son too has a legal to behave the way he wants... U judge the children as per their upbringing... Tomorrow prinku too wud hv been expected to accept her hubby's illicit relationships etc...

Why ask prinku's opinion... Children so young n inexperienced have no knowledge of real world... N yes letting them. Get hurt n learnt on their own is one thing but knowingly letting them make such huge mistakes is another... No brother wud do that...

The way he handled... Well deserved it as they concealed the truth... They had come with all intentions of getting a khandaani bahu so that the illegitimate son gets acceptance in society... Calling Shivaay chhoti soch... Please liars if it was for u ppl, dev wud hv nvr revealed the truth... Until atleast Suhaag raat... Cheaters shud nvr expect to be treated with respect... Tell the truth n yet get insulted then that's very wrong...

Prinku... Omg... That child... She fell in love with a guy in two minutes... Can u ask such a child her opinion? One can nvr be at first sight... That's attraction... Love is developed only once u know a person...

As for the question is Shivaay to be blamed for his beliefs... I For one hv nvr blamed him for his belief... Yes I don't agree with his khoon n lineage thing... As I believe even an adopted child is equally the child of his/her parents n shud get equal respect n love... But khandaan yes... The family bg.. Yes... Coz upbringing matters... N i hv nvr blamed him for his beliefs... To each his own... What I don't like about him that he thinks ppl lower his status are Sadak ka kuda... Kachra... Please Shivaay there is a way to express... How can anyone be called trash...

Originally posted by: kashika_29

i didnt read all the comments bt i just read ur post...

if i m enough intelectual n mature to say something abt this, i would say no u r not just the only hypocrite...we all r,in some or the other way...

n regarding shivaay, to whom i really connect in all the ways i would say no,he is not wrong to break the wedding of prink..no at all! bcuz as u said we wont get our sibilings married to a person who is not in a mood to say truth,to a person whose future (financialy) isint stabled n a person who dont earn a good n certain amt of money every month--specially when it is a male( though this u may count as gender discrimination or something bt we generally dont see wht girl earns in society, we ignore cuz she is the one who leaves everything n goes to the husband's family)

secondly, like u said..somewhere in the society we r really concerned abt caste n religion, to be specific caste, bt the reason is also the difference in the thought processes of individuals,difference in their rituals,traditions..so people see the caste n marry someone near around caste so tht they(specifically girl) dosent create problems in the 'things' which have been always carried on..moreover the ancestors in india have always promoted this thing,thus the planted seed might have rotten over yrs,bt still remains are there but this caste thing to be thought by shivaay is wrong,bt not wrong by a parent

thirdly, i dont feel wrong in shivaay wanting her sister to marry someone equal or above their status..bt if i take the case of shivaay in particular to anika or anyone he shouldnt insult someone badly or humilate the person...though this thing is rather debateable bt i feel in most of the cases again,the male status is imp. the female should just have good moral values...bt in the rich societies there has always been this tabboo bcuz whatevr they do gets printed on the newspapers as headlines..so acc to them marrying someone equal to them (bt not girl,she should be equal) is a prestige n dosent let their "image down"

n i believe he is a egoist,n has a long nose bcuz of the treatment he has got being an oberoi,cuz cummon if i was a person earning in billion i would also be a spoilt girl xD(nt good to say bt honesty is bliss),n here i would still say my parents will look for someon in and around our caste(so tht no1 faces prblms),someone who earns good enough n cn keep me happy..bt tht dosent mean tht my parents will humilate or i will humilate or insult someone below or caste,bank acc..cuz we dont do tht,do we tell the housemaids or the dhobi or someone who comes n talk to us,or someone who proposes marriage to us(arranged) by letting them down by these words..we dont..so this makes shivaay wrong n he having an ideology tht this person dosent have a caste,family name so he/she is a big fool n not worth it n cant do anything..n he is meant to be wrong or bekar..this is wrong.! nothing else...

N BY this n frm all my panchayati u gt to know i support u! (though m sorry for this much writing-my teacher says i write too much though i write too gud n thus she deducts my marks :/ pls dont do tht here) BT such a wonderful post! n happy dusshera!(PS u actually did something for dussera ;-) )

Originally posted by: Crazy4Mayur

His fault is that if really was that true gentleman he was portraying himself, he should have chosen to disclose such a big truth by himself as that would have served as the base of the relationship...Honesty was missing!

He had even got an opportunity to tell this to Shivay wen Shivay took him in private to talk but the guy said he had no secrets. He faltered there itself.

Originally posted by: Teju_wkar

Abt Chaabras.. they were wrong in hiding this fact .. U need to be transparent for everything when it comes to alliance.. specially in arrange marriage.. Just becoz U don't care abt Dev being Ur illegitimate son doesn't mean every world will have same cool approach.. N may be they would have behaved same.. if situation would have different from Oberoi side.. means prinku illegitimate child n Dev real son.. so everyone saves their skin when time comes.. I agree with OM. relation can't be started on basis of lies.. Now coming to point.. Shivay is certified batmeez 😆 (like Anika says sadu akdu batmeez) so.. he got one point here.. Dev being illegitimate is not crime.. Dev is not at fault.. but he was wrong hiding this fact.. from Prinku.. yes may be he would ahve told her if de have another meeting kind off.. but what's guarantee? May be he would have hide it too.. So here he goes wrong .. n Prinku.. oh god.. canI say she has just pretty face.. but no brains.. She fell in love with guy at one sight.. n started trusting on him with her whole life even after getting to know truth abt him in front of whole family... n more than that she was blaming Shivay her bro.. girl do have some brain.. that boy hide such fact abt his life's truth from U..? n what if he is hiding many more secrets.. yes Shivay was wrong behaving rudely... his bloodline n all dialogues are really like 80's film dialogues.. N tej why double std.. even U had an affair with Ur mere secretary? I wish Om would show him mirror .. really he is pathetic..

So this alliance broken already but reason should have been Chabras hiding the big truth .. not just Dev being illegitimate.. So Gul showed here two ideologies.. OM n Dadi saying n rooting for cause due to Chabras telling lies or hiding truth.. n Shivay n Tej.. becoz of bloodline.. hence it proved.. Tej too will consider bloodline thing.. in future how much he said it to anika that she is family.. 🤔

Actually all Oberois have problem in their brain wiring .. So now leading ladies will repair those wiring..😆 Dadi seems to be lil bit sane here.. rest.. argh.. yet to see how Om will behave.. ?

Abt PRinku she talked abt women empowerment.. but she hereself doesn't ahve guts to put her points in front of her own brothers.. if Really new ACP is gonan pair opposite her.. he will be the one who will teach her how to satnd for herself.. so even Prinku's Ishqbaazi is gonna be fun.. but in today's epi if she will keep quite in front of Shivay when he will accuse Anika.. I am gonna hate her more than Shivay.. she is really messed up girl.. plz first apne life ka raita sameto.. 🥱