Wat Would U Do In This Situation? Reality Check! - Page 8

Originally posted by: naq5

tell me one thing if the rishta had come for devs brother ryan wud shivaay have said no or yes considering ryan's dad was involved in a EM affair.

If he wud have said yes to Ryan then dev is being hypo critic. because it is not the child who is illegitimate but the parents rishta which is illegitimate. i mean you have no problem marring the son of a man who had EM affair but cant marry the child born of the affair. its the father who is the issue n his genes n illegitimate khoon which wud be there in both kids

Originally posted by: Luna46

Whatever Shivaye did was natural. I agree with Shivaye that most of the time relationships are a deal especially in arranged marriages. People marry each other seeing their family background, status and bank balance. If that's not a deal then what it is???? True love hardly exists in real world, everything comes down to money and status in the end no matter how much people preach about idealism. But I have one question, why Shivaye is taking life decisions of Priyanka. He can think whatever he wants but it should be Priyanka who should decide whether she wants to marry Dev or not. She has to spend her life with Dev, not Shivaye or Tej. That means Shivaye does'nt cares about Priyanka's feelings at all. I know that the excuse will be Priyanka is irrational and can't take such big decisions of her life on his own but if that's the case then why Shivaye is getting her married in the first place???

Originally posted by: Trissy

I always thought everyone's correct in their thought processes in this show but are pretty extreme in their beliefs.

They're not much open minded. I want to call them rich brats for breing that way, but that's not the case here😆😆

Somehow whatever kind of beliefs you start having from your childhood days, they get stick in your head, and as people grow up, I've noticed, they tend to get rigid about them.

In this situation Shivaay is no less. Pretty uptight.😛😆

Now coming to the point, I kinda agree and kinda disagree with the post.

I agree that actually people are taught by the society to live like that. Most of the humans are attracted more towards things or people who are somehow similar to them. Here Shivaay likes lineage, bloodline, and all that stuff because he love his life and who he and his family has become through out their years of being so established and...uh all that rich stuff😆

Similarly it happens with others too I believe! They like things and people of their level. People who are similar to them, so I guess they can connect to them as well as understand them in a way?!

Great post! Though I don't agree with every single one of the rhetorical questions you asked there😛 😆 😆 But that's just a different me😆

Originally posted by: NandiniRaizadaa

After reading all the posts here i would like to say one more thing

We all do this while arranging a marriage. Falling in love is different. I think if we say we would have ignored illegitimacy and gone ahead it would be hypocritical

But one should not insult another human being..

Better way would have been for Shivaye to fiesr tell his familu. The outcone would have been the same. But humiliation could have been avoided

Illegitimacy is a big issue in India and so is caste and bloodline. We may not care about these things as intellectual adults but when it comes to marriage and if we are going for an arranged marriage like Prinku we will let our parents select grooms on these vwry basis .

So we all are hypocrites and hace no right to bash him.

There was a dialogue by SSO in one episode. Karte sab hain kehte koi nahi. Its juar that SSO speaks his mind and said this to his face while we or our parents while arranging our match would not have ben as blastent .

Also he could have avoided being outright rude .

Also Priyanka 's behaviour is disgusting. She is behaving as if she was madly in love with Dev. And if she feels his birth doesn't matter shr should say so. Why is she so underconfidant???? I can understand that when there are dominating males in the family sonetimes eomen dont get a day but atleast she can express them

And the bottomline Chabra's should not have concealed

Originally posted by: ChrisinS

aOkay I haven't read all the comments but I can say that each one has a bit that I agree with.

Firstly, Shivaay is extremely upset that Dev being an illegimitate child was found out later on when everything was fixed. Keep in mind that Shivaay does NOT know that Dev was going to explain himself or Priyank is in love with Dev. He doesn't know it. He is also paranoid right now with Gayatri's message to him. Under normal circumstances he might have bent for Priyanka but in these circumstances he probably won't.

Secondly, I know for a fact that even if caste or ethnicity aren't important. Socioeconomic status is very important. To a certain extent it is also logical to get married in a household that sustains your lifestyle and the standard of living the families maintain. The reason being, and I say this from personal observation, is that there are a lot of societal norms to fulfill. Whether you are white or Indian, there are gifts to be given during occasions and the grandeur of the gifts will be different from families to families. This causes an issue if you are married to someone earning much less because it just doesn't make sense to spend that much on gifts and stuff. Normally I see this leading to the bashing of the very sweet but financially not so well off boy or girl. It breaks my heart and I personally for that very reason wouldn't marry someone earning much less unless I'm in love with them to no extent.

As for Dev, the sweet soul should not have had his past thrown for everyone to see. Shivaay could have been more considerate. I absolutely despise him for not showing respect regardless of where people come from.

Originally posted by: NandiniRaizadaa

Neha love doesnt happen that way. One cant decide who to love. Even i used to think one can choose but it hits from the most unusual places i realised 😆 if it hits that is...

Originally posted by: -beena-

I agree with what you said about people considering all aspects regarding the bride or groom in marriages.

People do consider not only the bride or groom's education and what he/she does for a living but also about their family's financial condition, parent's and siblings.

It has been seen that in a family with more than one daughter it is impossible for the family to fix the younger daughter's marriage unless the elder is married since people doubt about why they are doing so and that their may be some problem with the family,even though in reality it may be that the elder one does not want to marry or wants to study further or achieve more in her career or any other reason.Even a son's marriage is not arranged unless the younger sister is married.

I agree that Chabbra's were wrong in not telling them about Dev beforehand.

I disagree with Shivay's blood and lineage stance of the Obero's. One can point at the other person's drawback, only if they themselves are clean about that.Oberoi's are very wealthy agreed.
But,in this case Priyanka is Tej's daughter who himself has been involved in extra martial affairs.So the Oberoi's are no dudh ka dulha either. And if Shivay's views are considered no parent will marry their son to such person's children.

If this was a real life situation,they way Shivay reacted,the Chhabra's would have given it back to him by telling about Tej's affairs.Shivaay should have been more calm in his approach.He literally removed them from the house which was wrong.

Shivay is partly right.The Chabbra's should have disclosed about Dev before asking for the roka to be fixed.

Originally posted by: KJ-Deewani

But what is Dev fault here?
Did he decided to be an illegitimate child?
So why does he have to suffer these allegations?
Why the hell is he being blamed?

Originally posted by: Arshi67

The constant highlighting of Shivaay's beliefs about the purity of lineage and bloodlines being sacrosanct, is no doubt being done in so blatant a manner for a specific reason. Whatever the secret that there is that will be unveiled eventually, will involve his heart directly in one way or another. And then they can show all of his prejudices come home to roost. The more lofty is the high ground you purport to walk, the harder is the fall when it comes.

All credit to Mrs Chhabria for accepting her husband's child, born of his lover, into the family and treating him as equal to her own son by all accounts. However, this fact should have been disclosed to the Oberois before a formal rishta was put forward. And it should have come from Mr Chhabria to Tej. By not doing so, he has left his family open to all the insults that were heaped upon them. Dev saying that he was going to inform Prinku after the roka was no way to go about it.

Shivaay is always speaking of breeding, but his behaviour today belied his own. The manner in which you do the right thing is as important as doing the right thing.