Why do we feel that imlie doesn't love Aryan - Page 4

Originally posted by: Enlightened21

But, that doesn't mean Imlie is wrong or she doesn't love Aryan as much as he does. She herself in the last track voiced it out that Aryan is another name of Love to her. We should not forget how before the Jo track, Imlie was seen praying to Sita Mayya to give her a break from all the sort of negativities happening around her and how she was literally pleading with Sita Mayya, before the confession, to let her have atleast few moments of happiness. So, it's not that she doesn't want to enjoy a happy life. She does. But then, considering the way she was harassed as an abandoned child by her villagers, the moment she sees someone in need or pain, her childhood insecurities gets triggered and forces her to go out of the way. Making it look like she is always on a mission. 😔

She says alot of things. But her actions never back her words. She tells aryan that he'll never lose her or his apne yet she charges into every situation without care.

As for her childhood issues, i think i wrote before somewhere how her actions don't make sense in light of her own issues. If you have been abandoned, harassed as a child then as an adult you'll stick like glue to the person that gives you unconditional love.

... The tripathis gave her bare minimum attention and love and she was crazy for them..... Yet that's not the case when it comes to aryan. Like people said above we don't get to see even token jealousy or fear that she'll lose aryan. For someone with that insecure childhood she should be all over aryan all the time.... Most of her missions have been against aryan and not for aryan... It makes no bloody sense.

Originally posted by: bips

She says alot of things. But her actions never back her words. She tells aryan that he'll never lose her or his apne yet she charges into every situation without care.

As for her childhood issues, i think i wrote before somewhere how her actions don't make sense in light of her own issues. If you have been abandoned, harassed as a child then as an adult you'll stick like glue to the person that gives you unconditional love.

... The tripathis gave her bare minimum attention and love and she was crazy for them..... Yet that's not the case when it comes to aryan. Like people said above we don't get to see even token jealousy or fear that she'll lose aryan. For someone with that insecure childhood she should be all over aryan all the time.... Most of her missions have been against aryan and not for aryan... It makes no bloody sense.

shabia wrote in her post (which she shared in link) that imlie may have been better off getting therapy. when we look at it from a distance, that seems right. everyone has backstories and trauma -- stuff that prevents us from forming healthy relationship and may cause roadblocks. however, that can't be an excuse to keep behaving in the same way over and over with exactly the same result. that is destructive.

that is why imlie's backstory of harassment as a child gets no response from me. it feels like a constant emotional tactic on her part to emotionally arm twist people into doing what she wants. how long will you keep using that? she tells malini that she hasn't moved beyond her pain and she is weak for getting so broken over something in her past. well what about imlie? -- she is also weak for riding on the trauma of her past and continously making idiotic choices and dragging along everyone else for the ride. sorry for the continous posts and rants but imlie is getting on my nerves lately.

we all need to deal with our baggages of our past on our own in a healthy manner and not have our spouse have to deal with all the heavy lifting. why should your husband and his family suffer because you were given a raw deal in your past? if it happens a few times, that is understandable. but that can't be a pattern of all your marriage and that can't be something for life. it annoys me that aryan and family have to continuosly go through one more mission related turmoil because of her. as an audience, am bored with her missions.

Originally posted by: mango.falooda

so true! what I find frustrating is that I feel aryan has been lost as a character ever since he got married to imlie. she has taken over his life and it is all about her missions, her priorities, her needs, her lectures. where is he in all of this besides being her crutch? does aryan have the power to step back and say 'no' to anything imlie decides to do -- why does it feel like she will whine and cry and get him to do it eventually her way? it feels like more and more, aryan has been disappearing -- that is what happens when one person loves another more, while their partner cares but does not return the feeling with the same depth.

Originally posted by: mango.falooda

. sorry for the continous posts and rants but imlie is getting on my nerves lately. .

Nothing to apologise .. Join the club. She is literally the reason i use the ff button... I'm so sick of her apan jaap..

And yes, if you notice she does keep invoking her childhood insecurities when talking to aryan to convince him to do what she wants... Like in this track, she tells aryan i grew up without a father but guddiya will grow up without both parents when he is arguing that legally we cannot interfere

So suffering from past trauma is one thing, but she actually uses it in arguments to get her way..

And like you said, how much and how long will you make your new family suffer for it. Get therapy not someone else's bachcha

P. S. : not saying she is manipulative say like malini. But what she does unconsciously is this.

Originally posted by: Enlightened21

Good that you made this thread. Yesterday, after watching the below scene, I wanted to make a thread to the CVs on how hard they are trying to make Imlie connected to the audience using Aryan. Which itself means that, CVs too know Aryan behaving as a normal human being connects well with the audience.

https://twitter.com/i/status/1548002089137164288

But, that doesn't mean Imlie is wrong or she doesn't love Aryan as much as he does. She herself in the last track voiced it out that Aryan is another name of Love to her. We should not forget how before the Jo track, Imlie was seen praying to Sita Mayya to give her a break from all the sort of negativities happening around her and how she was literally pleading with Sita Mayya, before the confession, to let her have atleast few moments of happiness. So, it's not that she doesn't want to enjoy a happy life. She does. But then, considering the way she was harassed as an abandoned child by her villagers, the moment she sees someone in need or pain, her childhood insecurities gets triggered and forces her to go out of the way. Making it look like she is always on a mission. 😔

Thanks for the tag ⭐️

I love the post ❤️

It's just drilled into us, if the FL acts like a good human being, it's her being mahaan, hung upon her ex, she doesn't love her husband enough, she's being mother Teresa and what not. People don't even volunteer to understand her and that's plain sad. Well, everyone has their opinions and it's good policy to respect it.

She's being reckless, but to her it's a small child's life at stake. So I truly understand where she comes from. And Aryan is right too. It's not wrong to be selfish (upto a certain limit) If maturity is having a don't care attitude to people's problem, then I guess Imlie is better off immature.

Originally posted by: bips

Nothing to apologise .. Join the club. She is literally the reason i use the ff button... I'm so sick of her apan jaap..

And yes, if you notice she does keep invoking her childhood insecurities when talking to aryan to convince him to do what she wants... Like in this track, she tells aryan i grew up without a father but guddiya will grow up without both parents when he is arguing that legally we cannot interfere

So suffering from past trauma is one thing, but she actually uses it in arguments to get her way..

And like you said, how much and how long will you make your new family suffer for it. Get therapy not someone else's bachcha

P. S. : not saying she is manipulative say like malini. But what she does unconsciously is this.

thank you; I find her use of childhood insecurities to arm twist aryan as emotional blackmail. it is very manipulative. I have been holding off ranting but sometimes you need to let off steam.

I might get brickbats for it but I think malini and imlie are a lot alike. malini is manipulative for revenge but imlie manipulates others emotions to get her way. the difference is malini is consciously doing it and is planning ahead. whereas imlie does it subconsciously on the spur of the moment. that is why malini comes across as devious whereas imlie comes across as sweet. just as malini is ignoring her child, so is imlie. at the end of the day, both of them are so focused on their own pain and past that they are oblivious to others. both will go to any lengths and bizarre extremes to get their way. at least malini does not give lectures to audience about how mahaan she is.

in the flashbacks that malini had, I was surprised at some of the things that imlie said -- I actually ended up saying out loud "what a b****!!!!" and then imlie cries "oh malini didi hates me!" -- seriously???? I would too you sillly girl.

imlie cannot take responsibility for the part she played in the messy relationship she had with the tripathis. both women are hung up on their past and spiraling out very destructively.

and please lets not have imlie become a child kidnapper. 😡

Originally posted by: missFiesty_69

Thanks for the tag ⭐️

I love the post ❤️

It's just drilled into us, if the FL acts like a good human being, it's her being mahaan, hung upon her ex, she doesn't love her husband enough, she's being mother Teresa and what not. People don't even volunteer to understand her and that's plain sad. Well, everyone has their opinions and it's good policy to respect it.

She's being reckless, but to her it's a small child's life at stake. So I truly understand where she comes from. And Aryan is right too. It's not wrong to be selfish (upto a certain limit) If maturity is having a don't care attitude to people's problem, then I guess Imlie is better off immature.

But that is the thing... Everyone more specifically her husband is understanding her.. But is she understanding him? He is telling her repeatedly to stop because she is going to harm herself. Is she listening?

Isn't marriage of two people? You have to compromise with each other. Apni mann ki thodi chala sakte ho har waqt. When you don't give a damn about what your partner says then it does look like you don't value him enough

Aryan doesn't have a don't care attitude to the little child's problems. But kisi ki madad karne ke liye apne ghar mein thodi aag laga loge? Where does this madness stop

Thanks dear ❤️

I'm glad someone shares my thoughts and frustrations.

See, the thing is that Imlie is the classic example of what has been happening since decades on ITV. She's the emotional manipulator every FL on ITV is whenever she gets a break from being everyone's punching bag. When she's not a bechari, she's an idiot who constantly makes wrong choices, trusts wrong people over and over, sabotages her own self and relations in the name of mahanta, and the cycle continues. And she never learns. Never. And God forbid if you ever think she's toxic and wrong cause that's impossible. She's the goddess and everyone will eventually worship her mahanta. Well until something else happens and she has to prove herself again.

Now the problem is that it may have been working for a decade but now it's getting really tiring. For example, in imlie we never got a single happy episode after Jo. Bam! Malini arrived. It becomes exhausting after some time.

Not that I don't understand that we need conflict, strong villains etc to keep things interesting. But that's not how you do it. There are better ways.

As for Aryan, he's suffering the classic case of an itv male lead. He's prominent initially when he's against the FL and there's tashan. After that he's just a prop. Cause you're either the FL's ally, standing in the corner watching as a passive viewer while she takes the most non sense decisions Or you're against her. But the problem is that we are the people who watch only for ML. That's why this formula is not working anymore.

Well said 👏👏👏

She's such a hypocrite in Malini's case that I found myself relating to Malini now than her. And if that doesn't say something then I'm not sure what will.

I wished Malini slaps her hard for once during one of her mahanta or victim lectures on my behalf 😆

Originally posted by: Enlightened21

Good that you made this thread. Yesterday, after watching the below scene, I wanted to make a thread to the CVs on how hard they are trying to make Imlie connected to the audience using Aryan. Which itself means that, CVs too know Aryan behaving as a normal human being connects well with the audience.

https://twitter.com/i/status/1548002089137164288

But, that doesn't mean Imlie is wrong or she doesn't love Aryan as much as he does. She herself in the last track voiced it out that Aryan is another name of Love to her. We should not forget how before the Jo track, Imlie was seen praying to Sita Mayya to give her a break from all the sort of negativities happening around her and how she was literally pleading with Sita Mayya, before the confession, to let her have atleast few moments of happiness. So, it's not that she doesn't want to enjoy a happy life. She does. But then, considering the way she was harassed as an abandoned child by her villagers, the moment she sees someone in need or pain, her childhood insecurities gets triggered and forces her to go out of the way. Making it look like she is always on a mission. 😔

See that's the thing INSECURITY: she has insecurities which got triggered by Gudiya or when cheeku was almost termed najayaz in the Jo track. She had insecurities related to her upbringing which got triggered during surpita wedding track

But why her love Comes across as inferior because she has no insecurities regarding Aryan. She never had to fight for her love or her position in his life,whereas Aryan had to endure a lot of people and a lot of situations to win Imlie's love.

Imlie is so secure in her love and in her relationship that many a times it comes across as taken for granted. She knows no matter what Aryan would always be there and would always love her. She knows for Aryan she is a first priority whereas Aryan has this deep insecurity that Imlie can prioritise someone else over him which has happened in the past and is happening now.

Another thing is that we never saw her love realisation. We don't know why, how and when she fell in love. We don't know what inner demon she has to defeat to allow Aryan in her heart. It was all brushed under carpet. Many fans say that she started falling in love when she did the tandav for him. It's true but yet again she had other pressing issues at that time. We never got a track where her whole sole concern was for Aryan

So no doubt that she loves him but he loves her more