Why do we feel that imlie doesn't love Aryan - Page 6

Originally posted by: mango.falooda

😆 oh ok. I skipped much of that track. I was under the impression that she had a miscarriage and then got pregnant again the second time...

Hahaha no jo mata bribed the doctor to produce fake reports and meanwhile she was giving Imlie medicines but everybody got to know that Imlie is still pregnant and Jyoti had to change plans

Originally posted by: bips

But that is the thing... Everyone more specifically her husband is understanding her.. But is she understanding him? He is telling her repeatedly to stop because she is going to harm herself. Is she listening?

Isn't marriage of two people? You have to compromise with each other. Apni mann ki thodi chala sakte ho har waqt. When you don't give a damn about what your partner says then it does look like you don't value him enough

Aryan doesn't have a don't care attitude to the little child's problems. But kisi ki madad karne ke liye apne ghar mein thodi aag laga loge? Where does this madness stop

True. But never saw Aryan asking for Imlie's permission before going on a revenge spree, or did he ?? I never knew. I don't think he asked her before announcing it to the whole office that she has been molested. So yes, aapne man ki nahi chalate. You have got to ask your partner's opinion in EVERYTHING. It would be only fair.

Well, this would be applicable if the child had maturity to defend/protect itself. When it cannot, fortunately or unfortunately Imlie thinks it's her responsibility to take care. What has she done that would show she doesnot care for her husband? I never saw Aryan opposing her. So is he irrational too if not more, is that it. It's not like she's opposing Aryan to do it.

Originally posted by: missFiesty_69

True. But never saw Aryan asking for Imlie's permission before going on a revenge spree, or did he ?? I never knew. I don't think he asked her before announcing it to the whole office that she has been molested. So yes, aapne man ki nahi chalate. You have got to ask your partner's opinion in EVERYTHING. It would be only fair.

Well, this would be applicable if the child had maturity to defend/protect itself. When it cannot, fortunately or unfortunately Imlie thinks it's her responsibility to take care. What has she done that would show she doesnot care for her husband? I never saw Aryan opposing her. So is he irrational too if not more, is that it. It's not like she's opposing Aryan to do it.

Consider them equal first then u will know both end up doing mistakes. And it's not like Aryan listens to her everytime. She kept telling him, it's her body if she was assaulted she would have known 1st but no he was on his own guilt trip and on top of that went ahead and announced infront of the entire office that his wife was sexually assaulted by Madhav.

If FL is mahaan and everyone has to apologize and accept her mahanta then why was Aryan not made to apologize to Madhav for not giving him the appreciation he deserved as an employee, for not even accusing but declaring him guilty of sexually assaulting Imlie just bcz he is the ML so he can escape it all?

Today as well Imlie ran to save Gudiya but she didn't trip on the stairs while running which shows she was careful enough but then the ball comes right under her foot and she slips on it leading to her fall, it was a pure accident she was not being careless even once.

Just bcz u r in love that does not mean u have to agree to everything ur lover says, do we not have feelings of our own? Brain of our own to decide? We all were in favour jab Aryan didn't open his mouth to utter during the wedding track that Imlie was not a pawn for him, he kept silent the entire time saying he doesn't feel the need tk justify himself to her then why does she has to justify herself to him for her every action?

I skipped the whole track as it was too illogical for me. but I thought it was ridiculous and awful that madhav was just an afterthought and instead imlie alone got the long emotional sorry from aryan. but madhav isn't important in CVs eyes, so we just have to chalk that up to bad writing where they refuse to give scenes and meaningful arcs to side characters.

keeping that aside, I went from being absolutely intrigued over aryan and the arylie story to being downright bored. there was no bridge that showed me the progression of the love story. there simply isn't.

instead, it really feels more like one of those arranged marriage dramas where each character is doing their own thing and they are still not a couple even though they live under the same house.

now I am not talking about agreeing to everything your lover says -- that is really unhealthy and super toxic. it leads to dramas like anupama where the wife has no power and is ignored in the house.

the impression of this couple for me is that they are not together together emotionally and there is something missing. the lack of discussions when it comes to decision making and small aspects like calling each other before stepping out -- those are striking.

even in hate-lovers trope dramas, you see a lot more fire and spark where the characters are fighting over an issue -- because they are trying to figure out how to be on the same page.

the issue with imlie is that she is continously on her own emotionally -- that is the feeling for some of us viewers. so much so that she feels like a single woman almost. I would also say that aryan supporting her too much at the cost of his own feelings is also unhealthy. he is coming across more and more like a prop rather than someone with their own story and arc.

shabia said that it is common in ITV where the ML's arc gets reduced. I will admit that I don't watch enough as I go through phases where I watch a lot of ITV and then drop it altogether for a few years. however, in the dramas I do manage to watch and enjoy, the ML had an arc of his own and a very strong presence. there was never a sense that he is a silent partner and his only job is there to support the female lead whenever she needs hugs.

there are huge flaws in how they built this love story -- but the impression for some of us viewers is that aryan is more in love with her while she loves him but not in love with him.

for me, the potential of the love story for arylie was wasted. 🤷

Originally posted by: bips

But that is the thing... Everyone more specifically her husband is understanding her.. But is she understanding him? He is telling her repeatedly to stop because she is going to harm herself. Is she listening?

Isn't marriage of two people? You have to compromise with each other. Apni mann ki thodi chala sakte ho har waqt. When you don't give a damn about what your partner says then it does look like you don't value him enough

Aryan doesn't have a don't care attitude to the little child's problems. But kisi ki madad karne ke liye apne ghar mein thodi aag laga loge? Where does this madness stop

Agreed 👍🏼

It's not that Aryan is not prone to mistakes. But with imlie it's more of a routine to act like a single woman and do whatever she likes.

Lady, you're pregnant. Act like it. Your priority is to look after yourself and trust your husband. Even if my doctor hasn't said I have risky pregnancy. Still I know pregnancies are critical itself. I need to be as cautious as I can be. That's common sense. You know your husband will never desert the child when he knows the child needs help. But you want to be super woman and jump in head first. You don't want to wait and see what your husband has in mind because subconsciously you don't need him.

About Malini not being a threat to your baby. Well once a fool is a mistake. Always a fool, jokes on you. Don't you know how lethal Malini can be. How she hates you and the way your last meeting went, she can never be trusted?

The problem is not why she's helping a helpless child. It's her mind set. If we're watching the same show, you can't deny if I say she'll jump off a building to save a parrot while she's pregnant. Because that's her mindset. And I'm calling her mind set toxic and problematic. She needs therapy. Casue all she'll do is trasmfer this mind set to whoever child she raises. She'll basically transfer her traumas and saviour complex into the child. And that's not cool.

Originally posted by: bips

She says alot of things. But her actions never back her words. She tells aryan that he'll never lose her or his apne yet she charges into every situation without care.

As for her childhood issues, i think i wrote before somewhere how her actions don't make sense in light of her own issues. If you have been abandoned, harassed as a child then as an adult you'll stick like glue to the person that gives you unconditional love.

... The tripathis gave her bare minimum attention and love and she was crazy for them..... Yet that's not the case when it comes to aryan. Like people said above we don't get to see even token jealousy or fear that she'll lose aryan. For someone with that insecure childhood she should be all over aryan all the time.... Most of her missions have been against aryan and not for aryan... It makes no bloody sense.

Bold - That's where her selflessness acts like she digging her own pit. She can't be selfish when she sees someone she connects with in pain. And since that's the base of her actions, she believes she can't be wrong, as she is not doing anything for herself. Her thought process is that how can I be wrong when I am just helping a fellow human being.

And as I have said in my thread on Imlie, she has only been out of her comfort zone (PD) for 1+ years only. And in this time, she has been forced into 2 relationships. Did she get ample time to sit and retrospect on all what happened in this period? Not at all.

Plus, to come out of childhood abandonment issues is not an easy task. I can tell it from my personal experience. Having been forcedly sent to be brought up by my maternal grandmother at the age of 7, it took another 12yrs for me to get out of the bitterness I carried with this regard & until I became a mother, I couldn't understand the hardships my mother had to face to bring up my siblings who were of age 2 & 3 and that too without anyone to help her out in a foreign country, because of which she was forced to send me back to India. Incase of Imlie, instead of being bitter, she turned to be the opposite. That's the difference. 😊

Originally posted by: Shabia1

Agreed 👍🏼

It's not that Aryan is not prone to mistakes. But with imlie it's more of a routine to act like a single woman and do whatever she likes.

Lady, you're pregnant. Act like it. Your priority is to look after yourself and trust your husband. Even if my doctor hasn't said I have risky pregnancy. Still I know pregnancies are critical itself. I need to be as cautious as I can be. That's common sense. You know your husband will never desert the child when he knows the child needs help. But you want to be super woman and jump in head first. You don't want to wait and see what your husband has in mind because subconsciously you don't need him.

About Malini not being a threat to your baby. Well once a fool is a mistake. Always a fool, jokes on you. Don't you know how lethal Malini can be. How she hates you and the way your last meeting went, she can never be trusted?

The problem is not why she's helping a helpless child. It's her mind set. If we're watching the same show, you can't deny if I say she'll jump off a building to save a parrot while she's pregnant. Because that's her mindset. And I'm calling her mind set toxic and problematic. She needs therapy. Casue all she'll do is trasmfer this mind set to whoever child she raises. She'll basically transfer her traumas and saviour complex into the child. And that's not cool.

@bold: Ok I know what the problem is here bcz i was myself confused with her behaviour until I happened to listen to a conversation of my grandmother of how pregnancy was back in those days. Pregnancy is not a sickness especially when the lady being pregnant is completely healthy with the baby and the most interesting thing do we know why Imlie has been behaving like the way she is after she is pregnant I mean not being cautious enough etc. etc because she belongs to a tribal village. Pagdandiya is a tribal village, the 3 dots on her chin is actually a sign tribal women use and Pregnancy for them used to be like a dailyu routine, these women being pregnant used to do farmind, cleaning their house, mopping the floor, washing utensils, washing clothes all the hard labour work can u imagine that? On top of that all these women will be seen mother of 5-6 kids. Shocked right? But this is a fact. Imlie has been raised in an environment like that for her pregnancy is not a stage where she needs to lie down and rest she ran behind the van that too in rain when they kidnapped Aryan even fell but we were completely fine that time why? bcz they took her husband away she is a loving wife so it was fine running behind the van like that. She was being careless then but post Malini's arrival and Gudiya into picture she has not been doing any such stunts what makes u think she hasn't been careful?

Also, it's the ITV female lead phenomenon that no pregnant FL will be seen acting pregnant they all are superwoman it is not just Imlie.

@italic: she would jump but not when she is pregnant. She is going to be a mother after all.

@undeline: I myself created a thread yesterday on whether Imlie will be a good mother, pls find the link here u will find everyone's POV on it and everyone does agree that she would be a good mother, just give it a read :

https://www.indiaforums.com/forum/imlie/5297188/would-imlie-be-a-good-mother

Ok. That's one viewpoint. But the pregnancies I'm witnessing and have witnessed are not so reckless. Even in village areas. Especially the first one. I have seen 1st pregnancies in my cousins resulting into miscarriages because of not caring enough. So it's about perspective.

The problem again is not pregnancy. It's again the mind set. And it depends what you consider as being a good parent. I didn't say she'll be a bad parent. It's just she'll transfer her problematic mindset unknowingly. Like in the promo, she's has a child with her in dangerous places as her cameraman. Isn't it cool

Ok wow. I don't have anything to say if you think she'll not jump while she's pregnant. I guess we haven't been watching the same show or character. Peace out.

Originally posted by: Shabia1

Ok. That's one viewpoint. But the pregnancies I'm witnessing and have witnessed are not so reckless. Even in village areas. Especially the first one. I have seen 1st pregnancies in my cousins resulting into miscarriages because of not caring enough. So it's about perspective.

The problem again is not pregnancy. It's again the mind set. And it depends what you consider as being a good parent. I didn't say she'll be a bad parent. It's just she'll transfer her problematic mindset unknowingly. Like in the promo, she's has a child with her in dangerous places as her cameraman. Isn't it cool

Ok wow. I don't have anything to say if you think she'll not jump while she's pregnant. I guess we haven't been watching the same show or character. Peace out.

Originally posted by: wasra

Ok, I am not taking anybody's side but just presenting an opinion based on what i have noticed post joining the FD:

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Wow....this is beautiful. You need to post this as a separate thread, especially because we don't get much posts portraying Imlie's emotions. I am feeling more emotional for her now. Poor little girl. 😭