Why do you think Virat loves Sai? - Page 4

Originally posted by: asmi_joya

So he should feel more pity and guilty when it comes to Sai.. She is being abused by his ex because of him..Its his family who harasses her..And she has no family to go back to since she lost her father, ..not because of him, but in a way he did take the shot for him....SHould he not be more guilty for her seeing so much in this family, where he is an indirect reason... Is it not the case?

Originally posted by: Kumuda-123

Honestly virat has his own selfish reasons behind supporting pakhi. He supports her whenever someone points out the past they share because he wants to erase their past completely. Pakhi getting targetted means fingers will shoot at him too. Since both r involved in this. And he lacks courage to speak truth. If he says pakhi is still behind him then he have to answer questions from sam & sai regarding his vaada & all especially sai. Because his vaada is the main reason for pakhi to lead on him. That's why he wants to show there is only friendship between them from both sides. During amay fiasco when pakhi interfered he let her talk nonsense but during lunch fiasco when pakhi interfered by asking to him to stop manhandling sai he asked her to not talk inbetween him & sai. During amay time pakhi was supporting virat so he allowed it but during lunch fiasco she was talking against him. So it's not about the person, it's about the support he gets. That's how he is till now. Whenever he gets angry with sai he sides with the people who talk against sai. He doesn't think about that person's history & the equation he share with that person,what all he thinks is I'm angry with sai so I will obviously support the person who speak against her which is his toxic trait. And another thing pakhi plays victim card before him 24*7, begs him, blames him for her life getting ruined. So he gets guilt tripped. But sai doesn't do all these but he sometimes tried to keep sai happy like his conversation with family about sai during ladak trip,him convincing family for sai birthday, surprising her, him handling trimurti when sai messed up big during college fest track, bringing her gifts which her aaba promised her to give. He thinks he is enough to keep sai happy. He never realise how much sai going through in the house because he feels it is common adjustment that every bahu faces which is again a toxic trait that too being IPS. He seriously lacks perspective.

SO that's why my question, this can be clubbed under love? Him letting Sai get the blame, the taunts, the ridicules for his "selfish" reasons?

Originally posted by: Tapdance

@bold: Well summarised Asmi❤️

The thing is, chalo he lets the elders in his family slide in the taunts and occasional disrespect at times considering that's how they are (even then, only the ones questioning her lack of choice of respectful words or actions having a direct negative impact on the family are done. Not the ones questioning her position as a wife or partner or what they do in their personal space) but him letting Pakhi do the same is where he goes totally wrong as a husband/friend/Guardian to Sai.

Adding some more thoughts to your above post:

In anger he has always let Pakhi take a hold of his emotions and steer them even more negatively towards disastrous actions. It's happened quite a many times, she is no friend to him so many times she has humiliated him in front of the family with taunts just to prove her points and put him and his wife down in the eyes of the family.

The whole Cafe kaarnama if not anything should have existed to draw the right lines irrespective of whether Sai loves him or not. Pakhi has time and again acted immature, been extremely ruthless in her words and steering towards bad actions for him. What on earth allows him to give her so much leeway?

Even if him and Sai confess love to each other today, this relationship will remain a stalemate, love alone is never enough to spend a lifetime with someone.

His love for Sai will start the right journey towards a life filled with respect, trust and love only when he truly puts Pakhi as a KBA with the right words and actions. Till he lets Pakhi get away with crap, Sai will stay insecure no matter how deeply they bond physically or emotionally because here he has clear double standards for her and P. And if wants to be a friend to P and a husband/lover to Sai, he has to draw clear respectable boundaries & those boundaries need to be explained and understood by his wife not his BFF otherwise they are meaningless.

However close a friend is to you, male or female, no one gets to talk between a husband a wife..irrespective of the couple being emotionally or physically close, thats another thing...Even in anger Sai has not let people interfere between their fights.. Virat lets them interfere, when they are his vakeel and does not let them, when they are her vakeel.. So yeah that's how it is...

Originally posted by: asmi_joya

So he should feel more pity and guilty when it comes to Sai.. She is being abused by his ex because of him..Its his family who harasses her..And she has no family to go back to since she lost her father, ..not because of him, but in a way he did take the shot for him....SHould he not be more guilty for her seeing so much in this family, where he is an indirect reason... Is it not the case?

Originally posted by: Akash3Rai

He has seen many times how her wife is mistreated in front of her, but many things are done in back of him as well and unlike pakhi sai never cries or shows up her vulnerable side to any one, she has only once brokedown due ti saree drama in absence of virat. Pakhi shows her fake tears seeing which virat feels guilt driven fir her condition. About sai he sees her standing strong against everyone that's why he is not able to understand the impact the daily taunts and his ex behaviour causes to her.

DOes that give him an opportunity to ignore it? To let it go? To not address it?...Has Sai not told him many times how she is treated by his family, he calls it a taunt and sometimes just ignores it just like that...

Originally posted by: asmi_joya

DOes that give him an opportunity to ignore it? To let it go? To not address it?...Has Sai not told him many times how she is treated by his family, he calls it a taunt and sometimes just ignores it just like that...

Originally posted by: Akash3Rai

well it is may be due to he has been raised as it , where her mother goes through all this. And he thinks it is common to adjust in the family. She had said many times how she gets treatment from his family mostly in banter mode, and he is unable to understand what she gets through. It is basically his inability to understand her perspective.

Banter or not, he is not a baccha to not realise that its as simple as she states it..He has seen the abuse she had to face after wanting to take care of him, is that just a case of lack of adjustment from his end. DOes he not see the difference in how she is particularly treated.. Has she not seriously told him how she feels in this house..He calls it taunt.. or tells her to adjust, without acknowledging even once that his family is unfair towards her... Banter she has started recently....I still cant forget how upset she was when she told him how they would never accept her as bahu.. her insecurities of not having a parent, of not getting accepted was out in open and his reaction to it...All he could have said was ofcourse they are unfair to you particularly...

@bold and thats why I dont see it as love , a relationship, when you want your perspective to be seen and deny to see others...

I guess its just how I’m looking at it. Let’s see if I can make sense here 🙈

Love and Relationship are two different things, independent of each other. Love is a feeling and a relationship CAN be an extension of it, whereas trust and compatibility are aspects that are important peripherals of love that form foundation of a strong relationship. In this case, they are in love but ideally not in any relationship. Trust is on convenience base and for compatibility, they are completely opposite characters. One is wanting this relationship to be real, the other is not sure of it. And the lack of clarity and confusion around the status of their marriage is adding to it. I completely disapprove and condemn Virat’s act of ousting Sai and Usha. But like every wrong doing or crime has a reason… valid or invalid is debatable. But there is a reason. Here it was trust. Again something which has nothing to do with love, but relationship. Both refused to trust each other. For him he loved her and she broke his trust, because he is somewhere between a relationship. In fact, despite being angry and ousting her, he was still sad. And it was not just because of betrayal, but he thought he had lost his love.

I hope I didn’t make a jalebi out of it🙈🤣

Originally posted by: sherry_24

I guess its just how I’m looking at it. Let’s see if I can make sense here 🙈

Love and Relationship are two different things, independent of each other. Love is a feeling and a relationship CAN be an extension of it, whereas trust and compatibility are aspects that are important peripherals of love that form foundation of a strong relationship. In this case, they are in love but ideally not in any relationship. One is wanting this relationship to be real, the other is not sure of it. And the lack of clarity and confusion around the status of their marriage is adding to it. I completely disapprove and condemn Virat’s act of ousting Sai and Usha. But like every wrong doing or crime has a reason… valid or invalid is debatable. But there is a reason. Here it was trust. Again something which has nothing to do with love, but relationship. Both refused to trust each other. For him he loved her and she broke his trust, because he is somewhere between a relationship. In fact, despite being angry and ousting her, he was still sad. And it was not just because of betrayal, but he thought he had lost his love.

I hope I didn’t make a jalebi out of it🙈🤣

I agree there was a an issue of trust...But no man in love would throw out the woman without food and shelter, if he were to be in love.. One can kill in anger and be sad about it.. But can it be called love, No right?Just because he was sad does not mean he was in love, he would have sad had he not been love as well, if he was to throw out a woman that way...I would just say he thinks he is in love, but he is unaware of what love in entirety is... He still has to reach there.

I have been in a relationship of love for a very long time to understand the difference, worst of worst fight but you dont be inhuman.. and be sad about it.. When in love the other makes mistakes, you make sure you are angry, but also make sure the other one is not unsafe or in danger, because of your anger...Love does not allow you to punish...

Originally posted by: asmi_joya

Virat has been a guardian to Sai since she lost her guardian angel...He has helped her with her dreams when she gave up on them losing her father. He is good man most of the days, is concerned about her, cares for her and is also considerate towards her. He bears her tantrums and also pampers her.. Few days back I had discussed, specifically during holi that he is enamoured by her selfishness, he has also been taken by how much she has done for his family, he feels attracted to the love she is capable to give(I always see Sai's love towards Devi Tai extremely unconditional and Devi's as well), he is attracted to her as a woman as well..He is possessive for her, he is insecure for her as well since the very beginning, I denied to call it love then and had said, he will gradually reach there, he is still to reach there.. But now that we are here when the man is shown to be craving for the love he declares to have for his wife and I still feel he is not there.. He is still not there.. Am I missing something here.??

PS: Please do not consider this as a Virat bashing post..Its just that I dont feel he has reached the stage of love for Sai..... Just wanted to have variant views..

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