Originally posted by: ShipIsSailing
It's a bit complicated, I guess. Part of the reason why we feel like Virat doesn't completely loves Sai might be because of the fact that his realisation was never really shown in the serial. It just came out of nowhere. Plus, also because of so many times he went all extremes, even when he had realized that he loved her.
But if we take into account the thing we have been shown and just somehow try to make some sense about it then I think that Virat's love is a bit of in between.
See, love is a bit overrated. Because of all the tv serials and rom coms which we have seen, we have developed a wrong notation regarding how love happens. It isn't something which just happens, in one moment, or one day, or even one week. It happens really slowly, with time. The couple who say that they are in love and are going to marry each other also don't completely love each other. Even the couples who have been married for a long time might not completely love each other. But does that mean that there is no love between them? No, not really.
Love has many phases and each phase is entered through time and experiences. Experience of living together, of fighting with other, of seeing just how ugly the other person can be, but still understanding each other, still knowing that deep down they are a good person. If we talk about stages of love, I won't really need to explain it wrt SaiRat.
1) attraction/ romance: where all the sweet stuffs happen. This usually happens in the beginning of a realationship. The main point- here, people focus more on the similarities and less on the flaws. They avoid fights and try to ignore the things in which they don't see eye to eye with.
2) Reality: This is the oof stage. Here, we begin to see that maybe the two people aren't actually meant to be. They start to see the flaws, and begin to realise that the other might not really be perfect. It doesn't mean that the person is not in love anymore, just that these are the thoughts that goes through their minds. Maybe they are not truly compatible, maybe it was just an infatuation, maybe they should just break up. Plus, add to it the fact that romance just starts to lessen up.
3) Disappointment: The after effect of stage two. People start to analyze their relationship. They fight really frequently and over everything and nothing. And here enters the main misconception of a perfect couple, i.e., those who are meant to be don't have much fights, or, having too much fight might actually be a sign of a doomed relationship. Here, majority of couples fail. They are unable to communicate, to understand and to open up to each other.
4) Stability: For those who manage to go through the last two torturous stages. The couple now know what it means to be with each other. They now know how flawed their significant other is, and they still choose to be with them. They realise that the person they love might be broken and damaged but deep down they reciprocate the love just as passionately. But that doesn't mean that this stage is all hum hogaye kaamiyab. The couple still have some problems, they still have some disappointment. They still miss the glamour of the new and young love. They still miss the romance. But more or less the storm has ended.
5) Commitment: This stage is hard to reach, even if you have been married for decades. This is the marital bliss. No, not like no fights and all, but a bliss because their are still fights, there are still counter arguments, but now these two wouldn't have it any other way. They love each other and have loved each other through everything, and will continue to do so. Even after knowing everything they would still choose each other over and over again. They don't feel any disappointment anymore, no lack of anything, just love.
So, now you know, love is not that simple, not that beautiful, but it is real, and just a tad bit difficult. These stages don't have any specific boundaries, or any specific order tbh, but it is there and these can be found in every relationship. If we talk about SaiRat, they are in a mixture of all these stages (which is tbh not that uncommon). Their relationship has developed in one particular way but is yet to even start in the other way. But that doesn't mean that there is no love. There is, just not the one we always expected and dreamt about.
Plus, I really should learn how to write smaller replies.
PS: This is mainly to say that sometimes it is easier to believe that there is no love instead of accepting that love too can have an ugly side. But as for how Virat shows his love ... then everyone has their own way of showing it.
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