Why do you think Virat loves Sai?

Virat has been a guardian to Sai since she lost her guardian angel...He has helped her with her dreams when she gave up on them losing her father. He is good man most of the days, is concerned about her, cares for her and is also considerate towards her. He bears her tantrums and also pampers her.. Few days back I had discussed, specifically during holi that he is enamoured by her selfishness, he has also been taken by how much she has done for his family, he feels attracted to the love she is capable to give(I always see Sai's love towards Devi Tai extremely unconditional and Devi's as well), he is attracted to her as a woman as well..He is possessive for her, he is insecure for her as well since the very beginning, I denied to call it love then and had said, he will gradually reach there, he is still to reach there.. But now that we are here when the man is shown to be craving for the love he declares to have for his wife and I still feel he is not there.. He is still not there.. Am I missing something here.??

PS: Please do not consider this as a Virat bashing post..Its just that I dont feel he has reached the stage of love for Sai..... Just wanted to have variant views..

Tagging people who I interact with.. Everyone is welcome to give their opinion.

I don't think he "loves" her. Yes it is more than attraction/like phase but whatever it is. its not love

I don't understand what is love a/c to virat.he still considering pakhi his first love but due to circumstances he can't accept.i always thought he use sai as his rebound because in his mind pakhi is right girl for him who listen him,care for him and do anything for him.he always feel comfortable and sharing problems with her rather than sai.there is no love between sai virat but attraction which pull them.

I think he loves her , but his love comes with certain conditions which may not be okay with us because we want him to love sai unconditionally but at the end of the day he is a human and it's in human nature to be selfish. And it's not bad to be selfish if you feel it is important to protect yourself.

Thanks for the tag Asmi. Virat hasn't reached the "love" phase yet. He's in the jealousy, physical attraction and possessiveness phase. According to me, attraction will last till a particular time. What lasts for a lifetime is respect, trust and open communication. Virat has displayed none of these in his relationship with Sai. He doesn't respect her the way an equal partner should be respected. She's still a bachchi for him. He doesn't respect her because he allows his family members to abuse her. He doesn't trust her based on the behaviour he displayed in the Devkit wedding/ ousting track and Ajinkya kaand. He doesn't have an open communication with her because he thinks that he doesn't owe an explanation to Sai about the vaada, the circumstances of it, what happened after that and where Pakhi stands currently. With all these aspects lacking, a relationship will not last for long.

There's absolutely no attempt from Virat's side to try and make sense of Sai's POV. I agree that he's hurt because of her behaviour on the anniversary day. But has he ever tried to understand why? His behaviour resembles that of a jilted lover. It's so sad that the character has been reduced to this, because he has displayed far more mature behaviour when he wasn't even in love with Sai. The level of execution is falling day by day. This is not the same show that I started watching

Love differs from person to person and their forms too. We love our family out of habit of having them in our lives since we start existing. We start to love our friends and spouses (In arranged marriages) see them everyday, as we get to know them better as time goes, share our ups and downs of life. It's kind of habitual too. Only few scenarios happen where people actually fall in love with their spouses in arranged marriages.

I see Virat's situation as the former only. He started living with her, spend more time, got to know her better, got to see her best and worst times. And her good nature, kindness towards his family and her efforts during Devyani's wedding impressed him more as he's a family oriented man. So his love for her is more than a habitual phase now. But falling entirely in love with her, seems a questionable statement now. If he's really fallen in love, then his pain and heartbreak won't blind his sanity and he'd know that she's just a kid, that he needs to bear with her adamant nature, that he'd have to shower her with care and concern as she's got nobody as family, and never show his anger and hatred despite his feelings being unreciprocated.

There's not much difference between Pakhi and him now, which is the truth. But he's not a vile person, which is the difference between Pakhi and him. Hopefully he'll realise his mistake, and when he gets his senses back, he'll understand that he's being unfair to Sai, he will change that eventually and also apologize of necessary, which is a very positive thing about Virat. He never shies away from apologising when he's wrong, which Pakhi doesn't possess even the slightest bit.

He loves her, that's why her words had made a huge impact on him, that he is behaving that way, because pakhi has said many mean things to him but he lets it off as he didn't care about pakhi and her feelings. About sai , his indifference is the mixture of his hurt, his way of protecting his heart, little bit of ego, and his feeling that she will be better without him , as both did not look matters from others point if view.

Since beginning he felt something (not love) for sai because he has never seen a girl like her. That's why he calls her unique many times. More than sai selflessness or anything it is her unique personality which attracted him. During amay fiasco he was jealous,wanted her attention. That time he had various problems with sai be it her rudeness, talking back to elders, immaturity & many more things still he couldn't stop himself from getting attracted towards her. He was almost in love with her when sai was being just sai without doing anything for family. During head massage scene he talked with sai in playful manner knowing she talked rudely with the person (pakhi) whom he thinks he loves. During their deal phase no matter how much he gets mad at sai for being rude to his bf the next min he goes into banter mode with her be it on their first night day, DIG incident (the night where he gives her money), head massage scene. Which person will banter with other person when his true love is upset. He unknowingly expressed his expectations as husband to sai during amay fight episode. But he never gave thought to his changing behavior because he felt he loves someone else or commited to other person. But the more time he spend with sai the more he fell for her. He realised his love during Holi festival only. But her doing so much for the family gave him strength to accept his feelings & admit his love for her. He thought breaking his commitment promise is worth for a girl like sai with whom he developed feelings for various reasons. But his equation with pakhi is different. He talks too nicely with pakhi who insults his wife. But his talks with her are formal just as family member, I have never seen virat having banter with pakhi when sai is upset or angry with him or when he fights with sai. His most of the normal talks with her r about devi daughter birthday celebration or sai birthday celebration. Remaining all their talks r about vaada & all. He is nice to pakhi despite her doing his insult many times is because she satisfies his male ego. One min she calls him dokebaaz next min comes with food plate to ask him sorry. His guilt also one reason why he is nice with her. But for me pakhi satisfies his ego by asking him sorry & by begging him to accept her. And virat is image conscious. He never want someone to think bad about him. That's why he behaves with them the way they wants him to behave. He does same with pakhi,kaku, sonali,ninad. But with sai it is completely different. Sai doesn't entertain him much, always does something which looks like challenging to him. Good or bad he brings out his true nature infront of her only. And virat is very self absorbed character. He thinks about only his emotions many times. Today too he doesn't think twice before joining pakhi in taunting sai because he saw only his hurt & disappointment. He didn't saw the place, the person with whom he is agreeing. For him he is hurt & angry with sai so he would never do mistake of making sai his spokesperson. He brought up his ego clash with sai there. That's why his support to sai depends upon his equation with sai. Because he is that much self absorbed. That is my most disliked quality of his character. He loves sai but don't know how to honour the love. I don't know how he became IPS officer who has zero intrusion over others motives. He is always I,me, myself. Now his thoughts r only about sai so he is not thinking beyond her rejection. In this purpose he doesn't even realise how mean he is behaving. His love for sai is unconditional but his way of showing love is conditional. Current track is example: he loves sai, wants her to realise her feelings, yearns for her love despite her rude words to him on anniversary but he acts mean, disrespectful towards her because of the same rude words she said. Her rude words doesn't stop him from loving her but it stopped him from behaving sane with her. He needs to understand love & respect display should be unconditional.

My take on this is that - I believe he loves her because he sees a spark of something good in her that attracts him, because he is generally a decent and good man himself. He loves Sai despite himself and for all her good parts as well as her flaws. This is the reason I always feel that he would have eventually maybe fallen out of "love" with Patralekha, though he was attracted to her, because she does not have this innate goodness, and is a selfish person. Sai is bright and fresh and innocent, and she might seem brash, but she is really endearing.

Well, that's what I always thought about him. I am actually really not able to associate much with Virat at the moment. I know he is very sure about his feelings, but somewhere he is unable to deal with the "rejection" from Sai, despite the fact that he himself has not articulated to her in words what he feels. I know it's being done for drama 🤔, but it feels like character butchering. When he is able, so openly, to say in front of KBA that what is between him and Sai is true love, and the next minute, he basically accuses Sai of making up stories - it is very difficult to see that and not feel confused. I really do not understand how the TRP crowd appreciates this, and neither do I understand people who justify his up-and-down behaviour, and especially his physical abuse in the name of jealousy.

What I do not and cannot accept or appreciate is the long rope he is giving Patralekha, and degrading his wife in front of a woman who is already his wife's abuser, has caused problems in their lives, has almost indirectly been the reason why his wife might have died, has proposed an EMA / divorce to him - why is he polite to her, why is he not making faces when she talks to him or keep a distance with her? These are the confused signals he is giving to both her and Sai, and these are the reasons Sai is not allowing herself to melt and take that final step to accept that she is in love with him too. If they wanted to show SaiRat sort of torn between wanting to separate but also wanting to be together - that kind of pull and push, finally leading to a confession of love - that would be amazing to watch and NeilSha would totally do it justice as well. But if they are going to be provoked into rude and unnecessary jalebis due to a third person, especially KBA, it is going to be torture to watch. This is where the execution / direction / dialogues are failing big time.

PS - thanks for the tag! 🤗

Originally posted by: Moonks

I think he loves her , but his love comes with certain conditions which may not be okay with us because we want him to love sai unconditionally but at the end of the day he is a human and it's in human nature to be selfish. And it's not bad to be selfish if you feel it is important to protect yourself.

I disagree about the unconditional part, no one but your parents love you unconditionally..I think siblings can...but for a life partner to love you unconditionally is difficult....Virat anyway fell in love with Sai after he saw her selfless, giving nature, for what she did for his family, thats the reason he gave to Patralekha as well.. So ofcourse it was always conditional...and why should it not be...