can A & R really go back to being AR once again..? - Page 3

Originally posted by: Angelic_Swancy

@Bold: I sooo agree with that statement. Love isn't the only thing you need in a relationship, there's trust, which is the most lacking thing between AR's relationship. Then there's understanding, have they ever understood each other? Even armaan has said before that ridhima could never understand him, and then the last most important thing is friendship, that's what i never saw in their relationship, the need to share things to each other, or just talk, it can never be like this.

This is my POV

Neetz, AMAZING post baby.

so does this mean marriage can survive just on trust....you don't need love to make it work?

i have read certain posts regarding trust which is lacking in AR relationship but what about SR....Sid doesnt trust Ridhima either...do you think that marriage can survice where your wife still cares for her ex...specially when that ex hasn't betrayed its only circumstances that separated them. It is easy to say move on but with AR history, it is not that easy to move on. Also, it won't be easy for a husband to accept his wife when he knows that his wife has taken bullet for her bf in the past. The SR relationship shown was unrealistic anyways...real life is so different. So if SR was possible to be shown then why not AR getting back together.

loved ur post
and exactly my thots r same on this issue
riddhiam is trying to move on wid sid she might be having armaan somewhere in her heart but it will take time to completely forget armaans love
armaan has also accepted that riddhima is meant for sid he has accepted sidma relationship
if riddhiam will comeback to him he will loose trust in her that how can she leave sid who is her husband

and their relationship will be a confused one
riddhiam will never be able to forget that sid was her husband and she left him for her selfishness
neither armaan will appreciate teh fact
so betterment of all lives sid riddhima shud stay and armaan shud move on wid shilpa

There's absolutely no denying the change in their circumstances as well as personalities. But the question of whether a relationship will work is not only restricted to this factor, the way I look at it. Yes, they may not be the same Armaan and Riddhima who fell in love with each other three years ago. Things are far more complicated now, and they've both weathered through their own respective dark phases, unfortunately without each other for support. But if they do get back together, which is highly unlikely but that's besides the point, whether their relationship works or not would depend on whether they can make it work with the changes. Love can't sustain a relationship alone, that's very, very true. But there's nothing that can't be built over time, be it trust or understanding or even reconciliation with one's past. The very same questions one is asking about letting go of the baggage of the past few months, were asked a few months ago about the baggage of the past few years. And the answer to both questions is the same too : that things will work if you make them work, and if they're destined to work. SR are doing what they can to make their marriage work, and it can still work despite the baggage of AR's past. Then why not the same for AR if they ever get back together?

Originally posted by: romaila

thats true that cant be the same but love is more than this m sure their strong bond will cover up all these things and they will never look back in their past thats what AR are..

Sorry to point this out but if AR never look back into the past, why is it that Armaan hasn't moved on and why is Riddhima trying to help Armaan move on? So then doesn't Sid become a part of their past and you really think they can forget him and move on?

i think she will if its wid the consent of sid... and i want dem to b united by sid....

Originally posted by: sapna2107

i have read certain posts regarding trust which is lacking in AR relationship but what about SR....Sid doesnt trust Ridhima either...do you think that marriage can survice where your wife still cares for her ex...specially when that ex hasn't betrayed its only circumstances that separated them. It is easy to say move on but with AR history, it is not that easy to move on. Also, it won't be easy for a husband to accept his wife when he knows that his wife has taken bullet for her bf in the past. The SR relationship shown was unrealistic anyways...real life is so different. So if SR was possible to be shown then why not AR getting back together.

Umm... ok so they were seperated by fate I agree there. But that doesn't mean fate will get them back together again, the Riddhima that took the bullet and the Riddhima that is standing now are two different people. Real life how is it different? I mean people change circumstances change so what is so different about the show? I mean I am not the same person I was 5 years ago because so much has changed in my life. People can change in small spans of time as well depends how they cope with the situations they face and right now Riddhima has stepped away from her past the person she was a year ago and she took that step a long time ago.

As for Sid's jealously and insecurity and lack of trust, isn't because of AR's past because he knows about it and has fully accepted it. SR's relationship may seemed rushed but that doesn't mean it is any less important over AR's relationship.

Originally posted by: nikita_88

Sorry to point this out but if AR never look back into the past, why is it that Armaan hasn't moved on and why is Riddhima trying to help Armaan move on? So then doesn't Sid become a part of their past and you really think they can forget him and move on?

if Sid can forget about his past then why not AR when that pust was full of pain and AR past was full of sweet memories and no one ever want to del sweet memories from their life....Sid will be no more that much imp for them when Ar will be together as i can sense from the current trcak that soon Sid will be shown negative

...And they'll never know until they try.😆

I mean it can go two ways. Either it'll fail or it'll succeed. And if Riddhima trusts Armaan to make everything alright, which he always does, then success seems imminent.

Exactly they can't go back to being the same AR. This was a questionable point that me doubt the whole "AR unification" even while I was an AR fan. Too much has happened that has clanged these two. More than anyone else, Riddhima aka Mrs. Modi has changed a lot. I really don't think she can go back to being Armaan's basket. Heck why just Riddhima, look at Armaan. I think ever since he came back, he's learned that life doesn't stop for everyone and he's seen many different shades of Riddhima that he never saw before he came back.

Also sometimes problems cause some couples to come much closer together since they rise from the issue. However there is a flip side to the coin. Some incidents also cause distance as they change the people involved. AR belong to the latter group because too much has changed: situations, external people, they themselves, and their love and relationship.

Final words: No they can't be the same AR. Period.