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Posted: 8 years ago

#51

Originally posted by: HippoSucks

Vandana knew from everything that happened with Ashwin that she was not a good choice for Arjun. What is the problem with that? That is her opinion, which turned out to be right. Vandana would feel guilty if Arjun had come back to her and told her how wonderful his life has been with Maya. Instead, he came back and told her that Maya ruined her life, so Vandana was right.

Someone who did what she did cannot be healed.

Can't believe people still talk of Ashwin in a good light. So you are trying to say that because Maya got abused by Ashwin she was not a good choice?! Vandana believed a freaking child abuser over the abused and you are still supporting Vandana and calling her justified.

Edited by -iLoveZaynMalik - 8 years ago

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HippoSucks

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Posted: 8 years ago

#52

Originally posted by: -iLoveZaynMalik
Can't believe people still talk of Ashwin in a good light. So you are trying to say that because Maya got abused by Ashwin she was not a good choice?! Vandana believed a freaking child abuser over the abused and you are still supporting Vandana and calling her justified.

You knew what I meant. If your daughter-in-law's father tells you all sorts of thing about her (whether they are right or not), a lot of drama happens causing him to get beat up, and then he dies (with Maya being the suspected killer), then obviously you would be disturbed.

I am not talking about Ashwin in a good light at all.

Edited by HippoSucks - 8 years ago

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shalinii173

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Posted: 8 years ago

#53

So the problem is not because of the obsession, posseiveness, selfishness, manipulation and jealousy of the pyshyco Maya. Its just VANDANA. 👏

Thanks for enlightening us. 😊

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fanfare.1

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Posted: 8 years ago

#54

Lol, you can't put entire blame on vandana. Maya was insane earlier too, it's just vandana saw it 1st felt by her behaviour of breaking glass, dialogues etc. and reacted. Any mother who finds her son going to marry a psycho girl will react, go and ask your parents whether they would allow you to marry a psycho path.

Also there was no vandana in 3yrs arjun Maya lived separately.

Now let's wait for ashvin murder truth , pandit death & Maya childhood sach to comeout. I think Vandana doesn't have a hand in all those happenings.

Edited by .bluebolt - 8 years ago

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Kaushitaki

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Posted: 8 years ago

#55

I condemn Vandana's garbage throwing action. I also believe she should have played maya's way, kept her in the house. She was the first to identify maya as a manipulator. So it was her duty to save arjun at any cost. She couldn't do that. I see no harm in her not accepting maya but at no cost should she have let them leave house together.

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Khushi_love

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Posted: 8 years ago

#56

Originally posted by: Penfolk
I condemn Vandana's garbage throwing action. I also believe she should have played maya's way, kept her in the house. She was the first to identify maya as a manipulator. So it was her duty to save arjun at any cost. She couldn't do that. I see no harm in her not accepting maya but at no cost should she have let them leave house together.

That's where Maya played her cards again...She wanted to bring Jhanvi into the Sharma house, n obviously, how could Vandana allow that...Into their tiny flat??

Intelligent manipulation 😆

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Khushi_love

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Posted: 8 years ago

#57

Originally posted by: .bluebolt
Lol, you can't put entire blame on vandana. Maya was insane earlier too, it's just vandana saw it 1st felt by her behaviour of breaking glass, dialogues etc. and reacted. Any mother who finds her son going to marry a psycho girl will react, go and ask your parents whether they would allow you to marry a psycho path.
Also there was no vandana in 3yrs arjun Maya lived separately.

Now let's wait for ashvin murder truth , pandit death & Maya childhood sach to comeout. I think Vandana doesn't have a hand in all those happenings.

Ya...But because Vandana was going to throw garbage later, Maya did all that she did 😉😆

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Kaushitaki

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Posted: 8 years ago

#58

Originally posted by: ---Khushi---

That's where Maya played her cards again...She wanted to bring Jhanvi into the Sharma house, n obviously, how could Vandana allow that...Into their tiny flat??

Intelligent manipulation 😆

I believe somehow arranging for a comatose patient was better than losing son forever. I also believe vandana knew what the consequences would be, but was too shocked to react atm.

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shruthiravi

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Posted: 8 years ago

#59

Vandana had a chance to redeem Maya. Yes she had a realistic chance. But her problem was Maya ne Saanjh ki jagah le li. Also going behind all the kala saaya predictions and basing her actions on that. She could have atleast observed Maya for some time. Because whether she like it or not the marriage had happened. As Saanjh had said to her you cant erase Maya's sindoor or break her mangalsutra. If that has to be done it means her son Arjun is dead.

So make an attempt atleast to look at the girl objectively if you are really concerned about your son's happiness. Because his life is connected with this girl.

I had loved Suman many times at this point, who tried to give sane advice to Vandana. But she is ignored. Even yesterday Suman spoke sane things to Saanjh. Arjun's protection is not destruction of Maya. If Vandana and Saanjh knows something about marriage symbolism then wife is called ardhagnini or she is part of Arjun. If you destroy her, somewhere he is also destroyed.

Samay gave the right direction to Saanjh. Leave Maya and Arjun and concentrate on Ayan. Yes that is what will sustain life. Concentrating on Ayan will kill the evilness in Maya, may not destroy her completely. And a sane Maya if at all is there can live a life with Arjun and her child.

Sustenance is a hard task. You have to add certain things, you have to subtract certain things so that life goes on.

At this point every character with their action is adding upto adharma. If it has to reduce sacrifice is needed. Someone has to burn in the fire of selflessness, someone has to show enough surrender to reverse the card.

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anshvi

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Posted: 8 years ago

#60

Well what Vandana did was absoultely wrong but to say that she is the root cause of evrerything , whatever Maya did is because Vandana didn't accept her as a daughter in law and ill treated her will not be right in my opinion.

Yes Vandana must have tried to accept Maya, should have tried to undersand her and must have given Maya a chance coz everyone deserves a chance in life

but she should not be solely called a root cause and the only cause...she was one of the reasons but not the root cause.

We are responsible for our own actions...Maya framed Ayaan , bribed the mukti morcha women , tied , drugged , mentally harassed Arjun...coz Maya is mentally ill..even if Vandana had accepted her who's to say she wouldn't have gotten insecure from other things...what would have happened IF Vandana had accepted her is a hypothetical case - here people can only make assumptions as to what could have happened..each can have his own perspective and assumption

Now Vandana , Ayaan , Saanjh or anyone else for that matter was no where in picture for 3 years...Arjun had severed all ties with them..Maya was happy with Arjun then what went wrong...why their 3 years became so miserable.? She could have lived a happy life with Arjun but this was not the case.

Vandana can be termed as one of the reasons why Maya got insecure in the first place but not the root cause.

Maya like anyone else Maya is also responsible for her own actions.