Originally posted by: SaurabhKiRadha
it is difficult categorise maya in box definition of psychiatric illness . infact due to unprovoked manipulation against some ckt i doubt if she really has some severe issue which are making her to manipulate things or she is too selfish n irrational person !!
i feel she is suffering from borderline personality disorder. n person suffering from this do manipulate things .
i will post info from Google here
first BPD
Borderline personality disorder (BPD), also known as emotionally unstable personality disorder, is a long-term pattern of abnormal behavior characterized by unstable
relationships with other people, unstable
sense of self , and unstable emotions . There is often an extreme fear of
abandonment , frequent dangerous behavior, a feeling of emptiness, and self-harm . Symptoms may be brought on by seemingly normal events. The behavior typically begins by early adulthood, and occurs across a variety of situations. Substance abuse,
depression , and eating disorders are commonly associated with BPD. BPD increases the risk of self-harm and 10% of people affected die by suicide .
BPD's causes are unclear, but seem to involve genetic, brain, environment, and social factors. It occurs about five times more often in a person who has an affected close relative. Adverse life events also appear to play a role
more info here https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Emotionally_unstable_personality_disorder
than about manipulation
Definition:
Manipulation - The practice of steering an individual into a desired behavior for the purpose of achieving a hidden personal goal.
Collateral Damage
People with Personality Disorders often engage in behaviors which appear manipulative and controlling to those around them. While these manipulative acts may be deliberate and conscious on the part of the Personality Disordered individual, their focus is often not so much on the person they are controlling as it is on themselves. In many cases, the person is attempting to soothe internal feelings or fears by creating a focal point in a close relationship, rather than attempting to produce certain feelings in others - a bit like the way a puppeteer seeks an audience response through the puppet's antics.
This helps explain why appeals for fairness or logical arguments are often ineffective in persuading people with Personality Disorders to behave more fairly or lovingly. For them, their own feelings take precedence, while the feelings and needs of others may appear small and insignificant. This can result in a dysfunctional Situational Ethic in the mind of the person with the Personality Disorder in which the end (resolving the internal feelings) justifies the means (controlling, manipulating or hurting someone close).
This does not qualify as an excuse for manipulative or hurtful behaviors. It can be helpful for Nons however to understand that this disconnect exists in the minds of some Personality Disordered persons, and that the manipulative or controlling behavior is not somehow deserved, or even on some levels personal.
How it Looks
Behaving in an outrageous or violent way in order to provoke an angry response - known as Baiting.
Casting oneself as a victim in order to evoke a sympathetic response - also known as Self-Victimization.
Overt acts of self-harm intended to generate a crisis for loved ones.
Overt cheating or flirting to evoke a sense of jealousy in others.
Withdrawal, avoidance or silent treatment designed to get the other person to pursue closeness.
Proxy Recruitment, or pitting two other people against each other in order to create conflict between others.
Chronic empty promises.
Raging with the intent of maintaining a state of conflict or to force another to pay greater attention.
Hoovering to persuade a withdrawing abuse victim to return to a state of closeness.
How it Feels
Acts of manipulation often evoke the greatest feelings of betrayal and anger in those who are affected by them. It is humiliating to discover that someone has been controlling you without your consent.
Learning To Cope with Manipulation
Your thoughts and feelings are your own property and nobody has a right to manipulate or control your feelings without your consent. Therefore it is important to establish boundaries to protect yourself and to detach emotionally from the manipulative person so that your own feelings cannot be used as a tool to control you.
What NOT to Do
Don't fly off the handle when somebody does something outrageous. Just get away from them.
Don't take it personally when someone tries to manipulate or control you - chances are they are so focused on themselves that your feelings are insignificant to them.
Don't argue or plead for compassion or justice from a controlling person. They may be looking at the situation through a very different lens than you and be blind to your logic.
Don't retaliate or try to get revenge on a person who manipulates you. This will only make the situation worse, and you will likely regret it.
Don't put yourself in a position where you can be easily controlled. If the manipulative person gets to you by spending your money or breaking objects which are valuable to you don't allow them access to those things.
Don't let your guard down when a manipulative person switches and starts being kind. Most abusive behaviors are cyclical and are based on the ebb and flow of the abuser's feelings.
Don't become isolated and suffer in silence. You need support to cope.
What TO Do
Quickly, calmly and without drama, leave the situation and get to a place where you are treated with respect.
Work on boundaries which will protect you, your loved ones and your property. Make people and things which are vulnerable off-limits to those who don't have the ability to control their own behavior.
If appropriate, state clearly and calmly what the offending behavior is one time only - such as "when you do this, I feel that".
Get support and discuss your concerns with someone who cares about you and who understands Personality Disorders.
Spend time with people who will treat you with genuine respect and honor and uphold your dignity.
http://outofthefog.website/top-100-trait-blog/2015/11/4/manipulation
i tried to search if crime committed by than pardonable ? mostly not
"For the most part, people with personality disorders are quite capable of making choices about their behavior. They know the difference between right and wrong, although they may have no emotional investment in doing what is right. They can follow society's rules and laws when it suits their purpose"
here is the article citing incident where bpd patient was punished.
http://www.lovefraud.com/2012/07/17/personality-disorder-as-an-excuse-for-criminal-behavior/
another article showing strong correlation of bpd n criminal behavior.
http://hubpages.com/health/Borderline-Personality-Disorder-Criminal-Behavior
Borderline personality disorder has been reported as the one of the top disorders prison inmates are diagnosed with linking the disorder with criminal behavior (Sansone 2009). Between 25% to 50% of inmates in prison suffer from borderline personality disorder, mostly shown within females (Sansone 2009). So what is borderline personality? What causes someone to develop the disorder? Why is it linked to so many within our criminal justice system? And how can we prevent so many who suffer from borderline personality disorder from becoming another number within our prisons?
Borderline Per
u can go to that link more info is there n also questions to know if person has signs suggestive of bpd.
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