Originally posted by: soap-critic
The topic of this thread is about Santu's decision. Somewhere along the way it got derailed to judging Hiten and Khemi's behaviour instead of judging Santu's decision.
I am putting the track back to the original topic by putting in my 2 cents. I do not agree with the way Santu took the decision and justified it to Khemi. When she went to talk to Nanaji why did she not take Khemi along with her and have a joint family discussion? This way both of them could have heard her out. It was after all about Khemi's marraige.
After that Santu did not let Hiten finish whatever it was that he wanted to tell her. If she made the decision in her role as maalkin shouldn't the parties involved be given an opportunity to be heard? And shouldn't the maalik be made aware of what is going the situation? If Santu involved Nanaji as a parent then isn't it DM's right to know as Hiten's father too?
Khemi has already told Santu that she will not be able to forget Hiten and accept Shambhu. A just and fair decision should involve Shambhu too. Why did she not go talk and bring him to the haveli and have a talk with DM present? She is experiencing first hand what it is like to have a spouse whose heart belongs to someone else. Why does she think it would be OK for Shambhu to be in the same situation?
DM has been married twice - the first time to a woman he loved very much and whom he still loves after her death and the second time in a forced marraige to a young girl he is barely beginning to acknowledge in his life but not give her the rights of his wife. He has experienced both types of scenarios. He would have been very angry at first but DM is a just and fair man. He would definitely have heard everyone out before giving his decision.
Santu's unilateral decision was wrong on so many fronts. If Santu had gone about taking the decision in the right way matters would not have come to this stage. The necklace would still be locked in DM's safe.
Hema......heres my view abt santu decision...
When santu went and talked to Nanaji, she was totally broken with what she just saw and she was worried for her sister. Nanaji was the only one she could have confided (& she did think abt her sisters love here) in since it was abt khemi her sister.......i am sure if it was abt maulik or kaddu she waould have confided to baa or babuji or champakali....on why she did not confide abt hiten to baa or bauji...because she felt shameful of what her sister and her step son have done.........it is my understanding that it is much easier to tell ur parents or nanaji in this case if the act is such shameful because its one day beore the wedding....than to ur inlaws whom you have just started to know and who have just started to respect you...........she tried her best to solve the issue as a sister first, but what if the eldest sister who has preached her all abt family and its respect is saying one day beore the wedding ......i dont want to marry shambu because i love hiten and none would be happy......no its not done...especially where its a village scinearo.....what if hiten declared his love after the wedding.....khemi would then decide to leave shambu.......
abt why she did not tell DM......she never would have becasue thats her nature and she tries to solve all the problems herself......like in kaddu's case or mauliks case or Hitens diamnond throwing case.....I know it is wrong not to share all this with her spouse....but she did go and speak to DM abt Maulik when he got totally out of control......even now she is tryign to fix everything herself...she is hoping atleast her elder sister would understand her situation........also as santu mentioned to Khemi...if it was anyone elese other than her sister she would have told DM everything......but khemis only defense mechanism is by sayign Maalikin i will do anythign u say........she did not for once thnk abt santus dilemma and what woudl santus condition be if all this comes out if DM does not agree
and Hiten...when his dads yes or no does not make a difference to him anyways....what is he waiting for till the last sec of Khemi-shambu marriage...to make an entry and announce that he loves Khemi.....
i am just hoping atleast today...this whole issue comes out and santu is free of this whole hiten and khemi drama.....hope they come out in open and not wait for santu to get yellings from DM
