Santo's decision about Khemi-Hiten - Page 3

Originally posted by: Opti

Khemi is no Maasi and Hiten is no bhanja. This twisted relationship is a product of a society which allows a 50 year old man to marry an 18 year old girl ( girl young enough to be his daughter), all for his own convenience. So far he has not even accorded the girl her rightful place as his wife and two young like minded people should not get together because of this? What strange logic is this? What will be yuck to me is to show DM and Santo having a passionate relationship. I hope they show their love story in a more sensitive way, born more out of care rather than any physical attraction. So far so good. Hope they keep it clean.

As to behaving illogical, I dont think logic and love go hand in hand. If you are too rational you just cant fall in love. It would be a cold calculated relationship. Hiten and Khemi are not selfish. If they were, they would have eloped by now, irrespective of what Santu Maalkin feels about it. They are suffering because they do not want to hurt the people they care for.

As to maturity, even a person like DM has often acted immaturedly. So there is nothing to choose between the characters.

Well, whether Hiten-Khemi like it or not and irrespective of the reason behind it, the fact remains that Hiten's father is married to Khemi's sister and this fact cannot be undone just because it does not fall in place with Hiten-Khemi's romance. As such by society's standards, they are very much maasi-bhanja. Relationships do not cease to exist just because you do not accept it. When you live in a society, you have to follow it's norms and these norms do not change for anyone's convenience. Certain relationships are taboo and this happens to be one of them.

When I said they behaved illogically, I did not mean that their falling in love was illogical ( in fact it was just plain wrong). What was illogical was the way they behaved. If they were so much in love, they should have come out in the open with it a lot earlier and not waited until two days before the wedding when everyone including DM despite his inital anger had reconciled to it and given Khemi-Shambhu his bessings, all the arrangements for the wedding were in place, all the guests were there, shambhu's family were all prepared for the wedding. If you remember until last week Hiten was saying that he would see Khemi married to Shambhu and he was actually mad when he thought that DM had not given his consent to the wedding and said to Motiben that he was not going to accept DM's decision - what happened now? Coming out now with their love is going to break so many hearts and betray so many people - nanaji, shambhu, DM and cause these people so much censure and ridicule from all the guests - if that is not being selfish, then I don't know what is. Has Khemi even thought how Nanaji is going to face all the people in his village if this comes out? Even now, they don't have the courage to come out in the open before everybody - it was only by chance that Santo caught them together and found out - I think they are selfish cowards.

i personally feel Santu will get Khemi & Hiten married, she will make it public once Khemi come to the Mandap.

I was soo angy at Santo after this episode! I was so upset that Khemi n Hiten got ripped apart like that before they could even figure out how to make their relationship work or how to put it forward becoz they'd just admitted their feeings.

Santo has double standards one for DM family and the other for her own.

With Kaddu she was willing to go against DM and fight for Kaddu right to marry the man she loved it wasn't till she found out the truth that she fought against the relationship.

She was understanding and patient with Kaddu and with Duggu she explained to him that she never has and never could love him so the match between him and Kaddu was possible even though he loved her.

With them she was sensitive and thoughtful but with Khemi and Hiten she was the total opposite!

She was furious and horrified that her sister could do something like that. Going on and on about what their family owe DM and that she was DM wife and how much he had has done for Shambu and the other villagers etc etc

Like Khemi doesn't understand and doesn't know any of this!

Had Santo taken the time to ASK, to HEAR Khemi, to show the understanding she showed with Kaddu then is most probably would've eased Khemi guilt and pain and she would've more then likely of agreed to marry Shambu even though she loves Hiten.

Being Malkin has changed Santo and she is now views Khemi not from a sister point of view; forgetting that they shared the same upbringing by Nana Ji .

Khemi MORE then Santo understands her position-remember Santo now has the backing of BabuJi and Ba which has given her courage and made her stronger as Malkin and this is what Santo was with Khemi- a Malkin with a choti zaart ki chokri!

Hey folks..I am new in this forum...but have been following Bandini serial.........

I agree with you shasha about Santo......She certainly seems to have double standards....
Being Malkin has changed Santo and she is now views Khemi not from a sister point of view; forgetting that they shared the same upbringing by Nana Ji .

Khemi MORE then Santo understands her position-remember Santo now has the backing of BabuJi and Ba which has given her courage and made her stronger as Malkin and this is what Santo was with Khemi- a Malkin with a choti zaart ki chokri!

Too true...............

Originally posted by: Aisha_86

I can understand the views of many that this young love story should not be sacrificed for a samjhauta shadi... But the fact Khemi is Santo's sister, who is Hitens Stepmom, is not the only big problem in this whole relationship..

Even if Santo doesn't stop them.. Who will accept their love? Nana won't, Dm won't and Taru definately won't.. They thought about others in the beginning, then they should have kept thinking about others and not suddenly have a outburst of attraction.. Khemi at first didn't realise that hiten loves her or that she even loves him, but Hiten did.. Still he kept pushing her in to marriage with shabmu??

And the biggest reason they showed why khemi was marriying Shambu is because she was a "manglik".. Is she forgetting that now and are all of you k-h fan's also forgetting that?.. I dont now what it exactly means, but the purpose was that mangliks can only marry a manglik or else there spouse dies.. I don't think Khemi would like Hiten to die..another thing for her to think about... In that way also the khemi hiten marriage isn't possible if hiten isn't a manglik!

So in what way is Santo wrong? She shouldn't have slapped Khemi, but she was repenting for that.. But everything else she said was just right in my opinion..

Agree with you wholeheartedly. Santu is not wrong at all, she doesn't have double standards. Kaddu was not marrying into her own family. Shanky was not related to them and neither was Sandy. Khemi, on the other hand, is a liar and a cheat for throwing her sister to the wolves (Motiben)😡 Santu didn't know the meaning of the necklace and Khemi did! Did she elaborate that little info to Santu,no, a big fat no!

About the Manglik thing, I seriously have no idea about it but a while back I searched for it and I found that 2 mangliks should marry to cancel the negative effects or a manglik can marry a non-manglik who has a strong will or a strong influence or something like that, now I really have no idea about it so please correct me if I'm wrong!

Originally posted by: sg08

When I said they behaved illogically, I did not mean that their falling in love was illogical ( in fact it was just plain wrong).