Originally posted by: vidyasu1
Deep153.. agree with all your points. I still remember the heartbreak anandi suffered when she emailed Jagya and he was furious with her for learning to use the net. He asked her rudely if learning to use the net meant she had progressed in life. DS promptly locked away the computer. The problem I see in this discussion so far is this: everybody agrees jagya is a slime but there is an impression that he and Gauri are modern as opposed to Anandi who is constantly bashed for being regressive. In my view Jagya is the most regressive, backward person among all the characters. His parents are truly modern -- the way they treat their bahu is just so wonderful to watch. Jagya thinks living in Mumbai and wearing city clothes equals being modern -- that shows how little he has evolved. And this business of lying ( here I refuse to excuse Gowri: It is impossible that her parents will not know about her situation without her actively lying) is so uncool. Jagya is small-minded and uncool no matter how much he tries to be a city-slicker. And being broad-minded is not about living in the city. It is an attitude, a state of mind.
And divmath, please, if you do not mind, I have a request: please (forgive me if I have offended you) try not to use such harsh language against pratyusha. I don't celebrate gowri, nor do i find her cute (more stupid, giggly and silly, actually) but I don't hate her character or the actress. In terms of acting, at least according to me, Pratyusha is head and shoulders above the actor who plays Gowri. Look at how Pratyusha played her illness and contrast it with Gowri-actor's unconvincing portrayal of a typhoid patient. Gowri just didn't look sick. Earlier, the devastation Pratyusha showed when Jagya taunted and tormented her in Mumbai -- was splendid. Her grief was so beautifully expressed. I would request the forum not to bash the actor: she does not deserve it, esp not given how talented she is. Yes when Pratyusha started out, she seemed a shadow of Avika but she has grown into her role -- a role which is very different from the chirpy character Avika played as a child.Also it is important to understand Anandi: I don't like it when she cries; nor do I like her Jagya jaap but I try to see it from the perspective of her background. Please recall how all hell broke loose when DS learnt of her secretly studying for the tenth. DS went into a HUGE sulk, refused to talk to the family, laid guilt trips on Anandi and her son and DIL. On top of that, there was Jagya being nasty and mean and jealous over Anandi's success. I constantly interact with urban girls from very poor background and their conditioning is very very different. From childhood they are taught that boys are superior; they fast for their brothers without ever asking why the brothers don't fast for them. It is their reality. We may find it unaccetable but they do not know of or want any other life. Let us assume for a moment that Anandi defied DS and went on to study. DS would have thrown Anandi out or else feigned massive hut and made a godawful production of how the family matriarch has been mistreated by her son's family. I can in fact picture DS going on a fast unto death. Basant would have surely crumbled and scolded Anandi and Bhairon for being selfish and hurting DS. If A went to her mother's , her parents would have lectured her about patni dharam. A's mother insisted that she keep her patni dharam by going to mumbai: how will she have pursued her studies in this hostile environment? Of course she could have been defiant but it is simply not as easy as it has been made out.If A's world is Jagya, she has been taught that from childhood. I am sure she will change, but to expect dramatic change overnight is to be unrealistic. Forget Anandi, educated working urban women breakdown when faced with the unfaithfulness of their husbands. I have friends who have gone into depression unable to accept rejection. Rejection is a horrid, deep wound. Let us give Anandi time to heal instead of abusing her and hating her.And finally, I once again ask a question that people have neatly by-passed: Why are the CVs showing Gowri-Jagya match? Why couldn't Gowri be just another girl? Weren't J-G tnvolved in a child marriage? The symbolism of the sindoor is precisely to show that they have been previously married. To show that they have not met accidentally but by divine design, because of their past association. And am pretty sure, jagya will use the fact of his childhood marriage with Gowri to buy the consent of DS. It wouldn't mattet to him that in the case of Anandi he had used child marriage as an excuse to dump her. I think this part is the truly regressive part of the serial. Supposedly against child marriage but nonetheless showing that it is sacred: Mind you I think Balika Vadhu is superb in terms of acting -- shashank and Anoop are mind-blowing in the way they can portray the smallest emotions -- in terms of dramatic content and in terms of intellectual engagement. But am not sure of the message.
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