I am bubbling with conversation after reading all the posts here. So in the interest of my sanity (cause I would go nuts if I can't put my two cents in) I am going to comment
Pankaj205, leelaa9…. Freud is in very good company here.
Amoli to fall into a no-bars kind of love with DV… does not suit Amoli's character. While DV's underlying character completely balances on his "Id". His heart leads the way and he follows. He has no amour against his obsession and he before everybody else, realizes, that kind of dedication is only possible with love. His passion, obsession, love is blind. He tricked Amoli into marrying him and went about it full scale. He understands her hatred and her pain and wants her to use any means to reduce that pain even if he means walking all over him.
Amoli on the other hand, even when she hates, in her own words "her hatred is not blind". She uses her head. She commits murder to save the person she loves. The caring was there. If you remember, when radhae had his accident and amoli was running helter skelter, she runs into takhur – the interaction between them is of two concerned people at first. She resists against injustice and wrong doing but not to the extent of excluding everyone else. Towards the end, she does not herself realize the extent of her love for him… and this is where the story sadly lost it's track.
About DV going soft. He did not. It takes a lot more willpower, guts and mental strength to atone for one's misdoings. Not just to Amoli but also to Kamoudi and Chandana. And he does atone full throttle as with everything else he does. The loss of his grandeur as you put it in any case is not permanent or should not have been. The story track lost it there…His arrogance and grandeur should have turned visible again as his atonement completes. Cause the reason is not his shame with others but the shame of facing himself and how his past is not a dark cloud on the lives of everyone close to him.
I do tend to go on…..but am sure you got the thread….