Originally posted by: chukkna
Hi Akshata,
May I ask you a question based on the above post. In reply of Pallavi's question about if the man-woman relation is traditional, you said it is a male dominating society. How would you describe a male dominating society.
Sorry if I read in between the lines.
I agree with you that all over the world,it is by and large a male dominated society.But in Asia,I think even today roles are quite cut out for males and females.Unlike the west,there is no concept of paternity leave.There is preference for a male child.Important positions are held by men.Women are not encouraged to be outspoken. In these cultures if a woman makes the decisions,she would be termed dominating and the husband henpecked.
I still feel that in day to day life,the west treats men and women equally.I could be wrong.
How would you relate the later part of the post to male dominance? By the later part of the post I mean is:
"Young boys and girls date more openly than in India. Teenage pregnancy is a big problem as they lack awareness,because sex is still a topic talked in hushed tones.Like schools in India,the education dept. is yet to make sex education mandatory at school level,unlike the International Schools. Marriage is still respectable but it is common for the man to have a mistress,amongst the wealthy.Women are also aggressive because of their economic independance."
Even in India people say it is male dominance. Well, that applies to the whole world I guess that it is male dominated. But I have seen that it used to be in the days when woman was not educated where we see the male to dominate and rule the house and esp his wife. In the educated world I haven't found much of it. Infact, in many cases the woman is dominating but a man never specifically talks about these issues, but a woman is outspoken I think and it is generelised.
I could be wrong again in my assumption and it is all based on what I have seen around me. I cannot say that in general it is the rule. There are always 2 sides of a coin.
What do you think about it?
What I mean is Men have a life of their own outside their marriage and as long as they fulfill their duties towards their families,it's acceptable. Women don't seem to have any arrangement like that even if they are rich and independant.It would not be accepted.She would be called all kinds of names.
I am not talking of extra-marital affairs here.Having a mistress means maintaining another household. Is that common in the west?
It's the girl who faces the brunt when she gets pregnant,the boy does not seem answerable to society.
Jhanak
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