Member of the Week - Akshata - Page 4

Originally posted by: dreamzkp

Congratulations 👏. Very nice to see you on the HOT SEAT. I know that you are enjoying.

Thank you.Yes,I am.😊

I always liked your highly matured discussions and opinions about Astitva.

Thank you again.

BTW, why were you reluctant to accept MOW? Sorry if you had mentioned it anywhere.

I thought the new members might not be interested in posting their questions as they don't know me,and many senior ones are not so active nowadays.

You must be a good cook with 19yrs of fruitful married life.

If my mother in law says so,I guess I am.

1. What is your speciality?

Even on a daily basis we eat a variety of cuisines,so no speciality really.But I do get compliments for the soups I make. There is "Chicken Wing" recipe that goes around as Akshata's Chicken wings😳

2. Have you tried any chineese specials?

In HKG they are authentic Chinese recipes...a far cry from the Indian Chinese. Yes,I make them often....my helper who worked for a chinese family before coming to me is a good cook.She taught me.

3. What is your favourite food?

Sea Food.

4. What other food varieties do you like (apart from Indian)?

Thai,Lebanese,Mexican

5. Whatz your son's name? (ony if you don't mind)

Excuse me for not answering that one.

6. Do you communicate in Konkani with your husband and son?

Yes.Almost all the time,except when we have our arguements.😉

7. Where do you want to settle down if you get a chance to relocate to India? and why?

PUNE,most definitely.That's home to me.Can't think of settling down anywhere else. My inlaws are in Pune and my parents in Mumbai...so no better place for me.

8. What suggestion would you give to all mothers and would be mothers here in IF?

It's good to have more than one child....For the child and for the parents.

These are just some random questions I could think of. Will get back to you later...
Enjoy!!

Hey Thanks for taking time out. Look forward to more questions from you.

Cheers

Originally posted by: Akshata

Marriage is still respectable but it is common for the man to have a mistress,amongst the wealthy.

WOW! Any ideas whether this is also the case with Indians in

a) HKG

b) India

What are your thoughts?...Also, it seems it is accepted in HKG ...so what about for women...do they have their "gentlemen friends"?

Hi Akshata, Regarding parents and children being best friends, I find in our generation it depends a lot on the relationship with Siblings. I suspect you were close to your brother? In my case, my brother and I were far apart in age and we never really shared much growing up..Though we both loved each other.. So my mom and I ended up being best friends and still are.. My husband can never fathom how we can talk for ever over the phone..LOL!

Wow, mistresses being common in HKG! Did not imagine that. That used to be more common in India amongst our parents/grandparents generation when women were just taken for granted and many did not fight back.. Now-a-days women are more assertive in India (educated ones maybe because there is more fear about having a mistress, etc.. compared to our parents' time when many men had them in public!)

I also did not know teen pregnancy was common there.. Is it frowned upon?

Do they have arranged marriage concepts in HKG?? I guess not.. Do parents (getting their consents, etc.) important like it is in India?

What is your husband's relationship with your parents? Is it similar to what you have with his parents?

Originally posted by: xyzzee

Wow, mistresses being common in HKG! Did not imagine that. That used to be more common in India amongst our parents/grandparents generation when women were just taken for granted and many did not fight back..

This was commong India?!!!! WOW! and double WOW!!! can u guys throw more light on this?😕

Originally posted by: innocentindian

This was commong India?!!!! WOW! and double WOW!!! can u guys throw more light on this?😕

OK, OK, my fault😆. It was not maybe that common in middle class India but in the days of the Zameendars, etc.. it was more common amongst them.. As for middle class India in my parents' time - it definitely was not the case in every family or even every third family BUT it was not unseen or unheard of either.. I know of at least 4-5 cases from people of that generation where that happened... And when it did happen, it was an open secret - wife knew everything but stayed silent.. Similar to Saurabh Mathur's case..I apologize I did use that word "common" a bit loosely - but I meant such openness in such issues and some men going around thinking it was their birthright was more common than it is in today's educated class of India.. Let's take this offline, since this can get into a rather detailed discussion..😉 Do PM me with any questions on this.

Originally posted by: xyzzee

OK, OK, my fault😆. It was not maybe that common in middle class India but in the days of the Zameendars, etc.. it was more common amongst them.. As for middle class India in my parents' time - it definitely was not the case in every family or even every third family BUT it was not unseen or unheard of either.. I know of at least 4-5 cases from people of that generation where that happened... And when it did happen, it was an open secret - wife knew everything but stayed silent.. Similar to Saurabh Mathur's case..I apologize I did use that word "common" a bit loosely - but I meant such openness in such issues and some men going around thinking it was their birthright was more common than it is in today's educated class of India.. Let's take this offline, since this can get into a rather detailed discussion..😉 Do PM me with any questions on this.

yeh - thanks for the reply....true...further discussion can be pm....

Originally posted by: innocentindian

Hi Aksh

excellent replies! 😊 Thanks II.

OK, so are you ready for the next set? 😆...quills in hand? good, then dekh lo niche😛

All set....

You said you do charity work....would you be willing to tell us what you do? Actually, my main reason to ask is that I'd like to do charity work as well, so just fishing for ideas.. 😛

I am only too happy to share it.....In HGK community service gets a little restricted because of the language problem.

I go to an orphanage every Monday and look after babies(new born-6 months).It is a NGO but because of it's good work, has tremendous support from the government and other corporate houses.So,no dearth of finance and articles needed for babies.It was started to help out unwed mothers,especially teenagers but now houses all those babies whose parents can't give them the care and upbringing they need. & nbsp; The NGO makes all efforts to get the babies adopted and find them parents who can give them love and a normal home.

I cannot express the satisfaction I get when I see babies going to their new homes and parents.One really re-learns to appreciate one's own blessings. Once my son leaves for higher studies,I would like to do a bit more.

The sailing you did seems quite interesting...how long were you at sea for? i.e. from India to India - how many days/months? Also, anything funny/interesting happen on the ship that you can recall? Perhaps being the only woman there?😃😆

Didn't I say you are not so innocent! I haven't sailed much in the sense that I joined my husband on just one contract.Thereafter my husband came ashore and we have been in HKG since then. I sailed for 3 months.....last port bring Fort Lauderdale,Florida. I "signed off" as they say and flew to NY,where my family is.....stayed for a month....went to London(didn't know any innocent man then😉) spent a week and a half and finally flew back home in July.

Well,I remember that when in Lagos we had to ask for Police escort to & fro to go to down town.Looting and shooting I believe was very common. I was terrified and could hardly enjoy the dinner we had at some fancy restaurant.I couldn't believe that it could really happen even in 1992!!!

It had nothing to do with me being a woman.😃 They were willing to shoot any foreigner for a few green bills.

Tell us your thoughts on Chanakya...

Don't remember much except that he,Chanakya whose real name was Kautilya,was Chandragupta Maurya's most intelligent minister whose portfolio today would have been Foreign affairs and Defence.He was responsible for the growth and domain of the Maurya Empire.

You have alreday had these duscussions with more knowledgable member friends,so please excuse me.

Tell us your thoughts on Gandhiji...e.g. on this one, I can say that as far as I am concerned, should I be fortunate enought to be able to be in front of Gandhiji this very moment, then I would reverentially bow my head at his feet.... I really really do have a tremendous amount of respect for him...however, I also agree with much of what Nathuram Godse said...(of course, not the assassination - it goes without saying I don't agree with that!)... I don't agree with everything that Gandhiji did. What are your thoughts on this (but not your comments on what my thoughts are - that was put in to pave the way for you).😳

Gandhiji was rightly called The Mahatma in my opinion. He was not a mere political leader,infact he was a humanitarian and to an extent a spiritual Guru of his time.A superman in the real sense of the word!

It is all very well for historians to analyse him and his ways and criticise, but only an extraordinary human being could have achieved what he did with the philosophy of non violence.In an era where there was war,bloodshed and inhuman massacres,he dared to challenge unarmed.

A soul like Gandhiji can't be discussed in a thread like this......it would go on an on. It's people who lived then and witnessed the war of Independance who can really talk.My daadi said she had stood in a queue for hours for his "darshan" and touch his feet. He was God to so many people then.

he he .... I've only got into SRGMPa in the last few weeks...watch it avidly now! But, alas, I still don't know who is in which gharana by name...so I still don't know which one is Rock gharana!....However, I wasn't implying you are in ROCK gharana! I was implying something else! 😉 See if u can guess what! 😛 😉

Oh I am like a rock is it?😕

Thanks for saying I rock.😃

Without being modest, how much do you understand Indian music? So, do you have a good musical ear? etc etc etc... 😊

I love good music and enjoy music I understand. I do have a ear for Indian music...any kind...classical or otherwise. Can tell a good voice,sur from besur and things like that. Used to sing when younger....now voice cracks 😭 no training. My mother has a flair for music...so does my brother...They are naturals....I should have trained,but alas that was not to be.

I try not to miss concerts and performances by good artists. I can sit through for hours and listen to instruments but with vocal I am selective.

Hey! I'm going for a A R Rahman concert next month.😃

What do u think of what happened recently on that program ...if possible do detach yourself from nihira...Also, please comment on the following theory:It has been widely proclaimed(or should I say game-played!?) that vineet has found his woman...I think it is himani, although I have also seen a picture of him holding hands with twinkle on pardesi-paresh's website. But, lets assume it is himani. Do you think that, as vineet came last in the last public-voting round, that himani GLADLY paved the way for him to stay in the contest and that it is possible this was a hidden agenda in her mind? Perhaps that is also why she was so mature about her exit (although I didn't expect anything less from her)...any comments? 😉😊

SRGMP is not just about music now.It gets the channel a substantial revenue,so it's all about TRPs if you ask me.Somewhere down the line, it turned in to a staged show. Although I support Nihira and Hema,I did not feel that only they deserved to win.The Final 5 are all trained singers and it could be anybody's day in the final round.I am disappointed that the results are either being manipulated or this multiple voting is being done by a section who does not understand music.They were taken up by " performances" not by good singing. If Nihira had to be ousted after singing"Saathi re bhool na jaana mera pyaar"the way she did, and Debo stayed on after making a mistake,what can one expect? At this point even one small mistake is crucial.

I don't believe that there is any romantic angle in Vinit's love;it could be a little sister or neice.This is just a gimmick to give him hype.He is only 17...don't you think a sensible mentor would advise him to concentrate on his singing at this stage??
It was nice to read the similarities you have with simran 👏 ....Some time ago, I seem to recall you know people in your circle that resemble other characters as well from astitva..so, e.g. you said you knew a manas...Can you tell us about who you know and which characters and the resemblances? 😃

God you do have a good memory...I'll have to think hard now what I said.

Jokes aside I really do know people that resemble the characters in Astitva.I can't name them but can tell about them.

A cousin married a woman 10 years older and had similar problems.He loves kids and had a supportive family but the marriage did not work.He divorced,remarried and is happy now.

I know more than one Simran who have forgiven their husbands for being unfaithful and given them another chance.

Saurabh Mathur reminds me of my own father in some ways.I have to keep reminding him gently that I am grown up now.

By refering to someone like Manas,I might have meant someone whose wife had an affair and how he dealt with it.My husband too has shades of Manas.He can be a good friend to a woman and have a platonic relationship.

Don't get any other ideas,ok?😛

Was yours a love or arranged marriage? Your thoughts on this? Also, do you believe in love at first sight?

I think we were arranged to fall in love. Mutual friends,with the permission of our parents introduced us.But since we met the first time in the presence of our parents,it was not a typical "boy meets girl...fall in love" story.

I have my own definition for arranged marriage. When Parents arrange the match without the consent of the boy or/and girl, or without them meeting before marriage,then it is arranged.If only the meeting is arranged by them and the boy and girl like each other enough to say yes to a marriage ,there is love involved isn't it?

About love at first sight.....I think it's more attraction at first sight....Real love comes and deepens only when you have known each other well.

Do your immediate or extended family come to this website?

I don't think so....haven't mentioned it.

It has been mentioned you write....what do you write? Do u intend to publish anything? Or have? Can we see samples of what you've put together?

No, I haven't written anything worth publishing. I said I like writing but would like to take a short course in journalism to have the confidence to make contributions to newspapers/magazines.

I intend writing short stories.......someday.......

Of course, please do choose what you want to answer and ignore whatever you don't....cos I can understand some of the above can be too personal, so please do stay within you comfort zone...👍🏼

Soooo understanding!😛

cheers😊

Cheers

Originally posted by: Akshata

Didn't I say you are not so innocent!

....lol, ya, u did!!!! BUT, so did I!!!!!😆 hahaha😉

....went to London(didn't know any innocent man then😉)

...must admit, it is a plus point for you that you didn't...😉

A soul like Gandhiji can't be discussed in a thread like this......

ya, you're prob right😳

SRGMP is not just about music now.It gets the channel a substantial revenue,so it's all about TRPs if you ask me.Somewhere down the line, it turned in to a staged show.

...😭..ya - shame they did this to it....see, on the one hand each and every person there is a music lover, yet even in art, "sabse badaa rupaiyaa bhai!"...big shame they have done this to it...

I don't believe that there is any romantic angle in Vinit's love;it could be a little sister or neice.This is just a gimmick to give him hype.He is only 17...don't you think a sensible mentor would advise him to concentrate on his singing at this stage??

HMMM, You see, I agree it is a gimmick, but I also think he is romantically involved-more than just friends- with someone....ya, all the mentors have advised sensibly, but they are also milking it for the "show" side of it...

I think the interaction between pardesi-paresh and ismail darbar about each being the others guru (one for music, the other for english) was also a show....it made it fun, but I think now they are taking this "vineets love show" too far...
Don't get any other ideas,ok?😛

ok, I wont😉...but it is interesting, reading what you wrote....😉😛

I think we were arranged to fall in love. lol...i like the way you put that!

I said I like writing but would like to take a short course in journalism to have the confidence to make contributions to newspapers/magazines.

I think this would be a good idea 👏...you go girl!😉

so please do stay within you comfort zone...👍🏼

Soooo understanding!😛

ya, dat I am, dat I definitely am...😆