Originally posted by: verve
@bold Nah bro I'm describing this show only. And idk what else needs to be shown for these things to be established narratives.
@red Taking care & following blindly are two diff things. First is what every child (boy or girl) must do for their parents. Second is what one shouldn't do for anyone!
If a mother decides who the son should marry (when AB proposed AR but did dola re dola with AK) ; who the son should engage the second time (get married for Ruhi's sake) ; if custody should be fought.... and the son nods to everything despite his heart being not there.. just bcos mother will faint or bcos she has a huge backlog of pain... is defo unhealthy codependency.
Lastly, AB is a bad husband due to his negative traits. No denying AK has her weaknesses as well and has made fair share of mistakes.
But unlike AB, if AK outwardly stated that their marriage felt like life imprisonment to her, then she actually moved on & chose another man.. Which isn't the case with AB..
If AK is so bad then he should be glad to get rid of him but he keeps running after her despite her being as you mentioned impulsive, unthoughtful and uncaring.
Mother didn’t decide who the son should marry. To begin with it was misunderstanding. If Abhi was blindly following his mother, he would have gone ahead with the engagement with Ar in first place, but he didn’t and called out the misunderstanding. Abhi did dola re dola? He clearly advised Ak to not take up music therapy job at Birla hospital because it will affect them all. But she still took it. Why? Was that the only job left in the city? Why was she so desperate to take up that job? sorry but Ak did dola ra dola. As regards to after leap events, Manjiri told Abhi to marry Ar, but Abhi clearly refused many times. And the only reason he agreed was because of Ruhi’s insistence - though I do not endorse this, but clearly it was not Abhi blindly following Manjiri. The whole custody fiasco was Goenka’s doing, started first by Kairav by sending restraining orders and then by Bade papa by stopping Abhi-AbhiN-Ak from telling Abhir anything and then starting custody with conditions.
At every point, Manjiri has advised Abhi as any mother should do, and Abhi has listened to her, considered her advise but then has taken actions based on his judgment. He has called her out when her actions were unreasonable, however he has done that respectfully. How is that an unhealthy relationship/codependency between mother and son.
Akshara accused their marriage after second leap and solely due to WD. Did she say that when they were together? If he was a bad abusive husband, why didn’t she get those “life imprisonment” feelings or express that when they together.
I agree Ak is poison for Abhi, a sweet poison albeit. He unfortunately fell in love with such a selfish but wants to be mahan kind of woman. But love is blind, and he followed his heart and ran behind her. The biggest mistake of his life, which I hope he sees, rectifies and moves on. 🙏🏻
Edited by NomadicWonders - 2 years ago
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