Define DT Note Pg11 - Page 6

Originally posted by: hari15

So i see this topic never leaves our forum and here I am to tell what I think about toxic.

So we all think abhi dancing with akshu in cabin, his mean and hurt full words and actions are toxic. Then it is toxic.

If you think akshu running after aarohi and being a doormat to her is toxic. Then it is toxic.

If you think aarohi's I love you akshu yet I hate you too akshu actions are toxic. Then it is toxic.

To the heck of it all. We are all one hell of toxic people or should I say audience for watching these toxic characters everyday and then coming here and discuss what is toxic and not toxic.

At the end of the day it is the human brain that thinks what it wants to think be it 0.1% or 100%

P. S : I know I will get lots of toxic toxic replies yet did I stop from posting this message.

No tomatoes Or chappals guys🤣🤣🤣

Abhimanyu is toxic when he sings...

Akshara is toxic when she does meri behen blah blah, blu blu

Arohi is toxic when she gets to wear all the pretty dresses alone...😭

Everyone is either toxic, semi-toxic or non toxic. Some guys are BPA free too. Pls choose the word you find fancy 😆😆 it's free for all.

Originally posted by: Prettywitty

So that was me and you're misrepresenting what I said. I didnot say that those are the only things that are toxic. I was asking what that person's definition of toxic was to understand what limits of behavior they find unacceptable and asked this as a rhetorical question. I acknowledged that other person's opinion was valid and tried to get my point across with humor. Why be so thin-skinned about it?

You think I'm toxic - fine, don't read my posts and block me. You don't know me, I don't know you and I don't care one bit what you think of me.

BTW I've read what's said on those threads which worship at the alter of Abhimanyu Birla (and that's fine, no skin off my nose). But when they go on about how we are all mean and toxic and want to involve the mods, do I get bent out of shape and say they're being mocking or insulting or intolerant of differing opinions? No, because at the end of the day, it's a TV show, these are TV characters and we're all entitled to our opinions whether we agree or not.

And I agreed with you on that statement hence quoted it. But I wanted to add that mocking each other , bullying , calling other members blind fans , immature is being toxic too? Is it or is it not? I didn't nitpick but I said WE r being toxic to each other by being personal.

See , I always enjoyed reading your posts bec it gives a diff perspective. And other anti abhi posts also .trust me I agree with them mostly...but Only if it's done to make a point on abhimanyu it's fine ... adding lines like " how will abhimanyu Birla support group react" falana falana , what r we trying to achieve ? The environment gets bitter.. Those who r calling abhimanyu toxic should at least know what toxic really means ?

Now for abhimanyu AT or whatever that place is . How does it really matter if anyone worships abhimanyu? Questioning somebody's morality based on a fictional show..moral policing ,let's not do all this .

@ bold . If calling out abhimanyus fans as immature and blind fans is in response to that thread then thats the whole point..We say something you react by mocking , you say something I react by mocking. Aren't we all behaving like abhimanyu? Do we stop and realize no , we should try not to hurt the other person , he/she also has feelings ?

This is a request to all. Plz don't get personal. Let the forum be an enjoyable place 👍🏼

Originally posted by: Prettywitty

That's the thing - there is such startling and rigid divergence among the folks on this board in how they react to his behavior. You and I have obviously had some personal experiences that color our reaction. What I can't decide is if the ones who are NOT disturbed by his behavior are blessed in their ignorance or if they are made vulnerable by it in their own lives. Not my business either way but I'm just curious. Because this type of overt toxic masculinity is killing my enjoyment of this show and my shameless ogling of HC.

That's the thing, I have experienced men not taking rejection normally. You are either forced to explain why you are rejecting. And I am not owed anyone an answer. And even when I give a reason, I have been accused of lying. Why would I lie for saying no? Now, you can see why I find the whole Abhi-Akshu thing extremely problematic. Men will stalk you online and offline and justify it with their broken heart and you end up being tortured and portrayed as rude for rejecting such true love. 🙄

It's horrible to go through that.

And I liked the Abhimanyu in the beginning. Attentive and caring and doting over Akshara. I have someone like that in my life. But the difference is he will never knowingly hurt me. He has seen me closed off and not responding but he has always respected my space and pushed me when required. When you have such stark different experiences of 'love', it's kind of difficult to accept Abhimanyu's actions.

And for why I am watching this show. Because I have grown to like Pranali. And I liked the whole vibe at least. And I totally dislike the argument that stop watching if you don't like. That's an excuse even people like Manu Joseph does when he keeps filling the world with more of his crap writing. But, no, I am gonna engage with it. Because we kind of have to break this cycle of romantcising toxicity. And I know as a teenager, I also romantcised pain and hurt but I know now, it's not good.

And don't take it so personally. I have seen people criticizing Akshara, I myself have done it. I mean I have criticised everyone except Neil. But I have only witnessed such backlash from Abhimanyu fans. Even hard-core Akshara fans are a bit more chill. Let's all be chill and respectfully put our points across.🥰🥰🥰

Originally posted by: Ekahriz

That's the thing, I have experienced men not taking rejection normally. You are either forced to explain why you are rejecting. And I am not owed anyone an answer. And even when I give a reason, I have been accused of lying. Why would I lie for saying no? Now, you can see why I find the whole Abhi-Akshu thing extremely problematic. Men will stalk you online and offline and justify it with their broken heart and you end up being tortured and portrayed as rude for rejecting such true love. 🙄

It's horrible to go through that.

And I liked the Abhimanyu in the beginning. Attentive and caring and doting over Akshara. I have someone like that in my life. But the difference is he will never knowingly hurt me. He has seen me closed off and not responding but he has always respected my space and pushed me when required. When you have stark different experiences of 'love', it's kind of difficult to accept Abhimanyu's actions.

And for why I am watching this show. Because I have grown to like Pranali. And I liked the whole vibe at least. And I totally dislike the argument that stop watching if you don't like. That's an excuse even people like Manu Joseph does when he keeps filling the world with more of his crap writing. But, no, I am gonna engage with it. Because we kind of have to break this cycle of romantcising toxicity. And I know as a teenager, I also romantcised pain and hurt but I know now, it's not good.

And don't take it so personally. I have seen people criticizing Akshara, I myself have done it. I mean I have criticised everyone except Neil. But I have only witnessed such backlash from Abhimanyu fans. Even hard-core Akshara fans are a bit more chill. Let's all be chill and respectfully put our points across.🥰🥰🥰

exactly and while this whole eyelocks and love looks may be romantic in novels and movies

in real life it would be really scary if a guy thinks you are okay with something just because you looked at him in a certain way and he interpreted it as consent without bothering to ask you first

the other thing which i don't like that ABHI does is he tells AKSHU he's not in control of himself when he's around her like mein kyaa karoon and all

that's really not AKSHU's fault or a reason to justify what he is doing at all

like i said until he proposed to AAROHI he was within his bounds but after that he went haywire in my personal opinion

Originally posted by: _charu_

And I agreed with you on that statement hence quoted it. But I wanted to add that mocking each other , bullying , calling other members blind fans , immature is being toxic too? Is it or is it not? I didn't nitpick but I said WE r being toxic to each other by being personal.

See , I always enjoyed reading your posts bec it gives a diff perspective. And other anti abhi posts also .trust me I agree with them mostly...but Only if it's done to make a point on abhimanyu it's fine ... adding lines like " how will abhimanyu Birla support group react" falana falana , what r we trying to achieve ? The environment gets bitter.. Those who r calling abhimanyu toxic should at least know what toxic really means ?

Now for abhimanyu AT or whatever that place is . How does it really matter if anyone worships abhimanyu? Questioning somebody's morality based on a fictional show..moral policing ,let's not do all this .

@ bold . If calling out abhimanyus fans as immature and blind fans is in response to that thread then thats the whole point..We say something you react by mocking , you say something I react by mocking. Aren't we all behaving like abhimanyu? Do we stop and realize no , we should try not to hurt the other person , he/she also has feelings ?

This is a request to all. Plz don't get personal. Let the forum be an enjoyable place 👍🏼

Nobody was getting personal till you quoted me out of context as an example of someone who was being mocking and intolerant of another member. And again you’re continuing to misrepresent my response to you (I specifically said I couldn’t care less if people worship Abhimanyu, why should I? They’re entitled to their entertainment just as us JIJAJI roasters are to ours).

I may call the characters immature, toxic or whatever, I have NEVER once called another forum member any such names. If I disagree with a post I either ignore it or I engage directly. If someone’s feelings get hurt because I don’t agree with them or I mock their favorite character, that’s on them. I’m a stranger on the internet, why on earth would you care what I say or think about a TV character? Why on earth should you give it a second thought if you disagree? You want us all to get along? Don’t the stir the pot. Peace out yo.

Originally posted by: Illuminatus.

For only me, I want my Abhimanyu to break chairs on cvs heads and Make breakfast and serve it in bed.

Toxic ho to be chalega and sick hui to bhi dekha jaayega.

Totally okay. I mean there are times I watch crappy movies switching off my brain. Like something I am doing with YRKKH now. Because it's impossible for me to root for AbhiRa otherwise. But then this forum is a space to express your opinions right? Everybody say whatever you feel, just don't take it to heart.

I had one of the most amazing conversations with @Silveraliax. We had such difference of opinion, but it never was a competition on who is right and wrong. We agreed with some points and we disagreed more. And finally we agreed to disagree and respect each others opinions and move on. So, that is possible. It's okay if you don't want to engage with the person disagreeing with you. But i have seen people not engaging with the post directly and ridiculing your arguments misquoting them and mocking. But I still didn't care and make it a big deal. So, let's just chill. 🥰

And I totally like and respect your standpoint. You accept that you like this and you are not forcing anyone to like it either. 👍🏽

Originally posted by: Ekahriz

Totally okay. I mean there are times I watch craooy movies switching of my brain. Like something I am doing with YRKKH now. Because it's impossible for me to root for AbhiRa otherwise. But then this forum is a space to express your opinions right? Everybody say whatever you feel, just don't take it to heart.

I had one of the most amazing conversations with @Silveraliax. We had such difference of opinion, but it never was a competition on who is right and wrong. We agree with some points and we disagreed more. And finally we agree to disagree and respect each others opinions and move on. So, that is possible. It's okay if you don't want to engage with the person disagreeing with you. But i have seen people not engaging with the post and ridiculing your arguments misquoting themand mocking. But I still didn't care and make it a big deal. So, let's just chill. 🥰

And I totally like and respect standpoint. You accept that you like and you are not forcing anyone to like it either. 👍🏽

Yep you’re so right! I just hate being sniped and misrepresented behind my back. And btw I also love chatting with Silveraliax, Nyxigniflex and others - I know we disagree sometimes but they engage directly, there are no hard feelings, no personal attacks and we share a fun discourse where we acknowledge each other’s points. They’re chill and funny and insightful like most of the people I’ve interacted with on here. Who wants live in an echo chamber anyway?
well it’s super late here and I’m off to sweet dreams of HC (or nightmares of Jijaji, who knows…)

Sincere request don't get personal and call out on others over here your views and points are appreciated

Well I did start it in a fun way and want to go in that way alone no harms to anyones thoughts

As I started it out. It's everyone's way of thinking which nothing more nothing less.

It's a request to all no one in particular

Originally posted by: atulya1

Abhimanyu is toxic when he sings...

Akshara is toxic when she does meri behen blah blah, blu blu

Arohi is toxic when she gets to wear all the pretty dresses alone...😭

Everyone is either toxic, semi-toxic or non toxic. Some guys are BPA free too. Pls choose the word you find fancy 😆😆 it's free for all.

Their you go the answer of the day.

I started it with fun. It ended into a serious debate zone.

Out of all this you were the one who gave me this not so serious talk. 😆😆

Originally posted by: hari15

Sincere request don't get personal and call out on others over here your views and points are appreciated not war against us.

Well I did start it in a fun way and want to go in that way alone no harms to anyones thoughts

As I started it out. It's everyone's way of thinking which nothing more nothing less.

Oh, God. Who did I wage a war against now? 🥲

If someone felt so, that was not my intention. I didn't even use anyone's name other than to appreciate.