is it love?

Originally posted by: _charu_

today's episode made me think "is it true that true love is proved only when you agree to whatever your loved one say?"is this called "understanding"? what if the other person thinks otherwise? should he sideline his own wish for the sake of his loved one?

why should naitik say yes for renovating the room"? because he loves akshara? 😕 what about his wish? what if he doesn't wanna do any changes? earlier on when he told Akshara that she should take Rashmi with her for shopping, Akshara was like "no you WILL HAVE TO COME WITH ME" ..WHY yaar?

I feel (and that's the reason i'm drifting away frm yrkkh these days) that Naitik is slowly losing his individuality..he's behaving like Akshara 🤢 i dun wanna see Akshara part 2 in the process of becoming a good husband and keeping Akshara happy, looks like he's forgotten himself....true love is not trying to make the other person like u..i know it's very natural in love..we do all we can for our loved ones but we ignore ourselves 😒

Originally posted by: _charu_

today's episode made me think "is it true that true love is proved only when you agree to whatever your loved one say?"is this called "understanding"? what if the other person thinks otherwise? should he sideline his own wish for the sake of his loved one?

why should naitik say yes for renovating the room"? because he loves akshara? 😕 what about his wish? what if he doesn't wanna do any changes? earlier on when he told Akshara that she should take Rashmi with her for shopping, Akshara was like "no you WILL HAVE TO COME WITH ME" ..WHY yaar?

I feel (and that's the reason i'm drifting away frm yrkkh these days) that Naitik is slowly losing his individuality..he's behaving like Akshara 🤢 i dun wanna see Akshara part 2 in the process of becoming a good husband and keeping Akshara happy, looks like he's forgotten himself....true love is not trying to make the other person like u..i know it's very natural in love..we do all we can for our loved ones but we ignore ourselves 😒

Originally posted by: ritu_iluvyrkkh

wow Charu u have opened up a topic for which I dont think its easy to say a lot of things theoritically but practically we are all guilty of sacrificing or compromising or understanding for the sake of our happy marriage...I wont say love here coz I really dont think that even after 6 years of marriage I truly know what the word love really means or rather what is the depth of this word is...all I know is that the person I married is the one I want to spend the rest of my life with and thats enough for me...

so I guess my kneejerk reaction to your statement would be absolutely not!!!...true love is NOT proved only when you agree to whatever your loved one says....thats slavery and definitly not healthy for a long lasting happy marriage....infact I think the most stupidest statement ever is aap ki khushi me hi meri khushi hai...thats a bunch of crap...I dont think any girl can truly be happy by killing her feelings everytime just for the sake of her husband...yes there mite be times and situations when she has to do what the husband wants but there should be equal number of instances where the husband does what she wants also...and vice versa for the boy also....this is not a one way street by any means and I think both the girl and boy should atleast express their feelings and talk about things openly...nahi toh there will be frustration, depression, separation and all that...

So tomorrow if Naitik mite not want to change his room since thats the way he has had it for years together its fine...Akshara will "understand"...but the important thing here is that now things have changed...he is no longer a bachelor any more and he has to think for 2....doesnt mean he looses his individuality or always do things the way she wants and all that, but think from her POV also.....infact I think there should be some boundries that are just the husband's domain and some our the wife's and ofcourse the majority ones are what they do together....

so in this case, now its her room also and Naitik should not think selfishly and let her add that womanly touch to it...they can pick colors, furniture or decor and arrange it together to suit both their tastes...but just to say no is a bit unacceptable to me....and by saying yes he is not loosing his position or just saying it to keep her happy, but it is a progression and a step forward in their bonding as a couple...

about the shopping yes I agree that he can definitly say no to Akshara the next time and she should understand the reason that he doesnt like shopping...NOT her or shopping with her but he doesnt like shopping in general and gets bored....

these things they will learn with time and now he is still in the honeymoon phase of I want to todo chand taare for my wife phase but soon they will get practical about things....I dont think Naitik will EVER EVER become Akshara part 2 yaar...maybe he will bend a little for her but he will never loose his individuality...he has a very strong personality and I think he will retain it and make Akshara more like him...stronger, bold and yet retain the purity of their hearts.....there is definitly a difference between ignoring ourself and compromising on situations vs loosing our individuality completelty

Originally posted by: ritu_iluvyrkkh

wow Charu u have opened up a topic for which I dont think its easy to say a lot of things theoritically but practically we are all guilty of sacrificing or compromising or understanding for the sake of our happy marriage...I wont say love here coz I really dont think that even after 6 years of marriage I truly know what the word love really means or rather what is the depth of this word is...all I know is that the person I married is the one I want to spend the rest of my life with and thats enough for me...

so I guess my kneejerk reaction to your statement would be absolutely not!!!...true love is NOT proved only when you agree to whatever your loved one says....thats slavery and definitly not healthy for a long lasting happy marriage....infact I think the most stupidest statement ever is aap ki khushi me hi meri khushi hai...thats a bunch of crap...I dont think any girl can truly be happy by killing her feelings everytime just for the sake of her husband...yes there mite be times and situations when she has to do what the husband wants but there should be equal number of instances where the husband does what she wants also...and vice versa for the boy also....this is not a one way street by any means and I think both the girl and boy should atleast express their feelings and talk about things openly...nahi toh there will be frustration, depression, separation and all that...

So tomorrow if Naitik mite not want to change his room since thats the way he has had it for years together its fine...Akshara will "understand"...but the important thing here is that now things have changed...he is no longer a bachelor any more and he has to think for 2....doesnt mean he looses his individuality or always do things the way she wants and all that, but think from her POV also.....infact I think there should be some boundries that are just the husband's domain and some our the wife's and ofcourse the majority ones are what they do together....

so in this case, now its her room also and Naitik should not think selfishly and let her add that womanly touch to it...they can pick colors, furniture or decor and arrange it together to suit both their tastes...but just to say no is a bit unacceptable to me....and by saying yes he is not loosing his position or just saying it to keep her happy, but it is a progression and a step forward in their bonding as a couple...

about the shopping yes I agree that he can definitly say no to Akshara the next time and she should understand the reason that he doesnt like shopping...NOT her or shopping with her but he doesnt like shopping in general and gets bored....

these things they will learn with time and now he is still in the honeymoon phase of I want to todo chand taare for my wife phase but soon they will get practical about things....I dont think Naitik will EVER EVER become Akshara part 2 yaar...maybe he will bend a little for her but he will never loose his individuality...he has a very strong personality and I think he will retain it and make Akshara more like him...stronger, bold and yet retain the purity of their hearts.....there is definitly a difference between ignoring ourself and compromising on situations vs loosing our individuality completelty

Originally posted by: ritu_iluvyrkkh

wow Charu u have opened up a topic for which I dont think its easy to say a lot of things theoritically but practically we are all guilty of sacrificing or compromising or understanding for the sake of our happy marriage...I wont say love here coz I really dont think that even after 6 years of marriage I truly know what the word love really means or rather what is the depth of this word is...all I know is that the person I married is the one I want to spend the rest of my life with and thats enough for me...

so I guess my kneejerk reaction to your statement would be absolutely not!!!...true love is NOT proved only when you agree to whatever your loved one says....thats slavery and definitly not healthy for a long lasting happy marriage....infact I think the most stupidest statement ever is aap ki khushi me hi meri khushi hai...thats a bunch of crap...I dont think any girl can truly be happy by killing her feelings everytime just for the sake of her husband...yes there mite be times and situations when she has to do what the husband wants but there should be equal number of instances where the husband does what she wants also...and vice versa for the boy also....this is not a one way street by any means and I think both the girl and boy should atleast express their feelings and talk about things openly...nahi toh there will be frustration, depression, separation and all that...

So tomorrow if Naitik mite not want to change his room since thats the way he has had it for years together its fine...Akshara will "understand"...but the important thing here is that now things have changed...he is no longer a bachelor any more and he has to think for 2....doesnt mean he looses his individuality or always do things the way she wants and all that, but think from her POV also.....infact I think there should be some boundries that are just the husband's domain and some our the wife's and ofcourse the majority ones are what they do together....

so in this case, now its her room also and Naitik should not think selfishly and let her add that womanly touch to it...they can pick colors, furniture or decor and arrange it together to suit both their tastes...but just to say no is a bit unacceptable to me....and by saying yes he is not loosing his position or just saying it to keep her happy, but it is a progression and a step forward in their bonding as a couple...

about the shopping yes I agree that he can definitly say no to Akshara the next time and she should understand the reason that he doesnt like shopping...NOT her or shopping with her but he doesnt like shopping in general and gets bored....

these things they will learn with time and now he is still in the honeymoon phase of I want to todo chand taare for my wife phase but soon they will get practical about things....I dont think Naitik will EVER EVER become Akshara part 2 yaar...maybe he will bend a little for her but he will never loose his individuality...he has a very strong personality and I think he will retain it and make Akshara more like him...stronger, bold and yet retain the purity of their hearts.....there is definitly a difference between ignoring ourself and compromising on situations vs loosing our individuality completelty

sometimes this happens in love

Originally posted by: _charu_

today's episode made me think "is it true that true love is proved only when you agree to whatever your loved one say?"is this called "understanding"? what if the other person thinks otherwise? should he sideline his own wish for the sake of his loved one?

why should naitik say yes for renovating the room"? because he loves akshara? 😕 what about his wish? what if he doesn't wanna do any changes? earlier on when he told Akshara that she should take Rashmi with her for shopping, Akshara was like "no you WILL HAVE TO COME WITH ME" ..WHY yaar?

I feel (and that's the reason i'm drifting away frm yrkkh these days) that Naitik is slowly losing his individuality..he's behaving like Akshara 🤢 i dun wanna see Akshara part 2 in the process of becoming a good husband and keeping Akshara happy, looks like he's forgotten himself....true love is not trying to make the other person like u..i know it's very natural in love..we do all we can for our loved ones but we ignore ourselves 😒

Originally posted by: ritu_iluvyrkkh

wow Charu u have opened up a topic for which I dont think its easy to say a lot of things theoritically but practically we are all guilty of sacrificing or compromising or understanding for the sake of our happy marriage...I wont say love here coz I really dont think that even after 6 years of marriage I truly know what the word love really means or rather what is the depth of this word is...all I know is that the person I married is the one I want to spend the rest of my life with and thats enough for me...

so I guess my kneejerk reaction to your statement would be absolutely not!!!...true love is NOT proved only when you agree to whatever your loved one says....thats slavery and definitly not healthy for a long lasting happy marriage....infact I think the most stupidest statement ever is aap ki khushi me hi meri khushi hai...thats a bunch of crap...I dont think any girl can truly be happy by killing her feelings everytime just for the sake of her husband...yes there mite be times and situationswhen she has to do what the husband wants but there should be equal number of instances where the husband does what she wants also...and vice versa for the boy also....this is not a one way street by any means and I think both the girl and boy should atleast express their feelings and talk about things openly...nahi toh there will be frustration, depression, separation and all that...

So tomorrow if Naitikmite not want to change his room since thats the way he has had it for years together its fine...Akshara will "understand"...but the important thing here is that now things have changed...he is no longer a bachelor any more and he has to think for 2....doesnt mean he looses his individuality or always do things the way she wants and all that, but think from her POV also.....infact I think there should be some boundries that are just the husband's domain and some our the wife's and ofcourse the majority ones are what they do together....

so in this case, now its her room also and Naitik should not think selfishlyand let heradd that womanly touch to it...they can pick colors, furniture or decor and arrange ittogether to suit both their tastes...but just to say no is a bit unacceptable to me....and by saying yes he is not loosing his position or just saying it to keep her happy, but it is a progression and a step forward in their bonding as a couple...

about the shopping yes I agree that he can definitly say no to Akshara the next time and she should understand the reason that he doesnt like shopping...NOTheror shopping with her but he doesnt like shopping in general and gets bored....

these things they will learn with time and now he is still in the honeymoon phase of I want to todo chand taare for my wife phase but soon they will get practical about things....I dont think Naitik will EVER EVER become Akshara part 2 yaar...maybe he will bend a little for her but he will never loose his individuality...he has a very strong personality and I think he will retain it and make Akshara more like him...stronger, bold and yet retain the purity of their hearts.....there is definitly a difference between ignoring ourselfand compromising on situations vs loosing our individuality completelty