what a disgusting, petty, ridiculous mindset!! - Page 4

Originally posted by: aviation-ca

unknown18, prayersare not enough.. I am assuming you are 18 years and still dependent on your parents...obviously you are in touch with your sister... tell your parents what is happening... regardless of what kind of marriage it is, they should know what is happening... convience them to support your sister... or the worst IS GOING to happen.... one of the main reason your bil's family is ill-treating her is because they think she has no where to go...

Also, you should tell your sister that if she doesn't feel safe she should not say anything but just leave with clothes on her back... if not your parents, there must be someone she can turn to temporarily while putting her life back together...

Even hitting one time is <FONT color=#ff0000>BAD </FONT><FONT color=#000000>let alone 5 times in 6 months... once this pattern starts, it is not going to stop.. she is going to get used to getting abused, the abuser works in a way to undermine the confidence of the abused, then shewill not feel confident to leave... you have to act immediately... otherwise I fear the worst, absolute worst... next thing you know she will be pregnant or with a baby.. then that is the end of her life...</FONT>

I am pleading with you, please interviene on her behalf...

Good points everyone. Ritu, I completely agree with you. Being married to someone is not an easy task. There are so many dynamics involved with in-laws. I have never lived with my in-laws, since I live in US, and they are in India. So I didn't have to deal with day to day stuff like Akshi does. There are always problems in each family.

We have to remember this show is not teaching any values to anyone. It's just for entertainment purposes. This is not teaching morals, values or how one should live a married life.

Originally posted by: Sumaira00

I dont like women being portrayed as weak characters..Women shud be strong and shud know how to fight for their rights..Even some of my cousins got married..they never had any such prb's which Akshara is facing..It makes the show look so unreal..They shud focus on other stuff rather than the crap they are showin these days..The trps are already fallin down ...they will fall further if this continues...Infact the overall veiwership of starplus is decreasing.. One thing i dont like Akshara and his mom is tht they are very confused personalities..

Originally posted by: Mallika113

Good points everyone. Ritu, I completely agree with you. Being married to someone is not an easy task. There are so many dynamics involved with in-laws. I have never lived with my in-laws, since I live in US, and they are in India. So I didn't have to deal with day to day stuff like Akshi does. There are always problems in each family.

We have to remember this show is not teaching any values to anyone. It's just for entertainment purposes. This is not teaching morals, values or how one should live a married life.

Originally posted by: ek_sweetladki

I beg your pardon...The purpose of this show is to show what all the relationships are like (yeh rishta kya kehtala hain) so in a way it does show the values and beliefs on how when akshara left maayka she didnt want to go and how hard it was for her parents...it shows the relationship a husband and wife share if it wasn't a love marriage...it shows how the saas is a typical saas...but shouldnt they go beyond this overly done drama for ages and show how they can make the sterotypical relationships we already know realistc? Should n't the saas for a change love the daughter-in-law like her own daughter?

P.S. I didnt mean to affend you...was just pointing out what I thought :)

Originally posted by: unknown18

I would just like to request everyone who reads this to pray for my sister that she gets happiness and peace in her life (and some sense to her in laws) she has been married for 6 months and it was a love marriage and we knew the guys family for a long time but her in laws are treating her really badly and even her husband doesnt support.he hit her 4 times in 6 months only(hitting only once is unacceptable for me). his mom is creating a lot of problem for them. she is very possessive and scared that her son will leave her for his wife.

Originally posted by: ritu_iluvyrkkh

sweetladki you r right that this serial is supossed to show about rishtas and stuff like they are showing here....but the thing here is that this is still a TV serial at the end of the day and the TV serials generally exaggerate and show things...thats wht we need to be careful what and how much we believe in and dont think that everything u see as real or that it will happen in ur life.....some many girls here have opened out their story to us about their bad experience about their inlaws but I'm sure there are a lot who have excellent MILs...infact my dadi (dad's mom) was the best MIL I know....treated her DILs as her own daughters and all that....so go into marriage with an open mind and weave your unique story and not based on anyone elses....

and every rishta has a beauty of its own...so expecting that the MIL will change for the DIL mite be hard for some mothers....so its better to accept that fact and work with each rishta based on what it is....thats what Mallika and a few of us are trying to say to the unmarried girls ;)

Originally posted by: _charu_

aren't they showing that MIL and DIL can share a good relationship? Rajshri and Dadi? Rajshri and Varsha? Rajshri and Sunaina? don't they share good rapport with each other? don't they teach us that inspite of all the compromises , expectations and adjustments that a girl makes , it's possible to live like a happy family? Varsha is a better DIL than Akshara is . Rajshri treats her like her daughter....we can't highlight the negative aspect ONLY n complain