what a disgusting, petty, ridiculous mindset!! - Page 5

Originally posted by: FAMS

Charu a very nice point. . .

Indeed so many different opinions and so many different experince. . .

Each personality is different and so the relation & experince is different and Unique.. .

Girls go into a relation with open mind life is full of suprises, both good and bad and all have to endure through it.

So proceed with smile . . .

it's a misconception that all this happens ONLY in arranged marriages....love marriages have equal set of problem..whether love is before or after marriage, couple should be in love..and Akshara found her love in Naitik....if it was other way round, and they had met somewhere , fallen in love and their families had fixed up their marriage, Akshara's life wud have been pretty much the same.....it IS possible to find love in arranged marriage....these saas bahu problems are never ending, family problems, IF u wanna stay in a joint family, you HAVE to make a lot of compromises (specially in an orthodox family like the one in yrkkh) , you HAVE to keep in mind everybody's wishes before doing something..that's the way joint family functions..and since ppl. have become more egoistic and less flexible , we hardly see any joint families nowdays....they have their own advantages and disadvantages..living alone is not entirely problem free right? leaving your parents to their own fate just bec. one finds them "interfering" is not something to boast about !

I agree with you. Akshara's mother in law is so ridiculious. Actullay I like her father in law's charcater. he is very indrstanding. in er own house she can't move stuff without permission. I have same mother in law . But i don't let her rule on me. So she saty mad at me everytime from inside. Any way this show needs to get some new things.

Originally posted by: 5cents

To all the marriageable girls .......What Ritu has said is very true.....one has to realize that this is only entertainment and fictionalised account and should not be confused with real life! Reel & real are different! We don't want to spoil your idyllic picture of marriage and ruin it with our pragmatism.....but in marriage everything will not fit into a comfort zone. Most of what the media portrays in the name of love is passion, a very volatile but transient emotion, with a life span of abt a couple of years.....if a relationship stays beyond that, it is because of the presence of likeness, compassion, compromise and friendship! With the Kaka kaki track they showed.......divorce and compromise is a 1,2,3 process, but in reality if someone was smart enough to understand this, the process is far more complicated than that.

TV soap & high TRP's .....The unfortunate reason is that in general, we enjoy seeing other people being miserable, its human nature to alleviate one's own misery by concentrating on someone else's messed up life. That is the reason shows like Bidaai & Balika badhu, YR are still running with such high TRP's........... I guess tears & TRP"s are directly proposanate!

God made two sex only to complete each other...this give & take may be 50/50 or 80/20 ,we only have to try our best so that both of them get equal chance to expand their wings & use their potential to the maximum by complementing each other.......just my5cents

I agree....tears and trp's go together hand in hand...

Originally posted by: _charu_

it's a misconception that all this happens ONLY in arranged marriages....love marriages have equal set of problem..whether love is before or after marriage, couple should be in love..and Akshara found her love in Naitik....if it was other way round, and they had met somewhere , fallen in love and their families had fixed up their marriage, Akshara's life wud have been pretty much the same.....it IS possible to find love in arranged marriage....these saas bahu problems are never ending, family problems, IF u wanna stay in a joint family, you HAVE to make a lot of compromises (specially in an orthodox family like the one in yrkkh) , you HAVE to keep in mind everybody's wishes before doing something..that's the way joint family functions..and since ppl. have become more egoistic and less flexible , we hardly see any joint families nowdays....they have their own advantages and disadvantages..living alone is not entirely problem free right? leaving your parents to their own fate just bec. one finds them "interfering" is not something to boast about !

Originally posted by: _charu_

it's a misconception that all this happens ONLY in arranged marriages....love marriages have equal set of problem..whether love is before or after marriage, couple should be in love..and Akshara found her love in Naitik....if it was other way round, and they had met somewhere , fallen in love and their families had fixed up their marriage, Akshara's life wud have been pretty much the same.....it IS possible to find love in arranged marriage....these saas bahu problems are never ending, family problems, IF u wanna stay in a joint family, you HAVE to make a lot of compromises (specially in an orthodox family like the one in yrkkh) , you HAVE to keep in mind everybody's wishes before doing something..that's the way joint family functions..and since ppl. have become more egoistic and less flexible , we hardly see any joint families nowdays....they have their own advantages and disadvantages..living alone is not entirely problem free right? leaving your parents to their own fate just bec. one finds them "interfering" is not something to boast about !

Exactly... i have seen many a love marriages gone kaput within a year or two......
The point is : this is just a show and take it with a pinch of salt.......
And Naitik being pampered issue...yes he is but most of the men in India are coz someone or the other is always there in a joint family to help them...and they are careless..even if you tell them the exa....ct place where a thing is they wouldn't find it...

Originally posted by: anu-s

If unmarried girls have their mind-set in a negative direction, abt the new relationships which they have to undergo with their In-laws then it would be very difficult for them to adjust in that entirely new surrounding.

So be positive girls and step into the institution of marriage with a positive vibes in your mind.

You should not pre-assume inhibitions in the beginning itself.

Every new relationship needs time to grow up & everyone has to work for it.

Originally posted by: _charu_

it's a misconception that all this happens ONLY in arranged marriages....love marriages have equal set of problem..whether love is before or after marriage, couple should be in love..and Akshara found her love in Naitik....if it was other way round, and they had met somewhere , fallen in love and their families had fixed up their marriage, Akshara's life wud have been pretty much the same.....it IS possible to find love in arranged marriage....these saas bahu problems are never ending, family problems, IF u wanna stay in a joint family, you HAVE to make a lot of compromises (specially in an orthodox family like the one in yrkkh) , you HAVE to keep in mind everybody's wishes before doing something..that's the way joint family functions..and since ppl. have become more egoistic and less flexible , we hardly see any joint families nowdays....they have their own advantages and disadvantages..living alone is not entirely problem free right? leaving your parents to their own fate just bec. one finds them "interfering" is not something to boast about !

Originally posted by: ritu_iluvyrkkh

Anu you said it well...infact this not just applies to marriage but any change that comes in life that takes us out of our comfort zone makes us uncomfortable and scared initially and takes time for us to get used to and adjust to the change. But with a positive mindset, rather not thinking of the negatives will help us grow and adopt to the change.....and I say this coz I recently had a change at work, where I was promoted to a new group and different boss....good move careerwise but my new boss is very different from my carefree old one and there was a point when I didnt want to take the promotion just coz I didnt want a kharus boss...sounds silly but itsa big deal to me who has to deal with some1 I dont particularly life on a daily basis...but my point is that we are faced with tough situations a lot in life and we have to deal with them as they come with a positive mindframe...

very well said Ritu 👏 it takes time to adapt to anything new and for a girl, it's a totally new life...each day is new..each experience is new...it teaches us something...it's easy to point fingers when ur an onlooker..but when u get into it then u slowly learn the dynamics of it you will know that life is a mixture of everything...good , bad & ugly.

Originally posted by: ritu_iluvyrkkh

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Anu you said it well...infact this not just applies to marriage but any change that comes in life that takes us out of our comfort zone makes us uncomfortable and scared initially and takes time for us to get used to and adjust to the change. But with a positive mindset, rather not thinking of the negatives will help us grow and adopt to the change.....and I say this coz I recently had a change at work, whereI was promoted to a new group and different boss....good move careerwise but my new boss is very different from my carefree old one and there was a point when I didnt want to take the promotion just coz I didnt want a kharus boss...sounds silly but its a big deal to me who has to deal with some1 I dont particularly life on a daily basis...but my point is that we are faced with tough situations a lot in life and we have to deal with them as they come with a positive mindframe...