Originally posted by: -Nidoo-
RES (Will update in the morning)
Btw Aani, Super Awesome title! 🤣
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Great write-up, Aani! 👏 I agree with a lot of points!
Thanks Nidoo
A lot of people have a problem with Ishita mentioning to the doctor that she and Raman are just friends, but the way I look at it, this is not what she told her, I mean literally yes, but she did not mean it in the platonic sense. The core of her statement was not the 'friends' bit, but the 'skipped parts' bit, where she says that they were married in unusual circumstances, now they're best friends and have great understanding, but from there to here, they 'skipped a few steps in between and didn't realize the importance'. That to me was the crux of the message.
Exactly, the doctor was subtly telling her to start having sex and in a way prodding her on about why they have not done it yet and what is the woman supposed to do, start with the history lessons here...the friends bit to me was her saying that they have no problems between them, usually when couples start these kinda treatments they both go for all the appointments but Ishita was alone here and yes, it was her decision to not ask Raman since he already has his plate full but to the doctor it would be giving a different impression right?
Yes, Ishita needed a jolt, a 440V worth of shock to come out of the daily humdrum of life and realize there's more to marriage than just being in love and sharing responsibilities. And who better to show her the mirror, but the woman who has been intimate with Raman in the past, because only she actually knows about his physical desires. Yes, Shagun has taunted Ishita previously, but not to this extent, taking the narrative to her bedroom and embarrassment and back. I for one, absolutely loved the snark Shagun threw at Ishita. It was a great scene building up, until Shagun voiced out the reasons for doing so in her head, and THAT is the moment I instantly disconnected and felt disgusted. Shagun taunting Ishita on her sex life because she wants IshRa to be together and do it, is just indigestible. So for the rest of the plot, I'll choose to ignore her newly formed noble intentions because honestly, I find them way out of context and character.
Ishita's reaction was for most part, normal, and absolutely expected. All the previous times she has been taunted by Shagun for her physical relationship with Raman, there was no attempt made to consummate yet (Before Holi + Kid-swapping intimacy + Earthquake). Plus there was no constant baby talk. I don't think Ishita thought of it at a deep level, back then. But yesterday, she was already in the middle of wondering out how to take her marriage ahead and she gets to hear about how her husband couldn't keep his hands off his ex-wife, how they used to be locked in the bedroom, and the woman in her was shaken to the core of her being. She has never felt desired, wanted, except maybe for Holi. Even then, his premise was that both his kids are now with him, and therefore, he wants to take the relationship ahead. What if Adi wasn't to come to him for the next 5 years? Wouldn't he have taken that step for 5 years then?
Exactly Nidoo, Ishita has been taunted earlier by Shagun too many times once very explicitly when she was screaming it out on the road, but then the situations were different. The first time Shagun taunted Ishita, that comes to my mind, it led to the rain dance, for a woman it was a moment that I suppose came with mixed feelings, yes she was happy her husband made her feel beautiful and wanted, but he did it on the heels of the taunts that came there way, on the heels of his past being dished out as juicy gossip but in reality meant to make mockery...should that not make Ishita feel hurt somewhere, that prior to this event Raman had not made such a move towards her. And the holi words, about Adi, I swear I was aghast hearing that, like why do you need your son under your roof man to make love to your wife, I really cant get it till date, the idea is too twisted to be wrapped around my head.
Wanting your child with you is not a crime but the stipulation of wanting him and only then making love to your wife is beyond my comprehension, like you said if Adi had not came to him would Raman not have progressed ?
I think that Raman needs to be given a similar jolt. He also needs to realize that their consummation is not just about making babies. They need to do it primarily because he desires her, and then the baby talk can come. He too, needs to be shaken to the core. I feel that Ashok's words would be that trigger tomorrow, but can't say much before the episode airs.
I have the same feeling about Ashok' words too but like you said lets wait and watch before we make a comment😳
Despite all the irrationalities, there's one thing that I want to applaud the CVs for, that they attempted to bring to light the need of a sexual relationship between a married couple for what it is.
Exactly, I know we didnt really want to see Ishita being hurt so, but in a way the talk was needed and for a show on primetime to do that it is commendable, we see almost everything under the sun possible, even the impossible in our shows but mention the S word and they scram as if hounds from hell have been released on them, so its refreshing for a show to highlight the need of sex, the importance of it in a marriage and how it is detrimental to one if a couple doesnt really share intimacy despite being in love, because ultimately like Shagun said, love has to be expressed beyond words too and sex is a way for couples to bond and express that love. Its the expression of love that involves a person to share themselves in the entirety with another individual and if that isnt special I dont know what is, that is the only things that seperates a couple from the rest, we love our friends and family - we hug them and cry on their shoulders, yes there is kissing involved too...of the peck on the cheek and on the forehead kind there, but this is the relationship where there are virtually no barriers, nothing is off limits - you share with your partner what you can share with no one.
They also attempted to show a woman's insecurities in the physical department, where the actual word 'insecurity' was used (by Mihika). I don't think any show before YHM has portrayed the concept with this clarity at all, esp. in this time-slot. So a good job done there 👏 👏 Now if they just let Shagun justify her deeds with the evilness in her, it'd be much better.
You know that is what I loved about this track the most, they are highlighting a woman' need to be intimate too - her wish to feel desired and wanted by her husband, the man she is in love with. Yes, a woman wants respect and love and she wants someone who would stand tall in the face of things for her, recently Raman took the steps he did when his siblings, even his father insulted Ishita, yes he has done what every woman would want her husband to do in such an event, he has been the husband a woman would want to have and while all of that is true, it is also true that being a husband and wife goes beyond sharing responsibilities and defending and protecting each other - its also about making your partner feel good about themselves, its about having that someone who you can share yourself with not just on a mental and emotional level but a sexual one as well.
