toh..toh ..toh main jaaoon? *Bundled reply to posts p 31* - Page 5

Originally posted by: maaloo

Congrats again Gan... jst now saw that RSA has retweeted your collages of his. Wonderful.. they are so beautiful that it deserves such recognition. Congo shongo dah'ling..👏

Coming to the episode, but for the first scene when Adi was being dragged away, nothing connected with me. Brilliantly enacted and the pain was really heart-wrenching. Great job Gautam. The pain a child faces thanks to his parents separation was beautifully portrayed.. I cried with you.

Actually I felt a kind of deja-vu at the end of it all. Cant even bring myself to comment on Shagun's banshee screeching... and that must be a new low for me. 😕

I felt that there was such a total disconnect in the flow of the episode ..some bad editing to give more screen time for shagun, perhaps?

My comments are usually based on what I feel when I watch the show, may be anger towards a character or total gushing love towards one, or an intense reaction to a situation but today I, as a woman, feel sad, abused and disgraced..

Before I sign off, one last comment on the last scene and precap. I am with Ishita in this. It is very selfish to want to marry sareeka just to ensure that the lineage is continued, it is wrong on so many levels. When that girl asked for help, nobody spared a stone in thrashing her and everybody was eager to kick her out. Now that Romi has issues, they are out looking for her? And what if after the marriage she gives birth to a girl or even worse after marriage has a miscarriage then what? Will they kick her out? because these things do happen .. and all are part of the reality that is called life..

Raman is shown in the precap explaining to Ishita about why the need of the hour is to find sareeka 'cos of Romi's condition. Does that mean that Raman too thinks that a certain value is attached to a man or woman's ability to procreate? Does he really understand and accept Ishita's condition? Would he have married Ishita with her medical condition if he was also a childless divorcee?

Note to self: Chill Malu, repeat 1000000 times.. "dont get so attached to someone's figment of imagination.. it is written with TRPs in mind.. "

Sorry Gan, and everybody else on this thread for coming up with a totally negative take. I apologize.

I am so looking forward to reading the uplifting comments by my friends here in the thread.

Originally posted by: pomegranate

doesn't shagun love talking about class and status? then why was she screeching like a woman from the slums? disgusting and monstrous would be an understatement. Balaji truly succeeded in creating a shameless villain. I muted the entire scene because anita's high pitched voice was killing my ear drums. it strangely reminded me of the time when I was watching ekta kapoor's version of mahabharat, and anita was playing draupadi. her screeching during the cheerharan scene still pains my ears.

Originally posted by: paru_rox

<font color="#003399">I have some genuine kostins on today's episode/ current track. No snark just plain kos-pinting the CV's:

1. Can someone please slap some sense into Toshi ji. She's getting on my nerves. My BP is rising with all her ranting.

2. They are looking for Sarika now ??? Errr, what if she has a girl child. What then happens to the vansh?

3. Shags is a sophisticated elite woman? Yeah right !!! If the prerequisite for that is screeching at the top of your lungs like a gali ki aurat *ugghh*.

4. Were those expressions (good ones at that) I saw on Adi's face? Well then kiddo, why don't you teach some to your Momma?

Kostin of the Day:
What in the world is so effing important in Toshi ji's "vansh" that it has to be carried forward? Does it carry Alexander's genes? Are the Bhalla's blue blooded? Can we trace them back to the Mayflower families? What the f**k is it?

Pint of the Day:
First night and Minki already made it to the bed together. Can Bhai-Bhabhi be a little less daft & learn something from the newly weds.

PS -- What is that "Pita" song they keep playing. I honestly don't know how to react whenever they play it 😕</font>
I just hate Toshi. Its too much. Also no Raman Ishita. Now Rinky Mihir

Originally posted by: paru_rox

I have some genuine kostins on today's episode/ current track. No snark just plain kos-pinting the CV's:

1. Can someone please slap some sense into Toshi ji. She's getting on my nerves. My BP is rising with all her ranting.

2. They are looking for Sarika now ??? Errr, what if she has a girl child. What then happens to the vansh?

3. Shags is a sophisticated elite woman? Yeah right !!! If the prerequisite for that is screeching at the top of your lungs like a gali ki aurat *ugghh*.

4. Were those expressions (good ones at that) I saw on Adi's face? Well then kiddo, why don't you teach some to your Momma?

Kostin of the Day:
What in the world is so effing important in Toshi ji's "vansh" that it has to be carried forward? Does it carry Alexander's genes? Are the Bhalla's blue blooded? Can we trace them back to the Mayflower families? What the f**k is it?

Pint of the Day:
First night and Minki already made it to the bed together. Can Bhai-Bhabhi be a little less daft & learn something from the newly weds.

PS -- What is that "Pita" song they keep playing. I honestly don't know how to react whenever they play it 😕

Originally posted by: Veeann

I have only one question today- why was Raman silent when Shagun was screeching baanj at Ishita?

Originally posted by: krikumar.91

I enjoyed reading your take... One of my LU thread frnd, Ishani was intrigued by your question regarding Raman... I'll try to answer it here...

Your question:

Raman is shown in the precap explaining to Ishita about why the need of the hour is to find sareeka 'cos of Romi's condition. Does that mean that Raman too thinks that a certain value is attached to a man or woman's ability to procreate? Does he really understand and accept Ishita's condition? Would he have married Ishita with her medical condition if he was also a childless divorcee?

Its a hypothetical question in this situation. So, i am ready to face contradictions too... However, my answer for this question will be

Had Raman fallen in love with Ishu or had this complication entered after their marriage (see it as a normal marriage), he would have definitely accepted Ishita like that... He would have stood against his mother... RKB has that guts in him...

Here, the situation is different. He has one ailing mother, depressed brother and a biter divorce which is following him everywhere. In this situation, this man is becoming selfish yaar... As i quoted earlier, had he tried to convince Ishita to go for therapy, i would have called him a sadist... He's happy with her decision even when he knows that she has an option and in some corner of his heart, he wants it too... Its about his little bro not about him yaar...

Originally posted by: krikumar.91

I enjoyed reading your take... One of my LU thread frnd, Ishani was intrigued by your question regarding Raman... I'll try to answer it here...

Your question:

Raman is shown in the precap explaining to Ishita about why the need of the hour is to find sareeka 'cos of Romi's condition. Does that mean that Raman too thinks that a certain value is attached to a man or woman's ability to procreate? Does he really understand and accept Ishita's condition? Would he have married Ishita with her medical condition if he was also a childless divorcee?

Its a hypothetical question in this situation. So, i am ready to face contradictions too... However, my answer for this question will be

Had Raman fallen in love with Ishu or had this complication entered after their marriage (see it as a normal marriage), he would have definitely accepted Ishita like that... He would have stood against his mother... RKB has that guts in him...

Here, the situation is different. He has one ailing mother, depressed brother and a biter divorce which is following him everywhere. In this situation, this man is becoming selfish yaar... As i quoted earlier, had he tried to convince Ishita to go for therapy, i would have called him a sadist... He's happy with her decision even when he knows that she has an option and in some corner of his heart, he wants it too... Its about his little bro not about him yaar...

Originally posted by: -Payal-

First of all, I demand my bear hug. 🤗

Gan. I couldn't look at the first collage of your post yesterday for more than a brief moment...and then, I couldn't even read the entire post. The precap yesterday was very hard to watch, but the first two minutes of today's episode were gut-wrenching & heartbreaking.

You've captured all the essence and emotion of that brief exchange between a father and his son so beautifully in this collage today; your words mimic my thoughts...you know how I feel today...this collage says it all. THANK YOU.

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"He could not construct for the child's pleasure the world he'd lost without constructing the loss as well and he thought perhaps the child had known this better than he."

~ Cormac McCarthy

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Every single day that you are not with me,

I think about you.

I wonder what you are doing,

I hope that you are safe.
I pray that you are happy.

My love will follow you wherever you go,

Whether you want it to or not,

Forever and ever,

Because you will always be

My...Child.

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I'm going to try to make sense, but my feels are all over the place and my heart's not strong enough to witness this father-son duo's tears.

The first thing that came to mind when I saw the still of today's precap in your post yesterday was the look of sheer anger and hatred that Adi gave RKB during the Shagun marriage track when he was under the influence of Param and Ashok. Quite a juxtaposition.

[Your Nov 17th post - a moment brilliantly captured: https://www.indiaforums.com/forum/ye-hai-mohabbatein/4227391/adi-updated ]

Previously, in such situations where his mother has been humiliated, we've seen Aditya become very angry and confrontational. Today's Adi was mature. In the short time he's spent with the Bhalla parivaar, he's begun to learn that he's been misguided about his family all these years...that they're not so evil as his mother has always made them out to be. Previously we've seen Adi in a haste to remove his mother from such situations of public insult and humiliation...today, he was being dragged out, almost against his will.

Today, I saw a boy who has finally begun to understand his father's plight.

That one question today broke my heart. Not a question a child should have to ask...not one a parent, should ever have to answer.

I don't have kids, but My RKBs pain was tangible. I can't imagine what it must take for a parent to turn their back on their child.

What is sad is that they have come so far these past few months...they'd finally begun to build their relationship back from zero. What is reassuring however, is that the foundation is incredibly strong this time around. Adi has finally begun to understand Raman; he's finally seen and experienced his father's love. I'd like to think that Adi understands that Raman wasn't literally turning his back on him today.

I'd also like to entertain the idea that perhaps Raman turned his back to allow his son to make his own decision. Adi has always chosen his mother...perhaps Raman knew that today would be no different, that Adi would again, choose his mother over him...and perhaps, a father simply was not able to watch his son walk out of his life again.

When father and son turned back for one last glance at each other, the exchange that was made in that moment between the two was unbelievably poignant. A father's continued longing for his son...and at last, a son, longing for his father. That one gesture by Adi said it all. Perhaps soon, both father & son's hearts will be mended at last.

It is wonderful to see My RKB be proactive about filing for full custody of his son. Raman knows how much Adi loves his mother, and so has hesitated in seperating him from her...as he's said himself previously, Adi can't live without her. Today however, I think Adi's tearful, questioning eyes gave him the assurance and certainty he needed to finally realize maybe that's not the end all be all. Maybe, if given a chance, his son might choose him. The thought alone makes me smile...and hope for the beautiful future father and son have together.

Needless to say, I'm excited for the custody track. It's been a long time coming. I'm ready for both my boys to finally see an end to the heartache.

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Just a couple of notes:

1) I was sad to see RKB's reaction time to Shagun insults to Ishita be so late...the RKB I know would have intervened at the mention of the work "baanj", if not sooner...I guess they have to allow the sautan's to fight it out in the name of drama and masala tv. Sadly, they're doing it at the cost of My RKB.

2) Mihir and Rinki are cute...I'm looking forward to their relationship.

3) Too much OTT drama. I wish they'd tone it down a bit. Looking past the unnecessary drama and focusing on my Adi-Raman for now.

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Love,

P

PS: Sorry this is all over the place...and, congrats again on the RT 😳

PPS: Have to mention Gautam today. He's grown by leaps and bounds as an actor. He connected the audience with the heart and soul of a 12 year old boy today. Brilliantly portrayed emotion.