Question on unconditional love and parenting

I know tapasya has done a lot of things that are despicable. However, I find Jogi's current behaviour with tapasya to be very disturbing -- I really cant articulate why, because the rational part of me says he deserves to withold his love from her -- but the irrational part of me agrees with nani's assessment at the dinner party.

Being a mother to two lovely kids - aged 10 (boy) and 7 (girl) - I can at least say for myself... that my love for them is unconditional.

Good post tinoo, and very well said crisps21..👍🏼

For me it means never creating emotional distance with the child although make it clear that any misdeed will not be supported. Parents should admonish wrong things be firm with children even punish them but still be with them as guiding light and emotional support. In current story probably take Tapasya for psychological check up but dont disown her is my suggestion that will lead to increased bitterness.
All this being said even parents are human so it is easy to cut off from a child if her/his deeds are to distressing. Life does not always take the ideal course.

Originally posted by: crisps21

Being a mother to two lovely kids - aged 10 (boy) and 7 (girl) - I can at least say for myself... that my love for them is unconditional.

My mother (who passed away in 2008), used to say that all parents love ALL their children equally, without discrimination - BUT it's the children who make more or less space in the parents' hearts with their deeds and obedience and general behaviour.

For example, someone has 4 kids, and one of them stays in bad company and gets corrupted, the parents will STILL love him and maybe even forgive him if he comes back and asks for forgiveness, but the parents will have a soft corner, (which may look like 'more love' to the corrupted child) for the other 3 kids... I am the youngest of 4 siblings and the middle two siblings always used to think that me and my eldest brother are the 'favourites' of my mum and dad. I was closer to my dad and my eldest brother was closer to my mum... but WE knew that mum-dad loved all 4 of us equally, gave us equal opportunities, education and love...

Unconditional love DOES NOT mean to turn a blind eye towards the wrong-doings of your children.

If my son or daughter does something inappropriate, I take them in a corner, talk to them and explain to them that their behaviour is UNACCEPTABLE...

By no means, am I telling them that because of that behaviour I don't love them anymore!!

I guess, unconditional love means to love without having any 'expectations' from your kids... BUT if your children DO excel in some areas - be it education or be it their kindness and generosity, then you have EVERY right to feel more attached towards them and feel closer to them!!

It's a tricky discussion though... lol

i agree but some times even parents are responsible for their child miss deeds... coming to the story of taps i always ask myself when i see the show why dose jogi care more about iccha then his own daughter has he ever called taps make her sit and have a father daughter boundings a child neds to be shown that their parents care and love them more then any one else but here the story is different tappu is wrong as father and mother u need to make her sit and tell her that what should have been done while she was kid but it didnt and now tappu things her parents love iccha more then her which makes her dislike iccha more and more some times parents can have a huge hand in their child miss deeds.